Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 21

[Monty100]

Did anyone beat me to it??

Ok, have emailed him - will keep you posted if I hear back.

And SM, stick the phone in the fridge/under a cushion and run yourself a bath/have a glass of wine and try to chill a bit!

Kdk - what did you say??

Load of crap 'I'm hoping this is your email address. As you've probably guessed I'm not a full member of match.com so while I would have loved to see what you've got to say, I've not been able to read your messages - you could always forward them to this address if you want!

Anyway, you probably know me as quoideneuf ... but my real name is Katie - and like you I'm looking for someone initially to hang out with - with a view to seeing what develops ...

So, tell me a bit about yourself - what does a stonemason do these days - do you work in an artistic field (sculptor?) and what's with the band? And what part of London do you call home?

One point of disagreement though .... I love marmite! Still, supposing that's not a problem, it would be great to hear from you'

Go on, tell me it's crap!

Kdk - I thinks that's good, friendly and chatty. He sounds interesting. . Ooo wonder where he lives??

What do you reckon to this one - sending it to the guy SM contacted on my behalf

"Have to say I don't usually (okay, make that never) do this sort of thing but as I refuse to pay the subscription fees for match.com, and was interested and intrigued by your profile, I thought I would try a slightly unorthodox way of making contact.

As you may have guessed it's quoideneuf - known as Katie to my family! and my friend passed on your email address - thank goodness for cyberpals with dating site subscriptions eh? Sorry, it's taken me a while to get in touch - firstly been a bit busy, and secondly been screwing my courage to the sticking place - and it may come unstuck pretty soon!

So tell me a bit about yourself, are you an actor/director/producer? What sort of books do you read and what's your favourite way of spending a lazy Sunday?'

too forward? idiotic?

what do you think?

Kdk - don't bother with the bit about refusing to pay subs - just say 'as I'm not fully subscribed.'

I don't understand what 'screwing my courage to the sticking place' means.

Apart from that, lovely.

It's a bit arty-farty as he says he's in performing/creative field - it's a quote from Macbeth - mind you, it's Lady M just before they kill Duncan ... maybe not the best quote to use!

Hi all, KDK like the message! Id send it.

Ouick piece of dating advice from all you out there. I have a 2nd date tomorrow with my travelling friend who is back in the UK and we have found the only day this week we are both around.

So I suggested that he come up with something to surprise me and he has done that all right as we are going walking in the peaks tomorrow evening followed by a meal!

Now the thing is I know he is seriously fit and whilst I am prety active there are some really steep hills round here and I might stuggle to keep up.

So Ladies, how do I play this one and what do I wear, I guess it has to be jeans, proper outdoor trainers and some sort of windstopper but it doenst sound very glam does it?

Anyone got any tips?

pretend you've sprained your ankle and suggest taking a raincheck on the walk?

tell him that it is a bit too much of a surprise and suggest something else?

Trainers/cagoule/woolly jumper? Definitely waterproof mascara!

sorry can't be more help but hope it goes well and you have a great time - after all if you get on, doesn't really matter what you do.

Cheers KDK.

As I usually talk to him when I am up walking the dogs I guess he knows I walk a lot! Fortunately I do have some fairly stylish outdoor stuff - if that sort of thing exists? Although god knows where we will end up!! Will give it a go - try anything once

Kdk - you crack me up. Rofl .

Elasta - whyyyyyyyyy go walking?? lol

No idea!!! It did strike me as a bit unusual but he is a really outdoor type - a climber. Maybe he just wants to see if I can keep up??!!

Hi everyone!Been reading through all your chat for some time, thought I should say hello!
Im Claire, i'm 24, and have a dd whos 6. Ive been single for 4 looonnng years until I clicked a couple of months ago that the ex was a tosspot, to put it nicely, so why the hell was I pining over him?! So, I am currently making up for lost time, and have a couple of fellas on the go. Loving it!
Sorry to have rambled on, thought I best introduce myself

Elasta - Lol, go on then do your best. At least you won't be worry what dress/heels to wear. (No fleeces allowed, but I guess you already know that ). We'll be awaiting your report back.

Clara - hi there and welcome. Four years? Blimey. Good to hear you have a couple on the go now though.

Reckon its got to be black jeans and sexy low cut t shirt under pink short fitted windstopper jacket. Practical and just a little bit sexy - in an outdoor girl sort of way

kdk - so match man beat me to it then! clever of him to put his email addy in his msg, thats got to be a few plusses in his favour at least...have you had anything back from him yet?! (should add that although he looks good, he's not my type! guess given the lack of normal, single men in london at least we know we're not chasing the same ones )

scl - I love that dress, and am v peeved it is not in my size. i suspect this is fate telling me I need to go on a diet so how was the fancy dinner? did you meet any decent men?!

