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Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part TWELVE

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lou33 · 07/09/2009 17:38

starts here

why would you bin off gymboy before asking about it?

he may well just have been checking mail or hiding a profile or something, talk to him before you dump him

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/09/2009 18:50

snap out of it!!

thesouthsbelle · 27/09/2009 18:51

well all i'm thinking is if you pack it with the kids make sure you pack it back up when they come home - yes faffing about but better that than him stopping with you.

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lou33 · 27/09/2009 19:12

he isnt planning on having them next weekend, he said he would let me know when he wants to see them again....

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thesouthsbelle · 27/09/2009 19:15

nice of him eh! lol.

sincitylover · 27/09/2009 20:04

lou wouldn't let exh sleep at mine.

In fact don't really like him being in my house at all.

Remotew · 27/09/2009 20:13

SCL liked you suggestion on the other thread, perhaps we should arrange a meetup.

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 27/09/2009 21:36

i like an excuse to get on a plane.

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lou33 · 27/09/2009 21:44

i dont like hte idea either

its ok it was a moment of madness i am over it now

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thesouthsbelle · 27/09/2009 22:00

goodo Lou.,

ok things now unsettled again with NG. Just spent about 45 mins on the blower to him. next weekend is off as apparently he has 'a presentation' again on friday am rather upset about it tbh. Hes said to meet on thurs poss b4. But is aware that he's letting me down and also doesn't like disappointing me.

Jist of it is he's not yet sure if he can reconcile his feeling's towards DS/ that I have a child - and when I said that after he tried explaining to me for 5 mins I got the 'here we go' speach. DS is my world (as all our kids are) and while I said to him I hope he reconciles his feelings re me having a child, i'm not fully sure he can. Apparently not even his siblings have dated anyone with a child b4. I asked if this was the reason he's been a bit distant and he said possibly. We carried on talking but now I feel like i'm waiting around to see if he can/can't reconcile with DS. (not that i'm forcing DS on him or ever would)

He also says he's aware of my saying I don't like to be messed about- think that's how he's seen it - but what I actually said was don't like people saying one thing & actually doing another.

I proper like him (as u all know) and apparently he feels the same and say's we're still early days which is right we are but I just don't know anymore. is there a way to help someone reconcile their feelings towards your child?

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/09/2009 22:13

belle?
hang on a mo here?
didn't he know before he went out with you that you had a child?!
i know you like him but tbh am not feeling easy about this and hope i'm not speaking out of turn

thesouthsbelle · 27/09/2009 22:15

yep he did, this is the issue with me - not sure if to just ring him back now and say right that's it i'm walking away. He's playing things v tight to the chest at the mo, still says there's no one else. still says he really likes me I mean wtf!?

Remotew · 27/09/2009 22:26

It would be a deal breaker for me Belle. I've had lots of men in mt life when DD was little and non of them ever had a problem with her even though she used to be jealous and play up sometimes.

Feeling a bit down today that we didn't hit it off last night. I'm never going to meet anyone.

Turkish Delight still sends me emails now and again. Also got this guy from Jordan chatting to me on facebook, havent a clue who he is but DD clicked add once when she was messing about on my page. OMG he's invited me to Jordan now.

thesouthsbelle · 27/09/2009 22:30

well it is for me eve - he accepts him or not basically. (started another thread on it in relationships) will give him a few weeks I think and play it cool to see how things pan out.

Jorden is sooo much better than here weather wise - least you'd get a tan!

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/09/2009 22:31

would say best sit tight and do nothing for now except MN and your RL mates if you need a chat
let him contact you and don't contact him yourself at all
you've been thru enough with exh without having to second guess/wait on tenterhooks for him to sort himself out
IMHO he needs to come all out for you big time and to prove himself thru his actions and if he doesn't then you need to re-think
i know i sound blunt belle,but i was in similar situ earlier this year
as a divorced mum life really is just too short to be spent thinking about a man with "issoos"

thesouthsbelle · 27/09/2009 22:33

I hear ya on that front!

am thinking tomorrow my phone will be getting left here.

He said b4 he hung up earlier, might talk to you tonight later, I was like no i'll just talk tomorrow, he's like oh ok are u sure?!?

Sitting tight is not my stong point. So miss GBF.

Remotew · 27/09/2009 22:34

Will have a quick look but not comment as I've done so on here. I wouldn't give any ultimatems (sp) just try not to be so available. It's tough as I know you really like him.

thesouthsbelle · 27/09/2009 22:37

no not gonna give ultimatums not good with those. am upset about the weekend, but we did agree on sat day spending together - guess we'll see if this one happens won't we.

Remotew · 27/09/2009 22:41

Also don't tell him you are giving him space.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/09/2009 22:42

belle keep your mind occupied and keep your fingers away from that mobile

i feel that in a sense he has you dangling atm
at this stage of the game you shouldn't be feeling like this

thesouthsbelle · 27/09/2009 22:42

right so the list is:

turn phone off.
give him space
dont' tell him he has space
wait to see if he calls/contacts. (think he will do even if it's for a general chat and not about DS - seems to be happy to carry on as we are while he mulls things over)

thesouthsbelle · 27/09/2009 22:43

I know asbm.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/09/2009 22:47

be strong you
we've all been here at some point and it's totally shite
that's what MN is here for remember!

thesouthsbelle · 27/09/2009 22:49

my head's seriously going to explode. He just said it's new to him & he needs time to get used to it - to which I said you're telling me and i've had 3 years!

Sit tight... sit tight....

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/09/2009 23:00

belle am off in a few
hang on in there and let him come to you and hopefully he'll prove himself worthy of your time
nn x

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/09/2009 23:02

ooh eve?!
for some reason i missed that

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