Where are all the fit, interesting and available men pt 16

[Janos]

Yep, it's still going....

Part 15 still lurking about, I believe.

morning just up - both dcs sore throats and ds1 feels dizzy. Schools are open here though.

Juicy - happy birthday sorry to hear about Irish -stay strong - his loss!! Twat

omg he hasn't!!

i have no idea who u are talking about but feel i need to know lol

kids are being good watching dvd's at the mo and im trying to be more motivated today and get some houseweok done....boring!

scl-poor dc's hope they feel better soon

lou-hope the mechanic gets out of there soon, mind u if i was stranded it wud be nice to be in a hotel paid for. u sound like ur missing him too

belle-how u feeling now?

sponge-hope ur date goes ahead

hi to asbm, monty, kdk and anyone else ive missed

Juice - Happy Birthday. Was it thumbsucker? Oh no, there was one that had an even worse 'habit' wasn't there?

Lou - Grrr at mechanic's boss, I heard on the news this morning about all the road closures round your way and I was thinking about you! Hope he gets out of there soon!

Belle - I am completely confused about what GB wants/expects from you.

Kdk - lol at squeaky voice. Would put me right off.

Hi Betty, SCL and,

ASBM - I missed you off

That's cos I've just sent you an email lol.

SCL - hope dcs are feeling better.

happy birthday rj! and sorry irish has been so useless. hope you have a fab day and a great 2010
I've had broadband problems for ages back on now but not sure about whether a fit available or interesting man is what I need right now, the whole thing seems like a contradiction in terms (bitter, moi?)
so I'm more of a lurker than with anything to contribute
Still in touch with the non fit interesting or available man I met through match, but just trying not to murderenjoying the dc and life at home, esp now we are joining the ranks of the snowbound, hurray!

oh that strikeout didn't work whoops!

it said on the news this area has been the worst affected in the country!

it sounds fun being holed up in a hotel for the night, but he had to share a double bed with bloke he was with, ha

the northbound stretch of the A3 where they were stranded in hindhead, has reopened now, but he cant come see me as he has been told he has to go straight into work

i have sent him a text saying he isnt to be railroaded into attempting to drive the guy home again tonight

he wanted to walk to come see me today but i told him he would be mad to try and to stay put

not sure what he will do about tonight, if he will go stay with his mum or come to me

yes i did miss him

he is back in his yard now, having a cup of tea before going to rescue stranded motorists himself

he said he had to get all the men in the hotel to push the van out of the car park today, then when they drove off everyone pelted them with snowballs

whether or not he comes down here tonight will depend on what the snow does

@juicy - birdman is the one I was having convos with back in May - then I decided it was me asking all the questions and just stopped replying but although he's not been back in touch, he does view my profile once in a while like today about 45 minutes ago .... I do quite like him - well, as much as it's possible to like someone you've never met as he is not fugly, seems quite intelligent, good soh and twitters ... BUT not got the front (yet) to say, how are you/stop looking etc

monty - you are I am. I have NO idea what to do - i'll copy some of his comments (word for word) so you can see what you lot think - I am still 95% walking away. is this partly my fault for being so anal over keeping my 3 lives separate (totally)

anyhow tell me what you think.....

"him: the issues in your email are honest and yes i appreicate that but i cant be the same i just cant!
me: u can't be honest?
him: i am! i cant be the same as what your thinking i meant
me: waht do u mean then u can't be the same in the same whay?
him: yes
me: u can't feel for me ever what I feel for you. look, u know the score with me. I will leave it at your door now. I don't want all that right now, it takes time, patience & waht ever it takes. all I was saying the other day is what's the point if we can't be honest with each other is all.
him: im not sure i do though u keep telling me it takes time what does? are my thoughts going to go? u seem to think so? "

