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lets laugh, who gets maintenance and how much?

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onlywantsone · 12/02/2009 08:11

I'm laughing, really I am - my XP doesnt see my DD due to various issues but givesme a voluntary contribution towards her upbringing out of the "kindness" of his heart of

drum roll please

£5 a week

TA DA!!!!!

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RealityIsMyOnlyValentine · 12/02/2009 11:26

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PersephoneSnape · 12/02/2009 11:50

i get £20 a fortnight for my three Dcs. when he doesn't spend it on somethng more 'important' like booze and fags or his gf. he hasn't paid it this week, didn't pay it at xmas as he wanted to get something nice for his gf.

anniemac · 12/02/2009 11:58

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AnarchyAuntSaysRomanceIsDead · 12/02/2009 12:08

Why is it so crap though? Have heard tales on MN of the Canadian/Australian child support system, which seems to actually have teeth and manages to collect far more money, and more quickly too.

Its not even just that the CSA is a bit slow, or loses the odd file. Its almost unbelieveable, the way they fail so spectacularly.

My first case was closed, with no communication to/from me, after a year. They don't know who closed it or why . Then they opened a new one. And sent it to Plymouth - neither myself or ex have ever even been to Plymouth but they insist there is a 'local connection'. Then it was 'suspended'. Then it was reopened and we got a few laughably small payments. Then it was suspended again for reasons unknown. Then I was promised an extra 33p a week towards the arrears - they dont actually know how big the arrears are, as they have never actually done a maintainance calculation. Well, they did one once, but it was disregarded when ex said it was wrong, and they never did another one. They say they can't find ex - he is where he always has been, he just doesn't answer letters which is apparently all it takes to get the CSA to shuddup and fuck off. Now we are getting nothing again. Don't know why.

Pretty much everyone I talk to has similar stories - cases closed, cases lost, cases suspended, staff telling you one thing but if you ring the next day someone else tells you something else, no continuity of case workers, no callbacks when they are promised, no real ability to enforce payment, no answers to simple questions.... I could go on and on.

Why? Its not that hard is it?

AnarchyAuntSaysRomanceIsDead · 12/02/2009 12:09

Oh and anniemac - ex doesn't have contact with DD (his choice - he refuses to arrange any or to commit to any of my suggestions). And he doesn't pay for anything else for her either.

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anniemac · 12/02/2009 12:13

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anniemac · 12/02/2009 12:39

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MascaraOHara · 12/02/2009 12:40

get nothing.. though supposedly I'm entitled to £2.50 a week

Luckily am financially stable but it still make me want to poke him in the eye with something small and sharp 100's of times.. like maybe a straightened paper clip... mmmm yep, that'd do it.

har har har

Aimsmum · 12/02/2009 12:40

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drlove8 · 12/02/2009 12:43

i am shocked at the posts. OMG i am disgusted that you all get so much agro and so little money from your ex's, either via csa or otherwise. i get £60 a week from exH or my 3 from first marriage, although it took some doing, most is arrears( exh wouldgs chuck job when csa caught up with him, he's been warned if he does it again its prison).apart from that he does nothing,sees kids for about 10 days in the year and doesnt show intrest in their school,health or hobbies, if it wasnt for his mum i dont think he'd even bother at all. my current DH does not pay csa for his kids from first marriage , he gives direct to exW (she's lovely fab girl)and pays for shoes ,clothes, school trips,pocket money, even buys exW fag ans gas and electric if she runs out! it suits us all and exW gets more than what she would if csa was involved.but he helps her in other ways too, always takes kids too doctors and dentists, helps her decorate ,and fixes things that break down(washing machine ,tumble dryer).some men are just fab, but most are slime.

anniemac · 12/02/2009 12:46

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Ewe · 12/02/2009 12:47

DP and I split up for about 8 months last year, lived seperately etc and in that time he gave me £480 per month towards our baby's upbringing.

I can't believe that your exes don't want to pay and help out. What arseholes.

citronella · 12/02/2009 12:51

Maintenance!? Maintenance!? You're having a laugh arent you?

citronella · 12/02/2009 12:55

Mind you I don't expect to.

lostdad · 12/02/2009 12:56

I pay a few hundred a month. My ex and me came to an agreement concerning that. That includes the last 6 months when I have been out of work and more in debt than I have ever been. Under the agreement this will however result in monthly payments decreasing drastically at which point I expect her to break the agreement and go to the CSA.

It's just a shame that her amicable attitude doesn't extend to allowing our some time with his father - what with the moving him 300 miles away without warning and stringing out a court case to over 2 years because she refuses to even talk about working together to raising him.

anniemac · 12/02/2009 13:06

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StewieGriffinsMom · 12/02/2009 13:09

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FAQinglovely · 12/02/2009 13:12

no my ex doesn't pay for much - however as I stated earlier it's "complicated" our situation so I don't begrudge him at all.

sparklet · 12/02/2009 13:13

That stinks lostdad, I can't believe the courts aren't more favourable towards your DS spending a decent amount of time with you. And then to expect you to cough up all that money.... And most of us here not getting a bean from our exes, the system is all over the place.