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Where have all the fit and interesting men gone part TWELVE

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lou33 · 07/09/2009 17:38

starts here

why would you bin off gymboy before asking about it?

he may well just have been checking mail or hiding a profile or something, talk to him before you dump him

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 22/09/2009 12:01

yep i second that Lou.tho we're women in our own right and entitled to a life of our own we're also mums and lets face it we don't hide the fact.
has LB met your gang yet Lou?

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lou33 · 22/09/2009 14:08

he's met the youngest three, before we started seeing each other, as friends when we went for lunch

but not since

dd1 is banging on about wanting to meet him, but its my turn to go over there next

they got on well, he was especially charmed by ds2, which is what happens when anyone meets him lol

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sincitylover · 22/09/2009 16:16

All points gladly received tbh.

He's in my bad books anyway atm because he said he would call back Sunday. Nada and I'm not calling him.

I can't help thinking that if it was really right then all of this wouldn't even be an issue.

I am also guilty of holding back too though.

Exbf also still lurks (he has met dcs btw!!).

I take the point about when dcs leave home.

Me and relationships = always complicated since age 15 [wink}

Had another allergic reaction this morning and now know how I would look with trout pout

sincitylover · 22/09/2009 16:18

he seems detached from children in general

ninah · 22/09/2009 16:57

I think you just said it there scl
if this was right none of it would be an issue
I've never had the feeling you were bowled over by him .. then maybe you, like I, are not a bowled over type? (but would like to be)

thesouthsbelle · 22/09/2009 17:03

blondie - yes I would but I don't think it's something I could go into lightly - I know what i'm like, and i'd prob end up wanting more. thing is thou it's only an hour 1.2 from here to there so you never know, besides he might not get the jobs/an interview. I'd move again and follow another person's career - never would have before but i'm coming back around to the idea, but next time i'd not leave myself so vulnerable - don't think I could go thru it all again.

girls in work say he's obv keen for my input as well as he's asked.

lou - sounding positive

scl - no you're right thou it shouldn't be an issue if it's right. but I do agree you shouldn't settle - as I see it we've all had lucky escapes with our ex's so in essence should hold out until someone really special comes along.

mousie - how's things with your chappy?

rj - have you told BB yet?

What is the standard sorts of time scales then for someone meeting the kids? i've only got XP to judge by.

thesouthsbelle · 22/09/2009 17:05

ninah - waht do you mean by bowled over thou - i'm not so sure that there's someone out there who takes your breath away type of a thing.

ninah · 22/09/2009 17:09

Suppose I mean someone that you like so much it all seems easy, not problematic
as for meeting dc I think a lot depends on ages
mine are quite young and met bf soonish, before I am sure what was happening with him for a picnic
but I am quite social and it wouldn't have seemed anything out of the ordinary to go out with a male friend
he stayed over fairly soon too and my ds found that hard to get used to

sincitylover · 22/09/2009 17:30

I do like him alot but not bowled over.

Have been bowled over by two guys in my life so I do know the feeling.

Think the ages of my dcs quite difficult - 8 and 13.

On a general and positive note think the general success rate of us on this thread is quite high really and just shows what can happen post split up.

Very encouraging I think.

thesouthsbelle · 22/09/2009 17:34

see the only male friends I have are family members or my friends partners (that DS has seen me with other than XP). oh and the 2 chaps in work as well who he was quite shy of. other than that it's me him and girlie friends.

it is encouraging thou as you say from this thread.

do you think we all tend to over think or are there some non over thinkers amongst us?

ninah · 22/09/2009 17:55

how funny scl I just emailed asbm and said exactly that - how many of us thought at the beginning of this thread we'd get as far as enjoying male company again
I don't over think (unless I am with someone who is keener on me than I am on them and that's prob only happened once, with ex)
I am quite impetuous

thesouthsbelle · 22/09/2009 18:16

too true ninah!

just arranged a weekend away with NG for week after next - YAY! hmmm...

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 22/09/2009 19:07

not told BB, but did have a small tiff on msn. he always takes everything i say to offence .. hes deffo for the chop. will see if it can simply die a natural death if i stop contacting him.

SB @ wkd away.. how fantastic , i am

thesouthsbelle · 22/09/2009 19:12

dead excited! hopefully we won't have any probs getting there.

do you think he'll contact you thou if you stop contacting him?

ninah · 22/09/2009 19:17

south that's really exciting!
non contact sounds best rj now you have made your mind up. we all seem to like irish on this thread (and bb did have funny hair )
going to lie down now, only tues and I'm exhausted

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 22/09/2009 19:52

at the hair... perhaps it was a sign that i had found a ridiculous excuse to dump him within first date.

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lou33 · 22/09/2009 20:02

ooh a weekend away how lovely

i am sick, bloody lb has given me the bug he was coming down with

plus i have once again the period from hell

it was worth getting the bug tho

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thesouthsbelle · 22/09/2009 20:10

lou. aww sorry to hear you have the AF from hell.

juicy - what are u like what's wrong with BB's hair then?

all excited now it would appear that he's on his way over after the gym YAY! extra night. really need to get a grip n not be so girlie n keen! lol.

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lou33 · 22/09/2009 20:13

it happens more and more often now, i bled all over the floor in the cold aisle at sainsburys a couple of months ago

shameless me went and sorted myself out then carried on and finished my shopping ( i had empty cupboards)

the doc has asked me to start a diary about it now and go back to see what the next step is

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 22/09/2009 20:13

it wasn't the way i like a mans... i prefer short and styled... BB would often not bother styling.. but it was so long it came down like a little fringe ..... irish has my ideal fav haircut... short and styled. even when not styled it is short enough that it looks tidy iykwim... but i did catch him stealing a smidge ds hair gel the other day before we left the house

thesouthsbelle · 22/09/2009 20:15

juicy - you'll have to get him his own stash to keep at yours.

Lou - that really doesn't sound too good at all have they given you any thoughts about what it possibly is?

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 22/09/2009 20:19

belle - dont joke... thats not even funny... we left a supply of his beer in my fridge at wkd and got whole new supply for his.i suggested taking the stuff from mine. to which the response was "i'll need that supply here"

... i have been VERY VERY careful not to leave a single thing at his...

thesouthsbelle · 22/09/2009 20:23

oooh that sounds promising juicy.... I like his thinking....

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lou33 · 22/09/2009 20:24

well he said it's too soon in theory for menopause, even allowing for the fact my mum had hers a bit early, so after i have done the diary he said he will decide from there

reckons there are plenty of options before they burn the lining of my womb

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lou33 · 22/09/2009 20:25

juice, i think this guy sounds the best yet

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