where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone PT20

[Betty79]

Has no one beat me to it with a new thread yet?

oh i dunno i quite like the unshaven look myself

i feel totally fine today, cant believe it really, not needed any painkillers, hardly bleeding, i am just not allowed to drive (tho bf is fussing over me not letting me do hardly anything)

i did demand i cooked dinner last night , which was surprisingly bloody tasty considering i cant recall doing it

glad you feeling better lou

unshaven can be very sexy

trouble is... fit and interesting to one person... is not fit and interesting to another.

fit.... to me.. that means in good health and looks after themselves. dont mean they need to be running marathons... i dont mind a little squishy round edges rather than 6 pack. but not fat. i dont mind if they eat fastfood... but in moderation with a healthy diet.

fit.. also describes attractiveness. in this sense its the hair and teeth are a HUUUGE thing for me. they have to be well looked after. and i find confidence(not arrogance) a very attractive them. can turn an average looking bloke into one you want to jump the bones of.

interesting ... hold a conversation, has their own interests/hobbies.

and the eyes hmmmmmmmm

Trouble is (from my POV), is that the reverse problem exists for us single Dads (even us 'fit' and 'interesting' ones)? All the other single Mums I know all have FB's or EA's, or other complicated lifestyles!

sorry for not saying hi earlier dad2chchalk , what's fb's or ea's????

Hi Mrs M - FB: Fcuk Buddy (where do I get one of those from?), EA: Extramarital Affairs, i.e. they're a bit on the side....

probably because they can't find fit and/or interesting men to have relationship with ... and not quite sure what your point is ... maybe you need to be looking at single mums you don't know if that makes sense.

well i did ask.

MrsM - and you got the answer .

Dad2 - I'd hate to think you were generalising about women there, you might need to get out more broaden your horizons.

dad2 - i think you are perhaps hanging around with the wrong type of single women. regardless if they are a single mother or just a single person... anyone who is messing around with fb or ea aren't the type of person who is looking for a relationship.

i think these days.. women and men who dont want a casual relationship have to both be upfront and say

"i want relationship!"

it is true there is as many women these days searching for casual fun as there is men... so now men have discovered themself in situation women having dealing for decades...

it's no longer just women scared of men using them for sex...there's women using and treating men badly too.

dad2 - guess what... welcome to one of the major minefield issuing women have been dealing with for ALOT longer than men.

Monty you may very well be right, but I certainly wouldn't generalise!!!

it's interesting to hear a man's pov on this

how many times have we said (or maybe it was just me) that most single guys only seemed to view me as a single mum of 4 in her 40's as nothing more than short term or a fb or wanting me to be a bit on the side

sometimes a fb is all that people want , but eventually i think everyone starts to feel they want a bit more than that, it starts to feel a bit tawdry after a while

it took me long enough to find someone i wanted to see more than once or twice , who could hold my interest (and by that i mean more than sex), or someone i could see myself with on a long term basis, and i wasnt even expecting it, in fact i was quite comfortable with being single and not having a partner in the future (as i didnt want any more flings or friends with benefits situations)

but it doesnt mean i regret the encounters i had at all, it's all a learning curve isnt it?

Part 20..I remember when this was part 1...I think

Juicy how is the revision going? Hope you've managed to get some stuff done.

Hi dad2 amd mrsm hadon't remember seeing you here before so hi from me.

Well, I had had my cheerful plodding well and truly booted off track at the mo. I was seeing someone and just found out y'day that I was being cheated on the whole time.

He's been well and truly kicked to the kerb with a few choice words. I'm ok but feeling somewhat sorry for myself, so if anyone has any sympathy spare I'll take what's on offer (cheeky I know).

Off to scan thread for a quick catch up.

lou - you have a point there aswell.

i would say there is certain guys i meet who simply aren't long-term matierial. they may be fit and interesting... but truth is they aren't reliable or trustworthy enough to be more than fb.

i heard a great phrase from someone other day, he was talking about the difference between a fb and a long - term partner .. he said

"i know which one gives me the better thrill.. but its not the one i would trust with my bank account and my dc"

dad2 - perhaps it is YOU giving out the wrong impression that makes women say they only want fb or ea relationship.

janos - suply an address. we'll post him some stinkiy kippers

but seriously... wanker

would you like a large dirty boot to kick him in shine next time you pass

Lol thanks Juicy. I'll take the big boot .

I think your mate is spot on about the difference between a long termer and an fb, btw!

janos - sending sympathy and digging out winter boots as we speak ... think I have old pair of size 7 dms in attic

remember his loss not yours, the lying little toerag.

Aw thanks you lot.

Apols for terrible typing, not much sleep last night..was too angry tho I've calmed down now...found all this out about 10pm.

Janos - Give him a boot from me. What a twunt.

Got to go catch up later. grr

Hope your ok.

Dad2 - what are you looking for???

Ha. The boots are well and truly primed now...

Lou - I didn't realise you had gone in for op already but glad it went well and you're ok.

Juicy didn't realise you were thinking of buying - are looking at somewhere round where you are now?

God sorry Janos, how horrible
how did you find out or would you rather not discuss
I'm feeling after the monster ex's all of us on here need a bit of good luck not another lying cheating sob
loving juicy's mate's definition
glad you are OK lou
and sm1 if you have run out of clothes you know what you have to do ...
I had the most weird dream last night, was about ex and going back to visit hoping not to catch him with ow etc
and I had two kind of lumps on my face i'd got used to but decided to sort of pull one and it felt a bit weird but it came right off and I looked loads better, bit like Nanny McPhee
what do you reckon? I've had a great day at work and feel a lot better generally, too
was like dream surgery
(dances off waving bong and wind chimes)

monty stop flirting

Well nina..

He went round to hers. I had sent an affectionate text message. She grabbed his phone and sent a message saying 'Hi, am at Y's now and have been when not with u'.

Pretty horrible way to find out really

at dream surgery by the way.

Funnily enough, think I knew something was going on but wasn't able to admit it as I had two dreams where he told me he was cheating.

Hi all,

Ninah, no what do I need to do if i've run out of clothes? Go shopping (I've got no money!) or go naked?!! Mm that could be interesting

Juice - wow, sounds hard, but will be worthwhile in the end. Good luck for Friday. So any computer/money issues we need to speak to you