hi all,
been lurking but not posting. trying to catch up with studying. got exams coming up soon.
ninah - your other mums sound lovely
cake and pc - being single now is a whole different minefield with blooming msn/text/email... but it's basically the same of the days when there was just plain simple phone calls. if they are keen they will make the effort to contact once a day.without being prompted. best thing to do though is when you start talking to someone through the sites.. try and avoid msn/fb chat. email nsite. then switch to giving them your number. then there is only the option of text or call.
but the important thing ladies.. is to thoroughly enjoy your dating experiences.. it's great to see betty is going on a few dates before she decides on 1 of her fellas to take to the next level and see regular. if any..
in the time of this thread. i've been known to go on more than one "date" on same day. date can just be a coffee, or lead to more. when you only have limited time free it's best to be able to go ad hoc.
i've also been known to go for a coffee and not part company till kids are due back from their dads .. and that was with someone i had very little contact with. we just had been sending the odd text maybe once a week... no intentions of meeting anytime soon. then i found myself randommly free one wkd kids were with their dad and on off chance i asked if he was free.
the reason this worked i think was mostly down to us not having any misconception or pre-conceived ideas of what each other would be like.
what i'm trying to point out id you are single ladies. enjoy this time. enjoy spending time going for dates with different men. even coffee or lunch... not with the idea of looking for a long lasting relationship... but for some adult company. to have some fresh conversations with someone you may or may not fancy the pants off. the only thing important is from their emails or text/calls you have before hand you can have a good stab at judging if you would get a great convo.
and if someone seems so-so and your in 2 minds if you will fancy them or not from their pics... but you find them interesting.
just go on that coffee date.
for the oppotunity to ask questions about someone.
other people have led a different life from you
it always fascinates me hearing about what other people have done with their time on this earth.
use this time in your life when you are single to discover different people. with different views.
and one of these days you will meet someone and think
wow - what a great outlook on life, i really like your personality and fancy meeting with you again to find out more about you.
and what never ceases to amaze me in my single time is how it always the ones who i dont expect to be my cup of tea are the ones i want to see again and end up fancying the pants off of.
yup - you will go on plenty of dates with someone you dont fancy once you get there, but just becuase you dont end up fancying them.. doesn't mean its a waste of your time.
and i must admit... i always find the average looking bloke with the wicked personality and a quiet confidence(without arrogance) is far sexier than the gorgeous bloke full of arrogance and nowt to chat about.
cor i'm waffling.
but the absolute most important thing ladies that you come out with at the end of this dating lark ladies..... through meeting different types of men and personalities. you discover what you like, what you will put up with and what qualities you want in a partner.
you have now learned you want someone who contacts you when they say they will.
if they will say they are going to call/text... then they should. if they dont then they are letting themselves down.. and also you.
if they can stick to something simple they have agreed to like making a call.... think how hopeless they will be at keeping other promises/arrangements they have made.
right. lecture over. how is everyone.
things fine and dandy with forces. should probably see him this week sometime.
to everyone. will try catch up. but cant be arsed just yet. shattered.