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where have all the fit and interesting men gone part.....9? isit 9?

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ridingjoker · 23/05/2009 07:08

ooooh i get to start the thread.
unless i'm being thick and cant find it.

lou - go on send me a pic of dark horse i'm so nosey.

ninah - i think thats really rude of your friend. if she didn't have anything nice to say she shouldn't have said anything at all.

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inthemistsoftime · 15/06/2009 13:34

asbm, yes he kissed my scars better, and a whole lot more besides

I understand where you are coming from with actionman, bob was quite similar,always tying too hard, it did put me off him!

rtp, how long have you been looking?

raggedtrouseredphilanthropist · 15/06/2009 13:54

itm
I have been single now for a year, but had to sort out ishoos. Been 'looking' I suppose for a few months, but I am VERY impatient, and am aghast at what pof has to offer!!! when you filter through (in no particular order) 1) vague looks (I am not looking for brad pit, but also not danny devito or some animal-man hybrid) 2) intelligence and 3) actually having a job, you are left with very little.... and i havent even filtered through 4) interesting yet!!

I am not actually in any hurry - I actually just think its that time of the month where I am more, lets say, interested in men...

raggedtrouseredphilanthropist · 15/06/2009 13:56

I of course, fit all the above criteria!!! lol

aseriouslyblondemoment · 15/06/2009 13:58

itm tmi!!
ohh poor old bob eh?
rtp no probs and nowt wrong with being fussy

inthemistsoftime · 15/06/2009 14:02

I dont think that any of the dating sites are better than each other.

one of the things I enjoy most is a harmless bit of flirting which you can get from most sites.

rtp, lol at that time of the month where you are more interested in men!

hang in there someone nice will turn up, as we know it can actually happen, rj and ninah haved proved it and it looks like lou has a keeper as well. I shall be saying nothing about my my cyber man for the moment!

lou33 · 15/06/2009 15:34

he is still here, i am dropping him to the station in about 40 mins

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ridingjoker · 15/06/2009 16:40

afternoon all.

hmm... time of the month. i'm at that time of the month where i dont want to get jiggy. i just want rid.lol.

does everyone else suffer from wanting action during this time? i just want left in peace. have been known to chuck guys when i'm in this mood.simply because the urge strikes me. not because they have done anything wrong

itm - glad you have fun with marathon man. sounds like you had more exercise than just cycling

asbm - are you sure your looking for interesting? or are you so accustomed to having a relationship with drama and emotional rollercoaster that you find a "normal" relationship which just chugs along as boring???

i am guilty of this. think it accounts for all my previous disasterous relationships. that thing of being attracted to a real bugger of a bloke as its exciting at first. but truth be told its very unhealthy.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 15/06/2009 17:21

lol @ rj
yes i want interesting and interesting doesn't mean a shitty bad boy either
i really don't want drama but i do need to be mentally stimulated and tho actionman's hobbies don't bother me in the slightest i'm not sure if long term there is enough common ground between us iyswim
anyhow will just go with the flow for now
how's things with you besides pmt?!

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ridingjoker · 15/06/2009 17:39

pmt definately. must be due on.lol

well... actually i have another thing to moan about with my pmt.

marvel is a hugger. but a proper limpet/octapus stuck to me thing . i dont mind an arm around. or a wee hug. but last night we were watching dvd , and i had to inform him if he didn't let me out a head lock i'd refuse to sit near him any longer.

"oh i didn't realise"

problem is he's 6ft 3, and well built, muscly from his sports too now.

so when a huge bulging bicep is draped round my shoulder i get frigging squashed/pinned/strangled * delete as appropriate.

i'm trying to tell him nicely that i'm not an overly affectionate person, and although i like the way he is.

occassionally... when i have PMT .... BACK THE FUCK OFF.

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lou33 · 15/06/2009 17:48

@ back the fuck off

darkhorse has gone now so i can post without looking over my shoulder in case he walks in!

Janos · 15/06/2009 17:58

rj.

I do like a man who thinks and has something to say for himself (as long as its not a load of racist or right wing bilge, then he can eff off).

A bit of spark I guess.

