where have all the fit,interesting and available men gone PT19

[aseriouslyblondemoment]

blimey do we really talk that much?!
pc

Yes but they ordered one online as it's quite delicate and the ones they had in stock had got marks from people trying on so won't get it until next week.

Eve - oh good, we like a bit of anticipation when wanting a dress.

hello

i am here if anyone else is!!

well I am (shouldn't be but hey)
pc did you ever hear from that bloke again?

no. he's ignored 2 texts from. i had a big cry last night, been brewing up. It's just touched a nerve in me.

thanksx

pc I'm really sorry
listen, I know it won't help to hear all the sensible things like better you found out he was a shit now rather than later
I guess you want a serious relationship more than you suspected you did?
It's bloody hard getting back into the relatinship thing after a time single, and when you are older with dc there is so much more at stake, plus everyone has much more baggage
this is the bloke's issues, not yours
if he was decent he'd have spoken
stop texting him now and let him go, he's obv not suitable
I'd seriously do a bit of 'fun' dating, just looking on it as a coffee adn chat thing with no expectations

i will go more with the flow, and thanks for your good advice. it is hard when someone says he wants one thing, then does the opposite. I am amazed at my own feelings tbh. But I have boxed them up, and i guess i'd let go a bit emotionally, in response to him.
Have long history of being let down, dad, family, husband so i think it just fanned the flames!!!

from your other thread I think you had a lot invested in him emotionally from the start
and yes maybe this is because you are vulnerable cos of past hurts
also I think you said somewhere you felt insecure around him? and were advised this was maybe not a good sign, doesn't seem he did much for your confidence
don't let it knock you pc
sometimes I think my life is ruined by what happened with ex and I will never trust anyone again - but then I look at his mother, who is a shell of a woman after his dad left her and obv still emotinally hung up literally decades on and think no that bloody well isn't me
let the past stay in the past
today is the first day of your life pc and you are the one making the choices ok?
I'd advise you to make a cafetiere (sp) of proper coffee just for yourself, because you're worth it, and enjoy the Easter holidays
if you were with him you would be hung up on keeping him and a nervous wreck
look on it as a gift of God x

hi everyone

ninah - his dad is ill and he's going skiing??

juice - that was a lovely post and no, you weren't waffling- it made alot of sense to me

sm - glad date went ok would agree with ninah about the compliments and many happy returns for yesterday

betty - i get that from some of my 'friends' too, real friends know not to say things like that

cake - do you mean a 'pager'?

tsb- what's smooch?

eve- what a cheeky sod

as for me - hmmph. he's a selfish sod man, went off him quite rapidly, i spent four years living with a selfish git, i don't want tnaother one thank you very much. onwards and upwards again

yes mrs H, crock and sht springs to mind
he has met a new gf i expect
selfish git - tell more? you dumped him?
pc - and put on some MUSIC OK -now - upbeat, I am listening to Isaac Hayes boogie stuff, works honest

ninah, that is a fantastic post.
you are right, i did have alot invested in it, be it 'him' or not. No i didn't feel that secure in his company, which is really daft. I think i got confused, which really pissed me off, that I couldn't seem to find my truth!!!

No doubt I did come on strong to him, not just willy nilly. I accept I was a bit of a fish outa water in all the compliments, and dare i say the desire!!! I am cool that he may have thought i was prob too ''messed up''.

Yet i also know he should have been honest, and was not the person i deserve.

thanks so much, really.x

oh Gaga all the way here, it's a fab album!!!

well the boots worked a little too well not sure how to put this- he kissed the boots so maybe the lady who said he 'liked the boots me' i think should've said 'he definitely liked methe boots' i think humour is the only way i can cope with something that was more than a wee bit odd for me

ooh the boots!!

I like gaga too actually pc
it's playing NOW, right????
omg mrs h it was the boots man, you know I did think that was a bit weird, the way he tuned into those boots
I never quite get foot and shoe stuff

i did find it a bit a lot off-putting when he kissed the botts - ewww no thanks

morning all

pc - big hugs
mrs h - maybe he has a foot fetish??!!

I had one that used to look at my feet, I didn't mind all that much but there was no way I could relate to it
boots tho - i mean he literally beamed into you the moment you wore them
bet he's glad the winter season is over and he can pass a clarks window without the urge to press against it lol
oh there have been some on this thread
you seem very robust about it mrs h you are ok yes?

yes, are you ok?

lol at Clarks window!

lol i did have a post all wrote uot but it not here

sm - perhaps so but not something i want to deal with understand

ninah - lmao at clark's window - there's abranch donw here locally too

morning all did everyone manage to have a good weekend?

lo kinda not lou
how syou?

lou - aws it you that was dating fireman or mechanic? my memory not very good today lol

there is too much for me to read back on so i dont know who is doing what

i am dating mechanic, since december , we are trying to clear some debts and sort finances out before we look for a bigger place to move in together

the kids think he is the bees knees, they have even said he is like a second dad to them, which he is chuffed to bits about (they said it in front of him)

mrs m - good weekend then?!