elasta - embroidering on kdk's suggestion, could you say your hayfever is playing up due to high pollen count so long walks are a no-no?! disclaimer- I am probably the least outdoorsy person you will ever meet! I once walked up Golden Cap (big hill in Dorset) with a man I was rather smitten with, and remember getting to the top all redfaced and sweaty, mascara and eyeliner running like anything, and thinking being the outdoor type really wasn't for me

hello to everyone else, (and welcome clarabella!) and thank you for all your hate vibes directed at the Ex....have just had a (very attractive but at least 10 years too young for me sadly) policeman round taking a statement re the Ex's 'activities'. He was rather cute . And he clearly thought the Ex was a tosser!

have to share this (to prove kdk is not the only one who gets the nutters....)

been winked at by man whose tag line reads - the caps are his - 'IF YOUR INTO MINE GAMES THAN JOG ON'

dont know whether to be more distressed by the bad spelling or the use of the phrase jog on...lol

Sounds like a good outfit choice for the walking, couldn't hack that myself, I don't do exercise!

I was on and off with the ex during those 4 years, whenever I thought of dating he would start telling me he still loved me, so I would cancel it, but things never changed.We finished 'officially' almost 4 years ago, but still kept coming back together up until about christmas time. It all nearly gave me a nervous breakdown, then it clicked he was a piece of sh*t, and I'm way too fab for him

Sounds like theres loads of hot dating going on at the minute, I love it! None of my friends are single, they're all getting married and having children, and it just feels like they don't get it at times. So I'm looking forward to chatting to all of you, it will be so nice to hear from people in similar situations.

kdk lady m is one of my literary heroines too, so nice to hear of a fellow devotee..can't wait to indoctrinate share with my brood!
you are v naughty tho as you posted at my hideously inconvenient school run time and for that i have to declare that you're a proper minx!
his resume sounds nice...but 'tactile' makes me think all sorts lol
clarabella hi and hop on board newbies always
welcome on here

Sponge - OMG I'm sitting here shoulders shaking laughing at MINE GAMES. Oh lordie. That is sooo funny. What coal, tin, DIAMONDS or the exploding type??

I love this thread.

Clara - you're in the right place. So, on here, when you're seeing someone or chatting to someone you have to give them a nickname. So we need nicknames.

ASBM - I haven't done the Jus tonight, pulled a curry out of the freezer, was soooooooo tired and had a nap, now I'm still up!

well I'm still up too monty, been watching the last episodes of Lost, now listening to music but must go to be soon!

sponge-Omg I think I'd be inclined to 'jog on' ha ha ha!

clara-welcome, as monty says we need nicknames for the blokes you are seeing??

Betty - well you can afford to be up

OMG - the 'jog on' bit. HILARIOUS.

Sponge, you don't think he's just a bit of a comedian do you, no seriously, he could be really funny and bright.

No?

Lol

monty its a shame really because on looks alone he's a fittie....until he writes (or probably speaks!)

and because I'm clearly on a roll, even though I really should be n bed now as have to be up in 6 hours, here's another one, which I find equally irritating but more in a 'you would be a total PITA' rather than 'you're not that bright' sort of way...

'Are you the woman of my dreams who will become my future best friend, lover, and partner? I am seeking someone I can fall asleep with at night who feels totally safe and secure wrapped in my arms and spoon. I want a woman who has dreams and goals of her own, yet can't wait to be back in my arms. I long for someone who stretches me and challenges me, and turns me on at ALL levels -- physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, is adventurous, and a hoot-and-half (fun!). I am seeking a gorgeous woman who takes care of her body, and doesn't mind putting on the bad girl image once in awhile to spark our relationship. If it is 'jaw dropping', raw romance and sensuality you seek, then you definitely have come to the right place. There is NOTHING I wouldn't do to continually impress the woman of my dreams...'

Sponge - go on, give him a whirl he has to be being funny surely????

As for the latest, awjeezus, we think we've heard it all and then you come up with a beauty like that.

Not that I'm actively looking, isn't it any wonder I'm not looking?

There's a thread about innocent words you hate, and I've just remembered I HATE that 'spoons' word. Makes me cringe.

I need to be awake in about 6 hours too, so I better log off. NN all. xx

omg sponge, lol what a tool he sounds

hi clara and welcome

kdk i like your email

for tactile, being my cynical self, i would read that as "cant keep my hands to myself, and wont wait for permission to touch"

god knows why i am still up, i havent felt good today (sore throat and aching), though did manage a fair few chores and cook dinner plus pudding

it may be because i have been ranting to dp about my exh (he has still not been in touch with the kids , despite him texting nearly two weeks ago to say he was going to call them a week ago last monday)

he is such a prick, i was telling dp that this time i refuse to contact him to remind him he has 4 kids here in case he had forgotten, even if the kids get upset, because i am sick and tired of enabling him to look like he makes effort with them when he doesnt

much as i dont like the idea of my kids being hurt when they realise this, i cant keep it up, and nor should i have to

i was also telling him that i dont understand how he (exh)can borrow money to bugger off to thailand for a month, yet he has never considered borrowing money to help out with them, or take them away somewhere for a few days

btw scl i liked that dress, i bet you looked great in it