where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone PT19

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

blimey do we really talk that much?!
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i am on smooch, pof, match and meetic

As Cake will vouch prob, tis mainly fields round here, and not alot to choose form!!

ooh ooh meetic not hear of that share n share alike!

ok XP has just asked me out on the w.e as well - have turned him down (really can't be assed big time to sort out something for DS) but well is it a good idea - I have zero interest or intention of getting back with him.

it was the first one i ever went on about 4 yrs back. i have been having a look. it's v pricey tho.

is it any good? i've come to the conclusion (another one lol) that if you're gonna be serious about actually meeting folk & dating & wanting a partner then go for one you pay with - prob a better one would be more expensive but if it's general chit chat and a coffee f you click then maybe a free one- jsut vet the 'i'm married but single and only after a shag types'

juicy i am shocked and disappointed by forces, but hopefully he'll realise he can't carry on cold footing through life, sounds like you've given him something to ponder with all the 'firsts' and he wants to wake up and grab a lovely gf while he has the chance grrr
agree with monty - I didn't see that one coming, hope you are ok and not too shocked yourself
keep going with those exams girl
monty 'lucrative' should extend to taxis to school then lol (pulling hair out emoticon)
lol at cake and pirate
as for the man who tells you pre date about his affair I'd forget him personally, and he's staying with ex nooooo way too messy, and what if this is tip of iceberg, I mean what will he come up with AFTER date ... also I don't like the fact he was chatting to you around dc, surely you stay discreet about dating til you are sure about the person and he hasn't even met you - Next!
belle go for it with farmer a date's a date and you've been chatting long enough, at least you'll know then whether to carry on bidding, keep him on your 'watching' list or delete to use ebay metaphor
hello everyone else scl lou - contgrats to bf - eve sm1 hate - asbm where are you

belle - date with xp? do you mean ds dad? the one that still lives with you when up for his access??

monty - ... hopefully since dc dad isn't do anymore lifts,etc.. since he has his lucrative job he will be able to fund their transport to school.

ninah - so whats happening with thai? you going on another

eve - OMG random male into bed for huggles... have you still spoken to the younger man? can he have nicename please.

pirate and cakes date will be a good one

for those who asked. yes.. i was a little shocked. seemed a bit out of the blue as he seemed to be handling it very well.

i've basically been preparing myself for this wkd to be last time we meet. if he does come up(still not sure if he will follow through with that. too many past experiences of blokes when you get to this stage just dont have the balls to come face the music).

but i've also said to him it's the last wkd. i have the set of balls required to finish it on sunday if he cant find his he seems to have dropped earlier in week.

meant nickname. but i kinda like nicename better

I like nicename too. He has disappeared for now. Have got his mob but reckon he doesn't have credit as he asked me to ring him! If he surfaces again I will think of a nickname. Must admit I'd be up for sharing a bottle of wine as long as he catches me on a non work night.

Good idea to not let forces mess you about. Such a disappointment when you really like someone. You went all that way to see him too, for you.

Morning all

Juice - I'm still at Forces. How old is he? (Serious question). Agree with Eve about you going to all that effort to see him. I'm in disbelief still.

Eve - have you finished work yet? Like the idea of sharing a bottle of wine with 'nicename'. lol

Best get off and do some work.

Monty, finish work at 4.30, how about you? Going for lunch to the pub as someone is leaving so that will break the day up.

Only working 2 days next week as I have to go to outpatients for a minor op, so not exactly a jolly.

eve & monty - no need be for me. i had a fantastic wkd break. with some great company. i'd never wish i never did it.

and if he comes up here then he's doing the same for me. and i will be thinking highly of him if he does come up. when obviously it would be alot easier for him just to stay away and not have to come meet me and talk it through.

but we all know men. whats the chances he'll come through with it.

i'm telling myself he wont so i wont be let down about it.

he's 32 btw. but been in army travelling around with them since he was a teenager.

cor blimey i cant keep up with everythng anymore

juice i'm sorry he has disappointed you

eve whats this about a 32 yr old?

mechanic is technically on holiday until tuesday but of course is out working instead, this time for his brother

roll on sunday , when we get to spend only our second night together with no kids about (through gritted teeth exh agreed to have trhem all overnight, he stopped having them back in november, after saying he was doing me a favour if he did )

Bloody hell Lou, enjoy your special time. Hope your ex sees sense and gives you the break you so deserve once in a while, doesn't he realise the kids will be looking back at his input one day . Chuffed that Mechanic got a promotion, it all helps.