"him: well when u think the things u do i need to make decisions im not saying what u think is bad but i cant be just drifting along ultimately its not whart i want
i dont want that with anyone i mean drifting but i have doubts and cant change that
me: ok so you don't want to be drifting? ok I understand that.
him: well it is really and thats because of my issues i would be and its not fair on you at all!
me: then you understand why I say to you that I have to walk away then? I'm not trying to pressure you into changing your mind, nor am I about to tell you that my way is right and yours isn't.
him: i know that
me: but my situation won't change. I will do this at whatever pace, and keep seeing you it's fine with me, I knwo you don't want to drift, which to me means you are saying walk away.
him: i cant see an end product with my thoughts its not good i know! and im not judging anyone either! judge me for being how i am! if in 8 months i am still the same u may say the same things as your email and i prob wont change ...ive done plenrty of thinking and itl be better then? than now?
I dont think so - itl be worse and more complex!
me: then let me walk away.
him: well you want me to say that? you expect me to be cruel like that? look u know what him thinking and its shit for me too!
me: cruel as in letting me walk away? if it's what I want and need to get over you then it has to be done.
him: I know

then he goes on about DS, and how I didn't want to introduce DS to someone who wasn't gonna stick around & that's always been in the back of his mind.

he's been on chat for the last 2 hours but not said hi - had a text/2, to be fair thou iv'e not said hi either, or replied to his last text.

better catch up with everyone.

kdk - birdman - who what when how!!!!

juicy - hope irish got u something nice.

lou mech's boss, althu v sweet he was gonna walk & see you thou. I think the L word is deffo around the next corner!!

ninah - glad to see you back.

sponge - hope your date is OK.

blondie/monty/eve

how's everyone anyhow, the snow's kept us all in today - yay have put some pics on my FB.

@belle

We were corresponding in April/May last year then I stopped as per earlier post.

Today he looked at my profile again ... not for first time since we stopped talking. Wish he wouldn't or that he would and would send me message or that I had confidence to message him or just forget him which would probably be most sensible course of action

belle-god all that is confusing, but to me near the end all i could see was that he doesnt want to make the decision to finish and be the 'bad guy' because you keep saying u want him to let you walk away. It's not u 'letting him' it's you making that decision and sticking to it. I know it's so hard to do, but how many times have you been here now and for your sanity how many times can you go throught this?

I know betty.

agree with betty, his chat actually made me feel v cross for you

looks like i wont be seeing the mechanic again tonight either, the roads his end are really bad now he says , plus it is still snowing here

he is so fed up with it all now, and definitely thinking of changing his job soon

he has almost said the L word if you count him saying he is falling in love with me

Have to say I agree with Betty - he's letting you do the dirty so that he's absolved of making the decision. I don't know the full story but would have thought that each and every one of us has 'issues' but, maybe it's our responsibility to resolve, or at least be prepared to shelve, those issues BEFORE we embark on new relationships - or at least not use those issues as excuses in new relationships.

am i right in thinking this is typical behaviour for him? as in he has always been the one trying to get you to make the choice?

hooray you're back,don't lurk join in!don't forget you were the threads official horoscope expert
kdk-why not be brave and just send a quick 'happy new year..'if he ignores you then there's your answer,you have nothing to lose as such as it's only online.agreed it's annoying that he keeps on viewing your profile tho
betty how are things at your end?what's the latest with mr jack?
belle tbh is it worth even seeing him again?i think that you will only become even more upset,he doesn't deserve your time and he certainly isn't worthy of meeting ds imo
lou you have my sympathy re:bosses and taking the p,dp's takes one of his days off from him each month pretending it's a training day when actually it's a let's get the workforce in for free and without a day in lieu
SPONGE all eyes are on you...

i'm cross myself lou. tbh.

is there ever hope if one party sees a future and one doesn't? is there ever anything to be gained by remaining in this situation. the more I tell him to leave me alone the more anti he gets. saying it's not what he wants.

should I introduce DS in the friends capacity & be more relaxed on things, maybe as i've been so strict on things & protective over DS.

Lou - I think that counts as the L word.

kdk - bite the bullet girl - email him!!

Belle- sorry i know how much you like him but he is making me cross now too, he's spineless and he is cruel to keep you hanging on whatever he thinks of himself!

I'm so sick of this snow!! kids are off school tommorow again, starting to get cabin fever and need some adult converstaion. Not heard much from mrjack apart from a few texts, seeming v pissed off with weather cos he's self employed. Doubt i will see him anytime soon if this weather carries on

Lou - he'll decide then back track big time. or go around in circles. i'll decide and he doen't like it.

ohh missed those posts
in effect what he's trying to do belle is make you effectively end it as he's too cowardly to do it and cos it'll make him feel better
the first guy i went out with post divorce did this.gawd was he one helluva messed up prick!

and belle i def wud not be introduction ds even if it was as friends!