where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone PT20

[Betty79]

Has no one beat me to it with a new thread yet?

blimey

it's all sooo hard this dating online stuff.

actions, reactions, the lack of, the pressumed and assumed.

defensiveness, pushiness v honesty.

I think, at the end of the day, it's minefield.

i shall called online winking guy, 'music', as he is really creative.

i wouldnt over think it too much pirate, just do what you feels right and dont worry about the other person or what they may feel/react/behave

afternoon all.

lou - ah thats nice to hear of lb.

pc - RL is just as confusing when dating.

mrsmarket - nickname for your zoosk winker?

kdk - is the date friday?

well. motorola got dumped over phone late last night when i was trying to study and he wouldn't quit bloody text. have agreed we shall meet up as he is insisting i get my stuff back. which i now just want to forget about. it's going to turn into a big hoo ha of awkwardnes.uuurgh.

my RL friends think i am nuts if i dont see forces again.when i said he's offered to fund me going to germany to hear him out they have informed me that surely that should prove to some extent he's keen. they're train of thinking is a bloke wouldn't normally do that if they were just messing around.

my date in fri has been cancelled...one of wedding man's DC is poorly.

which does explain why I havent heard from him.

Am so cynical tho part of me did think was that just an excuse to get out of it.

sometimes think i am not a very nice person

juice can you not tell motorola to just leave it outside yours if there is a safe place, or vice versa, so you dont have to deal with him?

shame about the date being cancelled, sponge, do you want to rearrange it?

lou, was just getting it out there, i am not too cunfuddled at the moment about anything.

juice, real life dating, whats that then!!!!

agree that 'stuff' can be left in safe place?

dd hip clicke dback, as she calls it.does thismean i actually will get some me time 2morr for the first time in 7 days!!!!!

i'd happily just not get the stuff. its more the chat he wants. bloming noorah.. only going out a few weeks. you would think it had been a long term relationship requiring i big convo and closure , etc the way he is insisting.

sponge - does your intuition think he was using as excuse?

pc - RL dating.. met them in RL rather than through website.

i'm and ... after forking out for my ticket and getting my costume.. the girl supposed to be going to noir has pulled out . the others that normally either out of country or cant get time off work. so looks like after all this effort i wont be able to go..

hey.. janos.. unless you fancy our first scottish thread meet-up being a night out in glasgow at end of may?? lol.

Don'ttouch - I hope you get your stuff back.

Update on my situation - aaarrrgggghhhh Was supposed to be going out on sunday night with Mr McFuckable (well that's what we used to call him 20 years ago lol), girls had asked could they stay at mine on sunday night coz they were off on monday, xh said no, so I organised to go out. Anyway, then xh txts and says "girls want to come to yours i'll drop them down in half an hour"

I texted back and said "that doesn't suit. You said they couldn't come so I have organised accordingly and am going out"

xh then texted "well DD wants to come to yours and she's crying"

so of course, I caved and didn't go out.

Pissed off with myself

Can't even organise for this week with Mr McFuckable coz I have kids all week and all this weekend, even though xh was supposed to have them but he can't because of the election and they're off school and he has to sit on the computer work that day so can't keep them.

knock - .. does this happen often? exh bring dc back because of some tears? is it becuase she has disagreed with exh? or missing? tbh... i know you dont want her upset. but you need your time to yourself aswell for your sanity sake.

mrsmarket - btw... major red flag that he replied within 10 mins(i.e not giving you chance to reply).. with that response.

what has he been doing? checking to see exactly when you read and see if you reply?.. what if you had been at work and intended to reply later? signals warning bells to be he's high maintenance or emotionally high strung.

run like the wind. lol

juicy be kind and tell motorola, I know it's difficult but he does sound v smitten and 'closure' would help him move on (and maybe avoid making the same mistakes with someone else)

agree on biker guy ... run

Agree on biker guy

As to situation with xh, she wanted to come to mine so she could have a lie in coz he doesn't let them (they have animals, I used to do them, now he makes them do them, DD's are 11 and 8)

TBH I think its more a checking up on me thing and a way of keeping control - exactly like the way he has a excuse reason to call down here every weekend I haven't the girls on the saturday morning early - like this week was I need a particular sports bag, txts and says I'll be there in 2 minutes, at 9am.

I think he's keeping an eye on me to see if I have another bloke here iyswim. It is very irritating.

ninah - i have told him i dont find i have the time to give him the attention he wants or needs. told him perhaps he would be better matched to someone who doesn't have dc or such a hectic lifestyle as mine, as i am constantly feeling under pressure to see him, which is too much to bear ontop of my studying and family commitments. and pointed out since seeing him i had only managed to see my friends once as i feel i need to spend any dc free time with him.. and that this was putting added pressure on me as friends were getting upset i hadn't seen them.

what do you think? i'm sure this was quite gentle?well its quite gentle for me. and i have been known to suffer BFS of my own. so i did very well to finish it properly

but yes.. i will meet once. somewhere neutral. have a brief chat. closure.

knock - i think you should say the child should stay at exh... afterall.. him making them get up to feed the snimals is a lesson they should learn. with pets come responsibilities.... well.. thats excuse you should use so he has them a bit longer on sunday so you get a lie in and some "me" time

juice i think you have been clear enough

knock, i wouldnt even bother answering the door to him , and would let him know that if he wanted something then he had to ask you when it was convenient to come round, not tell you

my exh has fucked off to thailand again today, did i mention that?

juice i knew what you meant, i would if i could find a rl one!

yes tell him that just like he says with pets come responsibility, so does having kids, and he being an adult can deal with a few tears

lou - maybe he should hook up with mine. lol. he's still out there.

i am hoping mine wont come back, he is as useful as a chocolate teapot here anyway

but funny how he can get hold of enough money to make it to thailand, yet not 6 fucking miles to see his kids

oh well, with luck the red shirts may get him in the riots

i know i should feel bad for saying that but i dont

Lou I like that... I think I will use that one lol

Pets in question though are ponies and pigs, not exactly easy for a tiny 8 year old to muck out and feed on her own. She can barely handle the wheelbarrow.

Did tell him that he had to stop telling me what he was going to do, that he could ask and I would tell him if it was convenient. He rolled his eyes and drove off.

yes that is clear enough juicy
he just can't help himself, can he? he is so smitten he is just not hearing you
or kids himself that under a busy facade you are really pining for his phone calls
you know the stories you tell yourself when you're into someone who's just not that into you back ...
fair enough, brief recap, get your stuff and arrivederci
I wonder if it will finally sink in ...
and yes see forces - why not?
is irish still around?

Mrs M - it was me with the stocking bloke - the RAF bloke. He's text me lots last night and today throwing in the odd stocking comment in a joking way. I'm

knockraven I suggest you stick to set times/dates and screen your calls when he has them in future
if he can't get in touch he will have to stick to what has been agreed and just damned well cope
I think it's a control thing actually