Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 21

[Monty100]

Did anyone beat me to it??

Honestly ladies, I'm not having you on, it was a good read, and I also met the author and her husband, he was very nice, if a bit old. He seemed to love her, what more can I say, she was a penny-less pauper when she met him, with a young child, I personnaly think she landed on her feet.

Grr just lost a big post

Think it said....thanks for all the birthday wishes ladies

Have had some sweet texts off boilerman today, and I dont really do sweet lol things seem to be going too well think he may be coming over tommorow, as well as me going over to his friday

Juice-Dont think I've hear you 'worry' about a bloke texting/calling you before

monty-glad you enjoyed your silly dance lol

pmg-glad you've sorted things out with your man

Hi, everyone else, wish it was wine o'clock here but dont even have any in the house (sulky face emotion)

just a quick stop from me till tomorrow as i'm knackered after the gym (oh the ogling/flirting it wears ya out! lol)

pgm - glad you've worked things out.

lush bubble bath is calling, soldiers sent a few texts today but have my insecure head on atm. bit issues in work, interview with the college next week, but ho hum.... GLEEE!!!!! so sad that i'm starting to like watching it!!!

complimentary, i just dont think the way to find someone is based on their bank balance , thats all

it is not ever a factor in who i date

dp is not wealthy by any means , but he would give me his last penny without a second thought, and he makes me very happy broke or not

ref the money thing - gymboy was a multimillionaire (default thou granted as it was inherited from his grandparents or at least his parents were & he had shares in the business) but you know what I was happier broke with the XP than being messed about by him. money doesn't = happiness.

dp and ds2 are both lying on my bed feeling poorly (i promise it isnt my cooking)

dp came to see us after work and has barely eaten, and in fact just spent the entire time on my bed resting

he told me he didnt feel well yesterday

ds is similarly inflicted

would agree with belle and lou re the money, money isnt everything!

thanks to all of you for the bday wishes from me too!

and happy birthday to you betty don't be thinking things are going too well with boilerman, just enjoy it! that was a sweet present btw - always a good sign if they buy something that has been mentioned previously rather than just generic chocs/flowers etc

pmg - glad things are sorted - does that mean we're not meeting for drinks now though? or shall we go to celebrate?!!

juice - any news?

quiet birthday here, got some presents from work colleagues which was nice, nothing from my children ...like father like sons HOWEVER the fab news is the Ex has gone!!! which is possibly the best birthday present i could have hoped for!

on the men front - had a first email on match from a (reasonably ok) guy saying did i fancy a chat?...now I 'read' that to mean a IM chat - so said yes. Next email he says heres my phone no,call me!

to be fair he did say he would call me back but am still a bit . have ignored since.

nothing from wedding man, as expected. Had about 6-7 winks worth returning (ie not from men in their 60s/looking for a visa/writing in txtspk!) last week - all then viewed my profile and disappeared without trace....!

off speed dating sometime next month...am thinking cant have any less luck than i do online!

and just to add - I dont want a rich man, would far rather have my own money and independence now where did put that euromillions ticket.........

complimentary .... how very shallow.

Betty - what is this concept you speak of erm 'no wine in the house'????? On your BIRTHDAY????

Jeeze.

I lost a post earlier too.

No, I don't look at bank balances either, as long as the person is responsible and hard working, that's fair enough to me.

Hi all

@ pmg - really happy you got things sorted - though was quite happy to shove up and make room on the shelf for you!

@ sm - got your message and muchos gracias - will send an email when I've got my dating head on - just trying to plan a lesson atm!

Hope everyone else is okay - and agree that being rich is not a basis for choosing a life partner - though quite happy to spend someone else's money given a chance! And I'm not too happy about the whole thing that the end result - and only desirable outcome - of dating is marriage - I may not always like being on my own but I have absolutely no intention of ever marrying again - not even sure that I would cohabit again.

complimentary if you wish to join and contribute positively then you're most welcome
but as founder of this long running thread i don't like your tone and neither do i appreciate your comments aimed at monty
so in a v. MN pc kind of way ASBM suggests that complimentary goes does one

well i just got grabbed by Lb on my fb, who told me he should have a new place to live by july as his exw has finally found a new house and the joint one is being sold, and would dp and myself like to go for dinner at his one evening , once he is settled

i said i didnt think dp would be keen really, though i would let him know

he isnt keen lol

nice to know we can still get along though eh?

what's your gut telling you here lou?

ASBM - great to see you

I'm not sure that complimentary is in the right place either.

Sponge - nice one! It'll be great for you getting him from under your feet.

I think complimentary might have better luck on sugardaddy.com

didn't wish to seem all matriarchal there but that sort of comment pisses me right off
and i hate cyber bullying
the thread was founded on mutual support and honesty not petty sniping, and ohh have we had some nobbers on here.
genuine newbies always welcome of course..others can close the cyber door on their way out....

