where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone PT19

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blimey do we really talk that much?!
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lou, you are one lucky lady, and i hope it continues for you and your children.

x

lot's of 'activity' on the sites atm, do you think spring is springing?

Am flirting with about 3 atm.!!

oh pirate thank you

i do feel very lucky, mind you it took a good few years

how many lol!!!

nah, it restores my faith, seeing you positive and him being lovely.

hi,just catching up...

juice - i share the collective disappointment re forces

belle - keep us posted re date with farmer, sounds like you get on well (mind you in my limited experience,i find its often the ones you seem to get on well with 'on paper' that theres no spark with in RL...but maybe you will prove me wrong!)

eve - but also re 23 year old!

kdk- i guess he might be separated....but as you say would have to be v v recent - have you asked him when/why his mariage ended? reminds me of a guy on match who described himself as VERY recently separated..all his photos clearly were of him & wife & he had just scanned half. bit for him really!

monty/ninah/scl also to anyone I've forgotten...and where is asbm?

prepare for the latest Ex instalment.....to explain first, since i started this job, ive been at home weekends only. so ex and i have been sort of living in the house together, except he is rarely there @ wkends, and obviously im not there in the week. so i said i would buy out his share, he agreed last wk, then changed his mind without explanation or any reason at all. and then said he would buy me out. which i know he cant afford.

so stalemate. then a text today which said 'you agree to me buying you out or i will be moving into a rented house next week and taking the children'

have been feeling physically sick since. I hate that he can still affect my emotions. I used to say to him all the time when we were together 'I'm not scared of you'. I was, but i couldnt let him think that. still am now, and not looking forward to possibly having to see him later

Evening

Sponge - how awful for you. If you know he can't afford to buy you out, how does he say he's going to afford it? Have you been to court/solicitors to sort out custody yet?

SM01 - thanks, I always feel a bit and self indulgent when im going on and on about it, seems to be all i can talk about atm....to answer your questions, he doesnt say how he can afford it. or why he wont agree to me buying him out. he simply ignores the question

and we weren't married so theres been very little involvement of courts/solicitors to date - i agreed initially to 50/50 (because he wouldnt accept anything less) its got a bit complicated the last few months with my job and stuff...but the important point - which i know he has recently spoken to a solicitor about but no more than that as yet - is that he isnt DS1's bio dad (he has been around since he was 18 months but DS and he struggle to get on and always have..) and he has not got a PR order for him or DS2 (who was born in 2001 - and my understanding is you only get automatic PR post-2003). legally he cant just do what he likes with them, but am not sure if that will stop him.

thing is so much of what he says is total hot air, but i just dont trust him at all.

sponge wish I could give you some advice but can't really other than these things too shall pass - shall we all send negative thoughtwaves at your ex?

Sending you big hugs and hoping you manage to resolve it all as amicably and with as little pain and distress as possible ....

btw I miss my dad too although sadly he was past sticking up for me - and towards the end of his life didn't even recognise me - or worse, my mum ....

Eve - Moved some work off my desk that's been bothering me today. Left at 4pm today and slept for an hour when I got in.

Juice - you're sounding very philosophical there. You're only to be admired.

Sponge - did you particularly want to stay in that house?

Hi everyone.

oh, and dad-of-six has sent another message with his phone number which appears to be a landline and is in the right area so maybe he is genuinely and like you said recently separated ...

says he writes kids' books and plays poker for a living so am a bit but is quite attractive and have not had much going on lately - mind you have still got lots of course work to be getting one with!

Kdk - do you want to post a linkie? We could judge give you our opinion. lol

hi all,

sponge - sorry to hear your having such hard tme of it. i really have nothing valuable to say on this subject with no experience. except for that i have something in my head makes me think your dc are not 100% british. i could be totally off mark and got you mixed up with someone else. but just as this changes the rights of fathers rights. as i know as my dc are half non british.

kdk - perhaps he is recently seperated.... but from my rather hideous experience. stay awayfrom professional poker players. how can i put it... they lie for a living. and can often loose alot of money in process.

things are very up and down with forces today.i've been trying very hard to not give an opinion to him and let him come to his own mind. but i ended up putting my hard hat on tonight. dived in and tried to work it through a little with him.

i dont like doing this... i am saleperson by nature. and could persuade an eskimoo to purchase ice.

i dont want to talk him into continuing a relationship only for him to do this again further down the line. dont really want to be chivvying along a commitment phobic. i want him to make his own mind up.

oh.. and somehow i have managed to arrange to go for coffee with someone from pof tomorrow afternoon ... not quite sure how that happened. will decide tomorrow if i'm going.

okay Monty - he's on dating for parents (and with six kids, I suppose he's entitled ...), username paul_9831. It may be an oversight that he's just not updated the websites he's on - especially as one is a poker site and he's told me he plays for a living ....

but still a bit hmmm about doing the whole phone thing - how long do any of you wait before making phone contact?

lol Juice at you somehow arranging that!!

i got a message on POF earlier which said

'marry me, you are so hot'

lol

still upset bout bloke

Juice - you are so right -as-- always.

@ juicy - that's one reason I'm a bit hmmm tbh - not ever had much to do with poker players but my ex was partial to gambling so a bit been there, done that ... mind you, these days have not got owt to lend to anyone anyway!

pirate - i've had more than one fab date with blokes whose initial emails begin with "will you marry me" ... dont dismiss them outright. just make sure you agree they are doing the housework and making cups of tea ... there was at least 1.. possibly 2 of them ended up in an exclusive/regular thing... go for it. email him back and see whats on offer.

you might get a farm with some chickens if your lucky

as for phone contact. sometimes i've done it on first day after emailing for first time. other times i haven't until ive met.. or others until there has been months and months of emails.

really whatever.

monty what am i right about

kdk - dont go there. honestly. it's also a very unstable life. they win and loose vast sums. they are rolling in it and buying anything they want one week. and lost everything with nothing to pay mortgage next week. it's very emotionally draining.

Juice - in the way you are handling Forces.

Kdk - have just had a look. He sounds like a bit of a character, granted, I like that in a bloke, he's quite good looking, granted, I like that in a bloke, he sounds bright and witty, granted, I like........

Apart fromt he poker playing and 6 kids, he says he's been married 3 times tho!!!

I'd run for the hills me. Oh and he says he 'has the devil in him and you won't change that'. Or words to that effect (in an amusing way), run run run.

You could always give him a go if feel up to a headfuck challenge.

hold your horses juicy - not even replied to his latest message/contacted him ... and you've got us living destitute in a ditch (with eight kids between us!)

Luckily - for me anyway, mortgage is now paid off (one benefit of being ancient mum!) and now just hoping to start earning some money again once I finish college - though mind you with current state of FE in this country, that may remain unfulfilled ....

kdk - lol... i know. but as monty says. go for a date if you fancy some fun. but i think even some fun would be a real pita with this guy.

Juice - yep.

Kdk - he smokes too. lol

yuk - that's the deal breaker for me! Okay, am dusting off my trainers as we speak and getting ready to run ...

Kdk - lol, I remember you saying you were an anti-smoker.

think my fag-aversion is probably because much as I hate the smell of it at the moment, it actually wouldn't take much for me to start again - which is what happened last time I went out with a smoker ...