Clinginess is not an attractive quality in anybody, male or female. I really dislike constant phoning/texting/cuddling or any other 'needy' behaviour.

Not saying cuddles aren't nice, but in moderation.

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ridingjoker · 15/06/2009 18:13

he's not needy. he's kept very busy with his hobbies , and doesn't text until i've responded iykwim. he can text. and i wont get another till i respond. be that 10 mins or next day. he's been trained in the calling department. i'm not huge fan of calling unless i'm in mood.

and i dont mind curling up on sofa together. unless its that time of month where i start getting hot and bothered and dont want to be touched. i start getting hot and agitated.(sp?).

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Janos · 15/06/2009 18:27

I know what you mean rj - I wasn't talking about anyone here tbh but more about situations where it's happened to me and it's really put me off.

In particular one bloke was just really full on - he would call starting at eight in the morning and if I ignored phone keep calling until I answered. Then would start why don't you pick up the phone etc etc (other stuff too). Would also grab me and demand snogs etc in the middle of the street.

I did actually like this guy but he was so utterly full on that it put me off. I tried explaining that I didn't like this sort of behaviour, but did like him, and could he just calm down please? Even downright bluntness didn't work.

I quickly went from liking to irritation to, in the end, full on antipathy.

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ridingjoker · 15/06/2009 18:33

haha. i cant imagine anything more embarassing then snogging full on with some bloke in street.

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Janos · 15/06/2009 18:37

Yuk me neither rj. I've never been one for excessive PDAs. Get a room FGS!

Remotew · 15/06/2009 18:38

I'm the same, don't like to be smothered all the time. One guy sulked if I sat on a different sofa to him.

The guy from POF has sent another text calling me sexy, urgh!! I ignored and only replied to the next more polite one.

Just a thought but does anyone think we are rushing into the physical too soon. Maybe repeating myself but a certain dating guru suggests waiting 3 months to give us chance to find out if they/we are irritating. This is with a view to finding a lasting relationship rather than My Right Now.

DeeLerious · 15/06/2009 18:39

Please give the other one a name, even if it's Phwoar. Dark Horse sounds so mysterious. The other one, well. . . .???!!! Be careful not to mix them up -hobbies, names, family members - it could get messy!

Remotew · 15/06/2009 18:40

Then again I have met one or two who I would have snogged anywhere. If only I could find that again.

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ridingjoker · 15/06/2009 18:48

eve - i did wait with marvel...... he says he's been waiting since his first date in febuary. so he waited 4-5 months.lol

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Janos · 15/06/2009 18:49

Yuk, eve. I'm picking up some sleazebag vibes from mr 'sexy texts'. Sending stuff like that when you haven't invited it and also have made it clear you don't like it is very creepy.

I think rushing into the physical stuff - whether you do it or not - depends on what you are looking for. If you just want to have fun then fine but I guess if you are looking for something more serious it's best to wait a bit? Obviously I'm no guru, just MO.

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ridingjoker · 15/06/2009 18:49

deelerious - its a lot less confusing with nicknames than constantly referring to the guy or the other guy. lol.

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DeeLerious · 15/06/2009 18:50

Oh codflappers! I've done it again! Thought I was at the end of the conversation when really I was at the beginning. Ignore my last post ladies!
I had a clingy friend once - everytime I told him to back off he told me I was aloof, said he liked it in a woman & got more clingy!

notevenamousie · 15/06/2009 19:01

Can I join? Or rejoin, from way back when this thread was young!!

I split with someone I'd been seeing for a few months last week. asbm was very kind to me - thank you - whilst I was feeling sad. I'm still a bit sad about it. I might be just living vicariously through you for a bit if that's ok. Trying to think of all the good reasons for splitting up - there are many.

lou33 · 15/06/2009 19:03

well i had a really lovely few days with darkhorse being here, and so did the kids

there is a tentative plan for him to come back next weekend, if he can once he has checked his plans

we have a plan in the pipeline to try and take the kids geocaching, though neither of us have done it before, but i have ordered a beginners book

he says between us we can get ds2 past any areas that might be harder for just me to deal with, what with the wheelchair

lou33 · 15/06/2009 19:04

oh and he has also sponsored the ds's for their school walk this friday

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