where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone PT20

[Betty79]

Has no one beat me to it with a new thread yet?

Ninah - Thank you - I know its a control thing but he pushes my buttons and he knows that as soon as he mentions the kids I'll cave.

BTW the 8 year old is tiny, wearing age 4 clothes

knock - i grew up on a farm. mucked horses out from 5yo.

she should definately be helping filling the fed pails, hay , etc. and more than capable of mucking out. they do lightweight shovels specifically for kids. and you can get plastic framed wheelbarrows which are lighter. and she can def put down the fresh bedding.

we had pigs too. we used to feed them and muck them out. we had a slat system though.(so mucking just consisted of giving fresh sawdust every once and while)

did you know... pigs are the only animals of the farm and domestic who dont shit where they sleep!!...

useless fact for the day.

if they are set up correctly you dont actually have to muck them. they will do their business on a slatted system. where their deposits go down slats into a slurry pit system.

Don'ttouch - yeah, I know, the pigs are very clean, but they are just in a converted stable. And yes, they have all the kiddy sized kit. But my issue is that he lies in his bed if he has them and two wee girls get up, get their own breakfast, and do all the animals - while he lies in his pit!!!

He just irritates me lol I suppose that is why we split lmao

sm - he's probably just doing the stocking thing now as he knows its making you ... i'd give someone a ribbing about someone if it was done in a funny way. but is he being funny? or getting annoying?

nianh - can you imagine if i kept seeing him. i get the impression he's one of these guys when you were in a long-term relationship and desperate to fix it before giving in he would just close off and not discuss anything iykiwm.

irish, yes, as always. alcohol problems aren't getting any better. infact. possibly even worse.

knock - thats dangerous though him being in bed. we weren't supervised as such. but always someone wandering around doing the adult work iykwim.

are the pigs male/female? breeding? are the mixed? need to be careful. pigs can give a nasty bite if they are mixed wrongly.

lots of accidents can happen

accidental standing on pitch forks for cleaning out stable (trip to a&e)
standing on a pallet and a weak point of wood breaks off and stabs you foot (trip to a&e)
horses stand on feet and break toes (trip to a&e)
pigs bite chuck out of leg(my mum ended up in a&e this one was hers)

i remember my sister holding one of the horses ropes. horse got spooked. yanked my little sister shoulder out of the socket. i ran round on her scream. but she wouldn't move to go get one of the adults. and she wouldn't let me leave her side to go get help. one of farm hands had held her scream though and carried her to car and to a&e.

now imagine this scenario if just me and sister. and parent in bed. how long would have been wasted in me deciding if i should stay with my sister screaming in pain.. or go get an adult?... i suppose this incident sticks with me as i remember it was a bloody hard choice that luckily i didn't have to make as farm hand came along.

please. try get him to be awake when dc are doing the chores with animals.

Juice - I think he's doing it as a flirty thing, he's being quite flirty on the texts which I'm not opposed to - complete opposite to older bloke! Am I being unreasonable to be a bit p'd off that he's on pof online now! I know I probably am, we've only met once! and he's on the RAF camp with nothing to do.

juice - sounds like you've been really clear- but in a nice way - with motorola. hope you get your stuff back without too much fuss!

re wedding man, my intuition (such as it is) says its an excuse. I will wait to be proved wrong. In the meantime, work guy (the one who was scared of getting involved ) is at my office tomorrow...so hopefully that will be a bit of a diversion if nothing else.

knock- I have no real experience with animals, but agree with juice, your Ex should be there keeping an eye on your DC while they're mucking out etc, however I also know how hard it is to get Ex's to act responsibly...certainly in the case of mine!

sm - yes.. you are being unreasonable. you have only had 1 date. you aren't exclusive. there's no reason why he cant be online chatting. he may well be just chatting afterall.

if you were to get to the exclusive stage. you are entitled to be annoyed then.

but... he's possibly still going on dates and chatting to other people.

but you just dont know. but what you do have to do is stop checking.

but be sure if you fancy dates with other people and want to keep chatting online then you should do.

sorry didn't mean that to sound harsh saying you were being unreasonalbe .

Juice - thanks, no problem

I know I'm being unreasonable

donttouch - my point exactly i was always around and about iykwim, they had to do a lot of the work but i was there, and one of the pigs is due to have piglets (although to be fair she is very soft as was runt and hand reared but still)

knock - we got all our pigs as piglets. whether bought from market as soon as off the mother and reared them to sell for meat. or one of the ones we bred ourselves. and we used to be so friendly with them we used to ride around on the largest of the fully grown ones.

is this her first litter?

Lol sounds like 'Farming World' on here .

Juice - your childhood sounds amazing. Was brought up quite close to farms and spent a lot of time on them messing around. We used to collect eggs for the farmer's wife near us and we'd play in the hay bales lol.

knock - my exh pulls stunts like that - ie trying to get them back early from the limited time he sees them and also used to constantly ring me while he had them with tales of their behaviour!!

It's all a form of control. he doesn';t do the latter so much any more after I put him straight but does still offload them to suit himself and new p's committments/routine.

Oh and he was meant to be in Thailand next week for work perhaps they will all end up in the same bar in Bangkok and exchange notes LOL

When we were still married and he was there I could never reach him at night /early hours of the morning (Thai time) and he once said it was the only country he got respect (puke emoticon) yeah right nothing to do with the women looking for a 'rich' farang to take them away from poverty.

yeah its her first litter and dd used to ride on her back as well lol

farm central on here

.. puts on green wellies and whistles for sheepdog ...
juicy yes I agree, a man that does not listen to what you are saying in what's supposed to be the 'honeymoon' stage ...
couple of years down the line
motorola and juicy over breakfast
m - blah blah blah job stuff
j - it's my birthday today and I'm going skinny dipping with irish, forces and ninah
m blah blah blah job stuff
shame about old irish though. I worry around men who drink a lot, been there with an old husband - plus I tend to drink more round them also which is a no no

Ninah - lmao

Juice - have you got your stuff back?

monty - there was twice as much work as there was fun. everyone else came home from school and did homework then play. we came home did farm work before it was dark, then homework and bed.

farm work 7 days a week
365 days a year.

take day off? then who feeds animals?

but... how many kids got to spend 5 hours in summer days pissing off around backroads and hilly areas on horses whenever they fancied it (once your work was done of course)

motorola is texting again

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!

From ready steady cook to the archers via a bit of Gok Wan

tell him the old grey mare has colic and you have to walk her all night?
seriously - but noooo - what did he say??

Ninah - and the odd bit of 'Cash in the Attic' lol

ooh yes forgot that one
c'mon juicy what did he say
is he begging for a stay of execution?

cross posts

knock - be very careful when she's a day before she drops them she will get cranky. also..some of them really (and i mean really) dont like you touching the piglets when they are suckling.

and watch she doesn't go for the piglets. some hurt the piglets if her teats are sore as they think the piglets are biting/hurting them if its her first litter if she gets mastitius or over gorged teats.

ninah - .. irish has just been in contact to share with me his first day in new job and how it went...yeah. tis a shame he's got alcohol issues and spent friday till the monday afternoon before that new job being wasted. and by that i mean he wasn't sober AT ALL from fri-mon.

irish wouldn't skinny dip. he'd be sitting in the poolside bar ordeing cocktails

forces would skinny dip. he's not scared of anything except commitment

ninah- motorola is asking for if he can do anything at all to be given another chance or we can "work it out"

oh god how awful
you have made your mind up haven't you though? just stay firm if you have juicy, kinder in the long run