Where are all the fit, interesting and available men pt 16

[Janos]

Yep, it's still going....

Part 15 still lurking about, I believe.

blondie - i've done that and got back 'I feel like i've forced you now' maybe i'm too soft, prob, and dumb cos I genuinely like him loads.maybe I just need to ignore ignore ignore and not give a shite what he throws at me.

hmm. lots to think about - not sure I see a point in meeting him again thou tbh.

if he wants to walk i've said walk - in fact pushed him out the door really. but he says no. I emailed him on sunday & said some v v v harsh things about how I feel esp when he's not on the level - ie i'm used when he's around here & not having luck seeing anyone else, (and I didn't like feeling like that) & told him to tell me I was wrong. He said i'd not said anything harsh, ddn't agree didn't deny it. to be fair thou i'm sick of having convos online with him at the mo, it's in person or not at all.

i think you have to forget any ideas about asking what he wants you to do and do what is best for you regardless now

he isnt going to want to say ok never see me again because he gets all he wants from you on his terms, it seems to me

do not take his feelings into account when you decide what to do

he has to let you go if you make him

ASBM - t'is done - if he sends me message inviting me to f* off, it's all your fault!

Actually IRL he lives not that far from me, and having now sent message I shall proceed to bump into him every time I set foot on the Tube from now on knowing my luck. Oh well, too late now!

belle-i agree with lou however i know deep down u prob still want to be with him so u dont want to cut all ties either but do u really see him changing? becuase for things to work he needs to, is that realistic?

belle he's playing a similar game to the one that nobend i dated did
fortunately i wasn't that fussed about him,but it was still a nasty way to finish things!

kdk
but if you've seen him out in RL why haven't you both spoken?

I don't know betty tbh.

blondie - what do u mean.

kdk - bet he doesn't say that.

Lou - think that sums it up - my thing my way. fuck him. (no really! lol)

he thinks he has you where he wants you and can basically pick and choose when he sees you and you're allowing this to happen
sorry to sound horrible here,but he's keeping his options v firmly open atm and i wouldn't be surprised if he was seeing other women too or is on another dating site
nobend did all this and also told me a right crock of shite which i believed as i was too nice for my own good.
like gb he disappeared for a while with supposed problems and just as i was beginning to no longer be fussed and get on with life he reemerged from under his shitty stone
he also conducted everything more or less thru msn by the time it had ran it's course too,he would also(as i've realised since)block and unblock me at his leisure so i wouldn't find him online

@ asbm - no, never seen him in real life but know that he lives a few stops up the same tube line ...

and have just received message back saying - and I quote ' how're you? Yes, noticed you had a new pic, and was taking a look...

Hope you had a great new year's, and sure - when the snow clears, a drink would be lovely!'

Men, can't live with them, can't live with them!

Going to message back saying "ball's in your court, you decisive go-getter, you! Let me know when you are up for it."

i have to agree with asbm as horrible as it sounds he has u where he wants you, im not sure about the seeing other people but u just dont know do u?

kdk did you ask him out for a drink too?!

belle, asbm speaks sense, i think you just need to tell him that you are walking away and that it doesn't matter what he wants anymore.

I've not been on this thread all that long, but it's the second time I've seen him mess you about like this.
I know it's easy for an outsider to say, but he can only mess you around if you let him...

Happy birthday juice Have a great time tonight.

Hello to everyone else

I'm in two minds about my Canadian, he's nice and on paper, he's just what I want, but I see lou swooning over her mechanic and think that's what I want, but the chemistry just isn't quite right, I think.
I haven't seen him since the kids broke up for school and haven't really missed him. We IM'd up to New Year, but the first contact I've had with him this year was earlier when he phoned... I guess I need to see him face to face to be sure.

well i made it to work today (but they let us go at 3 as they weren't sure we would make it home otherwise!)

and..........

my date is still on

he has borrowed a 4x4 so as not to get stuck in the snow!

am just hoping after all this palaver we actually like each other

hey sponge that's great news!
are you excited/nervous yet
fairylights could this be a slow burner?

asbm - you wash your mind out you! Have to say I think I'm probably flogging a dead horse - this is a guy who said 'If anyone was crazy enough to 'fall' for me like that, they'd see me run so fast, there'd be flames on the ground, and a me-shaped hole in the wall. '

but spends a lot of time on a dating site - looking at my profile .....

Confused? I certainly am but hey ho, he's the most normal of an absofuckinglutely barking lot so going for it (in a very cautious way)

And sponge hope it goes well - it's got to after you've both made all the effort - and if you get snowed in, so much the better ....

good stuff
and agreed that caution is the way forward aft.some of the stories on here
but seriously nothing ventured nothing gained and he might be another loon or might be positively normal tho apprehensive himself

kdk
you're as bad as monty and her negligee nightbag comments
am rooting for you sponge,have a great evening and will look forward to your update

asbm - yes I feel a bit sick at the moment. hopefully thats just nerves!

have also now agreed to him picking me up from home rather than me getting the bus, which i hope was not a bad thing to do....

good luck sponge - will wait for update with bated breath

belle you never sound happy when you talk about gb. Agree with lou that you really should just do what is best for you and not worry about him.
Hi asbm yes I remember the horoscopes, I truly am a female Russell Grant today, having a dressing gown bad hair day special, complete with post Xmas Russell style overhang
hatesponge I am awed that you are setting out for date tonight, most impressive, hope you don't get snowed in in the hotel
hi kdk the bloke you are talking about sounds alright to me, does he have a nickname yet?

been calling him birdman - unless there's already a plonker person of that name already

sorry, I missed that. Any reason? (Imagines cagoul, binoculars ... or a kind of Eddie the Eagle)

Nah, it's because of the nickname he goes by