where have all the fit and interesting men gone part.....9? isit 9?

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ooooh i get to start the thread.
unless i'm being thick and cant find it.

lou - go on send me a pic of dark horse i'm so nosey.

ninah - i think thats really rude of your friend. if she didn't have anything nice to say she shouldn't have said anything at all.

hi everyone
I know about the giving up smoking lark - it is SO hard. I am constantly quitting then starting up again. And really, the handovers ARE better - I think smoking fags all night makes me feel worse than drinking all night...
asbm - sorry to hear your ex is being an arse again. Mine used to threaten to not see ds too, until I took him up on it. Its all about control isnt it...
I had a great time last night. I have decided he is really nice, easy going, intelligent and sweet. I probably need to talk to him about my past (abusive) relationship, cos it has knock on effects on this one - I find myself behaving in certain ways as if to preempt the shit my ex would have given me. Not really sure how to raise the issue tho.
Anyhow, last night, we went out for some beers til about 1, then off to bed, and lets just say we didnt get to sleep til about 6 .

i was woken up constantly last night by dd1 and her mate , until and at 3am i finally had enough and went to have words, but i didnt get back off to sleep til about 4

then my friend came to get her son, walked into my room , turned on the lights, opened the curtains and tried to tip me out of bed lol

and i have itchy eyes today which has made my nose snotty, and i have a gazillion chores to do, and darkhorse is coming round later on

hi scl
no he doesn't and i don't think that he's even been out with anyone since we separated then divorced
he has alot of problems and i think struggles with the dc when he has them
but last nite he was particularly bad and decided to send me a series of nasty texts thru til early this morning
god only knows what kind of a weekend they must be having there

my exh is similar

before he took his stuff he was (wrongly) accusing me of deliberately preventing him from getting it

now he has his stuff he is moaning to dd1 that he has no money because i have made him come get it and pay for storage, said to thank me for that fact

lou and asbm that is so shit. I can handle ex giving ME grief, cos I know how to deal with it. Can't imagine what it is like when dcs are involved in their shit too

yeh it makes me mad, especially when he is blaming me for not sending her the money he promised weeks ago

my exh is not a texter thank god but often when he has dcs he will ring (sometimes within an hour of picking them up) to rant to me about their behaviour, that I ve sent the wrong clothes etc

I have now taken to giving dcs a spare phone and not answering calls from him during the times he has them.

He also often warns me to ensure that they have had a bath immediately before they go to his and also that they are not sent in sportswear as he considers this inappropriate.

his head is so far up his arse I don't know how he can see.

Plus he lectured me the other week (when I didn't send dcs due to risk of swine flu (he has been in Mexico) to say I had no understanding of risk!!

There is also a distinct difference in how he talks to me when he is own his own/with dcs and if new P is in earshot.

Rant over.

do you all manage to not talk badly about your ex's to your dcs? If I am discussing something ex has done with my mum / friend I wait til ds is out of the room cos he is incredibly good at listening while pretending not to. But I can't imagine NOT sticking up for yourself to the kids if ex accuses you of something.

lol mine insists on ds having abath before he has him too.
I have managed to come to an arrangement with mine where he actually got his arse in gear and bought some clothes / pjs for ds so it doesnt matter what I send him in now.
Not engaging is the key to my sanity. When mine starts to rant, I just calmly disengage from him now. Took ages to learn, but it helps

I try hard not to but when they ask a direct question it is sometimes very hard to be diplomatic.

I normally tell them to ask him if it is about something he has said/promised or about his new life.

my oldest is 17 and my youngest 8, i have treied v hard to say nthing when they can hear, but they are getting old enought o work things out for themselves now, and have told me they want to know when he does something wrong so they can understand more

obviously the girls are more aware of what goes on because he has texted them running me down, but i generally try not to rant about him

though dd1 is pretty disgusted with him

ohhh friggin exs
anyway this thread is meant to be about fit,interesting and availables lol
our collective exs do not meet any of this criteria
rtp new fella is sounding good,how did you manage to get back together with him aft.dumping him?
scl are you still seeing samename tomorrow?
meant to say that i also find it weird having a man round at mine i guess we must just get used to having our own space
lou thanks as always!are you having your hair straight or curly for darkhorse?

curly as i will probably only just have showered by the time i have to get him from the station

did you manage to sort out a def.meet with batman yet?
bet that's high on your 'to do list'lol

lol it wont be for a couple of weeks if we do, but i am working on it

i betcha are

well i hope everyone is having a lovely evening
its almost vino o'clock here so will be heading out into my garden with a nice glass of something chilled
and maybe my laptop

yes I went cycling round the park with ds2 and then we have come in and had a bbq plus I have also consumed some very nice rose - god didn't realise it was only quarter to seven.

yes am seeing samename tomorrow. will be at his for the best part of five hours - think he is taking me out to lunch and will prob go for walk somewhere.

Still very not sure about the whole thing - he is lovely guy - prob my fault for rushing things with him in the first place but I am very impulsive like that - however I do see that its putting the cart before the horse as they say.

Should have got to know him first and then jumped into bed with him!!!

Am loving the weather and time off work. Makes me realised how stressed I am by work.

ooh rose how lovely!!
lets face it tho scl you're enjoying yourself and at least he hasn't done a runner aft.sleeping with you
he obv.is interested in taking things further here

oh bloody power cuts when i am trying to watch night in the museum

all this chat of cigs make me want one.

i should be studying but my hangover means i cant even focus on any words on the page.

so..... just realised.quite a few on here now have bona-fida boyfriends now!! and some more in the making.

this thread must be doing something right.

yeah its great isn't it

yes have nearly drunk the whole bottle !!!!! have only got pear cider and champagne left.

we'll be having a chat tomorrow and wont be drinking as I will be driving.

ooh pearcider chasers it is then lol
is this the big chat then?

well quite a big chat - tho have no idea how it will turn out cos part of it is to do with that I don't think I can really offer him what he wants.

my little hissy fit earlier on this week was not really justified given the circs.

The thought of him deleting his profile (I was planning to delete mine anyway) and sailing off into the sunset quite frankly scares the shit out of me.

not sure whether I should really drink the pear cider as well LOL