ooh this is all very interesting and that is a really good way of looking at it rj. I sent one message and didn't get a reply and retired in a fit of pique . I shall have a trawl tomorrow and see if anyone catches my eye
If you get winks on frd, don't you need to pay to see who they're from? Or am I doing something wrong?
I paid for a subscription to soulmates (which isn't proving very fertile ground) so can't really pay for two.
I think I need to do some looking there though - the fact that I've paid should make me get off my lazy arse.