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where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone PT20

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Betty79 · 18/04/2010 18:08

Has no one beat me to it with a new thread yet?

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ninah · 20/04/2010 17:44

Naked Chef lol

SingleMum01 · 20/04/2010 18:02

lol - you know I'm not a chef!!

dad2chchalk · 20/04/2010 19:57

@Monty 27 - well I don't want a new 'mum' for my son, and I'm not looking to rush into anything deadly serious. I've been on Dating Sites and you can pretty much split the people there into two categories (men AND women) - Looking for a FB or looking for a spouse! I would love something in between: someone to share things with (good and bad), to be a best friend to, a lover, a soul mate, and a drinking buddy. I'm asking a lot aren't I?

kdk · 20/04/2010 20:23

Not necessarily - probably just depends what criteria you're using to filter potential partners - and what sites you're on possibly ... be honest with yourself and decide what features are important for you ie intelligence, desire to have children or not, location, looks etc and take it from there.

If you want, we can have a look at your profile/pic and let you have an opinion - hasten to add, several of us have done the same - sometimes it's useful to have an objective-ish opinion ...

dad2chchalk · 20/04/2010 20:43

Erm OK! Well I think there's a photo on my profile thingie now - have a look and at least let me know it's there. And objective comments only please!!

kdk · 20/04/2010 21:12

Well, you're certainly not a minging git - that was a joke btw - but that's not the be all and end all - unless you want to be just someone's fb!

Monty100 · 20/04/2010 22:02

dad2 - what was your phone number? Erm no, certainly not a minging git . Well, as Kdk says perhaps change your filters. Have you expressed on your profile what it is you are looking for?

(Ninah - ).

kdk · 20/04/2010 22:25

monty - I saw him first!

dad2 - seriously, have a read through your profile and think about what message you're giving off - try and look at it as if you were a woman reading it - or get a friend to have a look for you ...

lou33 · 20/04/2010 23:18

i do agree that a lot of men and women are looking for those extremes, even if their profiles say otherwise, but there are also people on sites who are wanting a middle ground and actually quite nice

i am still friends with some i dated, we werent right for each other but they are nice guys

i found the best way to avoid the wrong type was to put what i didnt want, rather than to go with the what a nice and great person i was and sell myself as it were

you look like a nice guy from your pic but a picture doesnt say anything more than the moment it was taken

ninah · 20/04/2010 23:32

a very VERY nice guy
dad2c take heart I am sure you will not be on this thread long
Just curious, when you say men as well as women, what made you decide to check out men's requirements?

ninah · 20/04/2010 23:44

janos just seen your message
what an unpleasant woman
really sorry to hear that, having that vague feeling that something is wrong doesn't prepare you for the shock of actually finding out
but as we all know, single is better than with a cheat
I had lots of dreams about this kind of stuff after ex's ow's dh rang me with similar
it's not something you can face thinking about in the cold light of day is it
but more fia's seem to be emerging by the minute
just think how many have been unearthed since thread started - ok it took 20 threads but still

dad2chchalk · 21/04/2010 09:27

@monty27 - Well that's hardly fair, how come I can't see you!?!

dad2chchalk · 21/04/2010 09:32

@ninah - I have a female friend who is going through the exact same thing, in reverse, if that makes sense...

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 21/04/2010 09:52

dad2 - see... here's the problem.. if you say to someone you ont want a fb or looking for a spouse... it implies to the lady in question that you like them to be mrs right now... and not mrs right.... basically you are telling them outright that you DEF ARE NOT going to be around long term.. your only going to waste a few of their years where this lady could be out looking for someone who thinks she's mrs right and willing to commit.
understandably not everyone wants to be married again... but the good , faithful women aren't going to settle for someone who is just using us to waste some time always looking over his shoulder. we want the fella who is willing to considerbeing with us, live with us one day, some (but not all) like the idea of being married too.

this is exactly why women are only interested in fb when you approach them with that idea.

no one wants to be involved with a commitment phobic.

ninah - rofl at taking 20 threads. but yes as janos shows there has been a fair few messing us around too haven't there

sm - most of the women on this thread are in the financial sector.... the saying about people in that department being boring have certainly been wrong.

and if you run out of clothes just greet him at your door in ur best saucy underwear

betty - how you doing with the weight of that crown?whats happening with you datewise.

ninah - i took his 2 categories thing to be a joke, not that dad2 was looking at men...

makes me think? do any of you lot look at other women?.. got to admit this is something i have NEVER done? it's a bit like going to a pub and checking out all other people of same sex to see how you compare isn't it? or is it just a nosiness thing?

well... as for me. my lovely neighbour next door has offered to take my kids pretty much all of next 2 days so i can revise like crazy.

motorola - he's really nice. very easy to eye..... but.... there's still the odd time i really just want to poke him in the eye he anoys me with odd thing. but i am smiling sweetly and keeping my trap shut.

still not smoking (see above eye poking comment)

contemplating a major bender with irish after my exam ... he's off all week before starts his new job! tell me not to girls.!! and i've been a complete angel staying in studying for this exam.

forces is still trying to get in my good books .. trying to get me to agree to go to zoo with him next time he's here ... i know i should say no... but i really do like the zoo .. and not been in ages.

dad2 - oh btw, def not a minger... i see there's a fit thread queue forming for a gander at you dating site profile

oh and who was it wanted to go snowboarding in bulgaria with me where it's supposed to be cheap but good facilities?.. i think it was passmyglass.. who has her email. i am thinking about booking up. even if cant get any of the girls i was going to just go myself... if she still fancies it(or anyone else).. how about we organise it and do it sometime before next spring if we can match up dates to meet over there and have some company to do it?

