Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 21

[Monty100]

Did anyone beat me to it??

betty - hope you are. hmm, what could you cook - anything you really like doing?

ref soldier - have agreed to see him again, phone/text is fab get on well. but well I dunno think the lack of physical spark and all, but shall meet him again - as I'm not keen on forming opinions right away unless there's a v good reason (ie nobber). been chatting to another tonight thou who's erm... treehugger, but don't think I shall bother as after about 10 or so emails he asked about cams and was impatient/persistent on them after i'd said no.

cams right away is a big red flag isn't it (just to double check)

belle-re cams i just say i havent got one, well tbh i didnt have one but have just bought one so dc's can talk to their dad on skype. So yeah if they are persistant about it then they can bugger off lol!

For me personally at the mo after being on a few dates with no spark, there has to be something there otherwise i just cant be bothered lol and well there must be with boilerman.

I havent even suggested I'll cook for him yet lol, prob more likely to order a takeaway! I did say to him tonight via text that he can come round one night tho so we'll see i have to feel fairly comfortable with someone before I invite them round!

Evening all.

Slightly off topic......OMG I am so dreading it if we wake up to a Tory Government on Friday .

Am panicking now.

Monty-Yeah me too, this year will be the first time I've voted and im 30 . Will be voting labour here!

true betty.

tbh monty - I usually go and vote but well. i'm no closer to deciding who to vote for than I was a few weeks ago! tink i'm going monster raving looney! (joke btw)

You lot should count yourselves lucky. I'm in northern ireland. Over here you're not voting for the same parties as everywhere else.

And "women shouldn't have the vote but since they do they should vote how their husbands tell them"

And then I remember why I'm separated

Knock - lol, left your manor many moons ago for that sort of reason .

Boyfriend - hope you don't think you're going on the pill or anything when we're married??

Me - Byeeeeeeeeeeeee ruuuuuuuuuuuns for the hills (of Hampshire) lol

He was a complete twat anyway, but he did keep me holy.

Monty - my xh tried to keep me holy. He failed.

ROFL

that was fun.

home about 25 mins ago. waited 3 hrs, to be told she was ok, which if course is fine and what i wanted to hear. ie she hasn't got an infected hip, its just inflamed.

still in pain, i am to go back NEXT WEEK for this xray, cos childrens clinic is once a week.

monty I am sooo dreading it too
kr that is hideous the do what husband says thing
here in rural mid england there's a whiff of inequality but largely unspoken and nothing like that
my first husband would have loved it over there, he was right there on the pill thing
what am i talking about he was my only husband
pc hope dd feels a bit better soon and you get a chance to rela too, dc health sooo stressful

pc - glad its not infected but totally get your frustration with hospitals, my eldest had health issues and it was a battle all the way.

ninah- was actually said in a room full of mixed company, ie there were other women there. To my shock they all sat around and nodded, agreeing. I think that is one of first times I knew it was so bad I would leave if that makes sense?

Maybe i'm just too opinionated lol

hi all,

glad dd has no infection pirate, and hope you are feeling ok eve

nothing to report here

i cant bear the thought of a tory government either

i had one of them at my front door the other day, so i collared him and asked exactly what they do for families in my situation

he didnt really have a lot to say, but did give me his card and told me to call round to see him after the election if i wanted to continue the discussion ( he was the local councillor and only lives 2 roads away it turns out)

then i sent him away telling him he was making me burn dinner by talking to him

pc - glad dd isn't infected. hopefully she wont be in too much uncomfort waiting on clinic

dc dad wouldn't dare tell me what i could do contraceptive wise. although he was pretty controlling. he knew that would be step too far. but he was insistent about the religion being excuse for him not using any.

but gosh.... scottish guys as far as i have met would never dare tell a scottish girl which contraceptives she could. i can just imagine how badly they would be shot down in flames if they dared to say that in public.

belle - pushing for cams is red flag. shouldn't be pushy about anything

lou - @ burning dinner.

oh... and betty - come on.. you have to cook for him really on first time to your house!!! or at least order takeaway but have some sort of dessert stashed you bought and decanted to your bowls made.

Well ladies I've been in and voted 1st time ever! and prob the first time I have ever been that bothered about who gets in tbh

Have promised to take dc's to cinema later if they tidy their room

Juice-Prob is with cooking for him if he comes round is it would prob be late, cos I'd have to wait till kids are in bed! But we'll see, maybe I will.

As for a bloke telling me what contraception to use! Not a chance!!

Morning everyone

Pirate hope dd is feeling better .

Knock -

Ninah - I've been trying to ingnore the election but now its here......

Lou - good for you sending the man in blue off.

Do you think at this stage of my life God would still listen to me???

Morning all,

pc - glad DD is okay.

Betty - when's he coming to yours? I'd go for a takeaway, but you know that I can't cook!

I feel like shite today. Woke up feeling faint and like I was going to throw up. Now got no energy and a banging headache. Thankfully DS is happy on wii. Hope its just a 24 hour thing, got a full weekend planned

Betty, go on then, what ya gonna cook??

I am going to vote this afternoon. Don't seem to have received a polling card but think it's OK to go as they have my name on the electoral roll.

I took today off after my treatment yesterday, feel a bit of a fraud as I'm feeling fine. Got a hacking cough after this chest infection but think it's all clearing up.

Glad your DD is OK pirate.

I'm going to ring my insurance today and see what I can claim for some of the damaged caused recently by you know who!!!!

Eve - glad you're feeling better. What did he do?

Eve - didn't realise he was that bad, poor you . Try and take it easy if you can.

saw thread promoted on relationships bit.

am new to dating and could do with some pointers

ive dipped my toe back into the dating game and have had 2 dates with a man. I really quite like him a lot and can see it going somewhere.
But i know he is still seeing other people, casually and his dating profile is still on a website.

My natural instinct is jealously and i want to have a go at him about this. But im aware we have only had two dates, nothing physical has happened bar a quick kiss and we have not talked about exclusivity at all.

He has asked me out for a third date and is very positive about me.

Am i right to be jealous, or should i be more cool. im thinking i shouldnt even mention it to him

It all just seemed a whole lot easier when i was younger, you met, you had a few snogs then you were going out. i dont know when all this dating thing changed so much.

advice on how to handle would be appreciated

A couple of things are damaged, but would be deemed 'accidental'. The main one should be an insurance claim but would be pushed to claim for the minor one.

Also something went missing from inside the house. The value of which is under my insurance excess so no point in claiming for this. Wish I had reported it now, obviously there was denial and I couldn't prove it. It's one of those things I leave lying around so no idea when I last had it or where.

Toomanydates, it's part and parcel of internet dating, I'm afraid. Different in a way to RL dating as the chances of meeting so many datable women at the pub are slim. I would try not to get jealous after all these guys are like kids in sweetie shops when faced with so many available women, very few will delete profiles after a couple of dates.

Just see what happens and play him at this own game unless you both fall hopelessly in love then you have a right to ask for exclusivity.

its very difficult though isnt it.

i found out by chance as im on his facbook ( which does not have many women on it)

One put a comment on his wall about being late yesterday, so i am assuming he was on a date with her.

It will be interesting to see what he does with the comment once he has seen it.

I think he will delete it. ( in fact im quite sure he will) if it was me and i posted a comment on his wall and he deleted it, id be mighty pissed off.

He has arranged a third date with me for next weekend.

I shall be indifferent and not mention anything.

By thats going to be bloody hard.