The 32 yr old he is 23 and no I wouldn't but would have a drink with him if he asks again. He was funny and cute.

ooh eve you MINX

exh has sen the kids maybe 3 or 4 times since novemeber, at my instigation never his

he told me to get real the other day when he told me to come get their easter eggs, and i said he could make the effort to give them himself

hence me saying i thought he should have them overnight on sunday , so they had some contact and i got time out

mechanic and i dont know what to do with the time

well we do but we want other options too

hi all.

ok, know a bit more about forces now juice, I think you are well prepared for it, as you say. have to admire you there. At least you are saying now, that you have had a good time. I do like all the refs to balls too!! I do belive we have more balls (hidden somewhere!!) than most of these guys!!!

Cake, good luck if you go friday!! Was great to converse with you last night.

The southbelle, meetic is pretty good, tho i only joined for a month this time. BUT they sent me a special offer thing to get 2 montsh for £29.99, which i thought was ok?

Anyhow, I lost that email, and rang them explaining and I am now on a new tarrif of £14.90 per month, weird what you can get i f you ring up!!!

oh lou, meant to say, how are the kids finding the contact with your ex? I know he messed them round so much.

Hi all, just popped home from work to let the dog out! Cake - he's not that much older - 7 years. Younger than my XH was!

hi pirate

well dd1 who is 18 next sunday (!!!) tries to avoid having anything to do with him if at all possible, and is rather fed up she is being sent to his on sunday (though ji have said she can go to a friend instead, she just isnt staying here )

dd2 (13) is getting more reluctant to see him as well, most times it just seems to be the boys who ask to spend time there

dd1 says my bf is more like a father to them than their own one has been, as he takes more interest

dont even start me on the pathetic excuses exh comes up with, or the run ins we have had recently

the boys are more reserved about the ex than they are around the bf

its almost too much hassle to send them away tbh, as he has told me a long list of things i need to provide , as his money has gone "walkies" in his words

so bedding clothing, snacks, pillows etc, all have to be provided by me

i guess there wont be any point in asking him to pay fro the trainers he broke which belonged to ds2 then

hey all, quick stop in from me.

juicy - keep strong girl, you know you can - still say at 32 he should man up but hey there we go. Fingers crossed there is one single forces bloke out there with a concious.

no xp is the chap I was seeing until last May (ish) for a bit - he's on my FB A male deer..... I made it quite plain thou last night I have no time/intention of getting into a relationship (should have added with him but thought it wasn't nice) so said thanks for the offer but i'm so tied up, i'll let you know when i'm free but i'm not looking to date/get into anything right now.

lou - same old patheticness from XH then?! glad to hear mech is settling in nicely with you all. how's the puppy?

pirate - course we have more balls lol. we're ssingle mums who won't take (mostly!) any crap lol.

eve - 23 you go girl least you know he'll ahve stamina.

ninah - am loving you ebay thing lol.

will go for a date with farmer - still cautious, mostly as he's been saying far too many of the good things which we all know usually are not followed by actions - but he seems striaght up, is a widow, fairly settled, cute enough. snores big time apparently thou - could be a deal breaker for me thou.

Mechanic followed through so it isnt always bullshit, tho it very often can be I agree. He just called me to let me know he got dd2 a new mattress. I told him he is the best bf ever and he said he knew lol.

In other news batman is off to australia in a few days and lb gave me a call yesterday. Told batman I was unable to make his leaving do but good luck etc. Lb was just giving me am update on his life since Xmas. Was only a ten min call as bf arrived and I wanted to welcome him obviously. They both know about each other so I wasnt trying to keep the call a secret btw.

I should get my bum in gear and do some cleaning now I guess. Feeling very lazy today tho

am place marking will read prorly when i have mroe time, hope all ok

am place marking - no dates on horizon though possible drink with mate on Saturday ... but have had several messages from guy on datingforparents - idiot gave me his email addy/name - guess what, when I googled him (the way you do), he's listed ona couple of sites as 'has six children and a beautiful wife M' - that's on a poker website btw. Site seems current so ...

So what do we think, shall I play him on for a bit ... get him to pay for a nice dinner?

no KDK not dinner - kick him back to his wife I say - it's what I do thanks but no thanks not gonna judge but would you like your wife doing it type thing.

oooh bargin of the day in tesco - postman pat SDS Aqua draw £4.75 each from £20 plus it's 3 for 2 as well!

kdk -nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

tell him to make sure he asks his wife and 6 kids if he's free first.

lou - aww bless the mechanic.

belle - go see him. you will always wonder what if, if you dont

bonkers isn't it - he sent me three messages - I knew about the kids coz he told me - according to him he's got custody of the youngest three - but not sure, if they have split it must be fairly recent ....