Betty -

Lou - how's everyone? Feeling better?

ASBM - I hope you have a nice bottle of Chard or Rose, 'cos here's to you .

I misshed you.

morning ladies,

thanks for all your good wishes, it makes me really glad we have this thread to support each other

asbm, long tome no hear! hope is all well with you and nm?

juicy, thinking about you

kdk, love the idea of sharing your shelf , I'm, with you on never intending to get married again or live with another man. I prefer to give my attention to my dcs, they are still young and don't need the competition!. And I have already been married twice and frankly thrice would be a definite no no!

monty27, hope you are ok

hey sponge, happy belated birthday and what a fab present!

having money makes life easier, but it doesn't necessary make one happy, the ex and I had a very comfortable life but it was a sham , I would much rather be poor and happy.

pmg waves to everyone else, have a good day everyone

good morning

asbm, it would be a bit weird i think, i mean dp and myself with the last guy i was seeing all having dinner together?

dp as i thought, gave a "he must be having a laugh" kind of snort and said a firm no, lol

i could imagine there would be a huge amount of scope for misunderstood comments etc, in such a situation though, and i would be uncomfortable at the thought that dp could feel uncomfortable

they would actually probably get on really well , but i dont think its such a good idea on the whole, not at this moment in time anyway

dp says he feels slightly better today, reckons he sweated it all out last night, which must be what ds2 has, because he was exactly the same

i have kept him off school today, he didnt rouse until 8.30 anyway, and that was only because the puppy went into his room and sat on his head to lick him awake

I would NEVER want to live off a man's money. Would be great if I fell in love and he was set up as I am in a way, then we wouldn't struggle and money wouldn't be an issue.

How degrading to be seeking a wealthy man. Yuck, says it all about the oil tycoon being older, I mostly prefer a young firm torso!! lol

Better concentrate on work, catch up later.

glad that you've got things sorted..was going to have to send mont round to bang your heads together otherwise
lou er yeah..would have been kind of awkward lol
well lots of crappy stuff happening here with me atm but otherwise things with dp all fine..would you believe it but it's almost a year for us!
hope everyone else is ok-must have a proper catch-up and see what you're all up to!

Happy Belated Birthday to Betty and Sponge.

Glad your ex has finally gone.

PMG so pleased you managed to sort things out with your man.

Money and riches not of interest to me either. Would also hate to be dependent on a man. And without wishing to offend I flinch when people describe their OH as a good 'provider'. I know the sentiment is meant well but it just sounds so 1950's!!

Exbf(who I am still finding it very very hard to forget give me a slap) is son of a self made millionaire and when I first met him in 1990 was working in his father's business. Doesn't any more and has to find his own way, hasn't been on holiday for years. Good on his dad I say.

ASBM was thinking of you last night. Glad you are generally OK. Congrats on upcoming anniversary.

Juicy - any more contact/news with your ex.

KDK and others - I am not planning to marry or cohabit again either. Have done both (lived with ltr in my 20s) and both ended badly.

Monty - hope you feeling better - I was feeling quite meh last week mainly due to PMT but also a feeling that something has to change in my life re work/life balance. I find working ft more and more difficult.

Lou - not sure dinner with LB and P a good idea.

Just tried to post on your facebook - I am off with (mainly) hayfever (also heavy period)today. Need to beef up my medication i think.

Also had to suffer exh in the car for about an hour on Sun as gave him lift back from ds1s cricket match. He can't take him just came to watch - nice for ds1 but useless for me. He is so controlling and manipulative - tried to get me to drop him somewhere in the opposite direction then kept teling which route to take in the car. DS1 told him to stop as he (exh) doesn't drive.

Sorry to anyone I have missed - ooh belle swanky dinner is next tues

scl i wont be taking him up on his offer it's ok

Hi all

hope everyone is having a good day.

@ sponge - definitely think a celebratory drink is in order if only to raise several glasses/bottles/buckets to the fact that your x has f*cked off (hope he's left you some furniture though probably a small price to pay!)

I've just had one of those messages from some random idiot - wouldn't mind, but the guy claims to have a masters - and this is how he writes "...im a big man in evey way i have 6 kids i c them at weekends i would have a famley if who i meet wonted 1 so lets chat and c how it goes xx im old scholl in a lot of ways i be leave you treate a womon as thay should be tret im a man in need of a lover a best frend and some 1 hoo i can be with so if you like me and you would like a chat then please do drop me a line AND YES I DO HAVE THAT MENY KIDS SO IF THAT POUTES YOU OFF THEN PASS ME BYE AND GOOD LUCK 2 THOWS HOO DONT COME AND CHAT AND GET 2 NOW ME"

I am obviously sitting on hands trying to control the urge to run off to Gretna Green immediately! Please talk me out of it ...