Monty100 · 21/04/2010 10:17

Dad2 - I'm very shy. They'll all tell you on here.

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 21/04/2010 10:30

monty - i nearly choked on an orange reading that

dad2chchalk · 21/04/2010 10:32

Choked on an Orange like Michael Hutchence did?

oneorboth · 21/04/2010 10:47

can i join you ladies? am back in the world of dating again. made a few mistakes along the way and could really use your advice.

i have a terrible habit of going for the bad boy bastard type. and am trying to rectify this.

Am on a dating site. guy one seems nice, though he sends lots and lots of messages. he has my mobile number from last year when i was on there and texts me lots a day. sometimes i reply. sometimes not.i find it a bit much. but i dont know if its because i have poor judgement and should give him a chance and be pleased he is interested in me. Also he seems very pesamistic.. hes always moaning or something is wrong and he calls me hun. and i hate that.

guy two seems really nice. we have sent a few messages. hes given me his number and i text and he replied a few hours later. i have not replied as yet. i do like him and we seem to have a lot in common though he has not asked me out yet.

what do i do?

passmyglassplease · 21/04/2010 10:51

hey juice great idea about snowboarding next year, I might just be ready for it then, have now not been for 2 years

send me a message on face book and we can arrange things from there.

I loved Michael Hutchence, was so sad when he popped his cloggs

oneorboth · 21/04/2010 10:55

oh and guy one keeps hastling me to come to this event thing with me which is next weekend. even though he has not met me. no way would i take him as my date. and if i dont reply to him he texts ' what have i done wrong' or ' sorry to upset you' which annoys me.

in fact he just annoys me. but my nice man radar is so out i dont know.

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 21/04/2010 11:03

oneorboth - few of us suffer the bad boy attraction.... its not the easiest thing to fix. takes a bit of effort i have to admit.

as for your fellas - i'd say perhaps go on date with first just so you know. but i have a feeling you wont be bowled over. but you never know. it's all about getting out there and meeting someone for a coffee and finding out about them... just meeting someone new for a chat.. your not looking to meet love of your life on first date...got to admit though.. the pessimism would put me right off and not bother going. moaning folk are pita.

guy 2 - if you want to reply , just do it. i cant stand games and arsing about to reply.. but some of others on here play by different rules. tbh... as yet.. i still cant see a pattern of either working better. seems to get same result in end. up to you which you choose to do.

pass - oooh fab. i'll email you and see what we can sort. anyone else fancying it send me or pmg an email/fb

oneorboth · 21/04/2010 12:05

i find the pesamisticness a right turn off. espcially moaning the whole time to someone who you havent even met! the whole woe is me, im so hard done by thing is not nice and im not liking the constant texting/messages and it just feels really needy. god knows what he would be like when we have met.
and he just constantly says ' your amazing' 'your beautiful' etc... etc... and i find it a bit full on and dont like it really.
my alarm bells are ringing, but then i do have terrible taste in men so i dont know if its beacause of that, or beacuse this guy is an nutter

have texted guy 2. seeing as we have now swapped numbers, is it likely he will ask me out do you think? what sort of timescale?
i like him.

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 21/04/2010 12:15

oneor - pessimistic guy doesn't even sound like he would be a fun date.if your alarm bells are ringing then trust them. dont meet him.

guy 2 - em.. can be anything from a few texts to a few weeks. good chance he will ask you out if swapped numbers and he likes your chat

good luck.

but remmebr as one of our lovely ladies said many threads ago... act like the buyer.. not the seller.

is also about whether or not you WANT to go on a date with guy 2. you may find after a few texts he doesn't float your boat and you dont ant to meet him

oneorboth · 21/04/2010 12:17

i find the pesamisticness a right turn off. espcially moaning the whole time to someone who you havent even met! the whole woe is me, im so hard done by thing is not nice and im not liking the constant texting/messages and it just feels really needy. god knows what he would be like when we have met.
and he just constantly says ' your amazing' 'your beautiful' etc... etc... and i find it a bit full on and dont like it really.
my alarm bells are ringing, but then i do have terrible taste in men so i dont know if its beacause of that, or beacuse this guy is an nutter

have texted guy 2. seeing as we have now swapped numbers, is it likely he will ask me out do you think? what sort of timescale?
i like him.

oneorboth · 21/04/2010 13:26

ooohh. hes texted back. something witty and then asked how my day was.

thats good isnt it?

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