where have all the fit and interesting available men gone?Part 3...

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Elm thought you'd like that

right he is asleep and snoring, which is what i should be doing, so am off
goodnight

nite Lou
and Holly watch out or will send some of my blocked list to your in-box lol

actually i might anyhow will give you a lorra lorra laffs

By quickienamechangee on Thu 19-Feb-09 21:55:19

You might want to look for a program called "zone alert". It takes a bit to set it up but once set and working it monitors ALL incoming and out going Internet activity. If you put the settings up, you have to give permission for various software applications to access the Internet.

You also have the option of stopping all Internet activity by closing all the Internet ports.

What makes you think the bloke is hacking into your PC? I knew a lady (years back) who had an ex who installed software on her PC which emailed him screen shots and copies of her emails. She changed all her passwords and the problem was sorted.

There is plenty to try, the trick is to look for the weaknesses.

shit thats really bad N1

I've changed all my passwords and he's still getting in. He was an IT technician and he used to have my laptop networked when he lived here. In an argument recently I accused him of hacking them and he said he could see everything via his phone anyway!

I'm going to get my BIL to wipe this laptop next week as I keep finding VNC software on here that I can't seem to remove.

Also he keeps letting things slip things that I know he cant know (like who i'm talking to on dating sites!) also when i'm on dates, who i'm with etc. Its really annoying and feels like a real invasion of my privacy-especially as he's the one who ended the marriage due to his affair

oh and i've found loads of books on computer hacking when I was packing his stuff. it creeps me out tbh.

I don't use VNC.

Have you tried the obvious and looked at the processes that are running?Do you know how to use "hijackthis"?

Have you tried removing the settings from the start up process?

Do you know about using regedit?

quickie
this is awful stuff
i know that alot of us on here are quite guarded with due reason
but god forbid how the hell does he know who you are chatting to/seeing off dating sites
{shudder emoticon}
i can just imagine what my exh would say if he were to hack into my pc or god forbid my mobile
my friends know that if anything were to happen to me they will safeguard them for me

I used hijack this and it didn't flag anything up.

umm i confess i'm crap- how do i look at whats up and running?

I can't re set the main passwords without wiping the laptop as its still set up (tho disconnected) as part of his server network

quickie
its creepy and its downright wrong

Exactly- how does he know? some details that he knows must only be that he has got into my match account and viewed the guys profiles!! scary stuff indeed. I keep changing the passwords- need to see if he has a keylogger on here or some other hacking software. If i or my BIL find anything like that on here then i'll go to the police. Its an outrage that he can do this yet as i'm finding out, he has a deeply controlling personality.

oh and he said yesterday that 'if i was to find anything then its not what he has put on' wtf? why would I put that on my own laptop? i'm scared tbh what I might find he has had access to.

are you on XP or vista?

oh god this is hideous beyond words
does the NM know about this?

To see processes. Press cntl, alt and del at the same time. Then click on task manager, then choose processes.

Are you on his network? or your own network?

Even if you find that the ex can monitor you, the chance of him getting charged is remote. It's a worthless exercise. Solve the problem and limit him seeing what you do.

vista ..am going to try that now. I was on his network but given that he moved all his stuff out i assumed i'm no longer connected. The icons at the bottom right say i am missing network drives?

there are loads of proccesses running- both system, network, local and my user account. what is normal?

NM knows but we only talk via text so he is 'under the radar'. I am talking to people on match tho and i object to him knowing what i am saying to people!

If you write or print the name of the processes off then look each one up to see what they do. That would be a good start.

evening N1 how are you
and how's your CW?

hello (ahem) HELLO! Can I join in?

yay of course
so spill
how did you meet him?

We are at uni together-he is lovely-6ft 5, 23 (as am I) university rugby team, dreamy dreamy, and am going to put my phone number and request for tent building in his pidgeon hole tomorrow . Am already starting to chicken out!