Think I may have put him off by making it sound like hard work

[wintercitylover]

Very basic internet dating issue.

Been chatting to guy online (he is single but 40ish) he asked to meet so fine I said ok when and where? He came back with a day.

I realise (due to my limited availability) that I prob should have suggested a day and time etc

Cos I then replied backsaying not easy to meet in the weekday evenings because would have to get babysitter, could do lunchtimes in the week, or every other sat. Blah Blah Bit like in those 80s films when people said I will find you a window!!

Finishing up with a jokey bit about well if that hasn't put you off

Thing is it prob has hasn't it? he's read the mail thought omg how complicated and run for the hills (as we on mumsnet like to say).

Shame cos it was instant attraction on my part. Suppose if he is really interested it wouldn't put him off.

Anyway he's not he only iron I have in the fire (lol) and I have similar probs with the other trying to meet up. It's not that easy.

so are you still going to meet Mr Keen then if you have these thoughts
the exb situation is really awful
i do hope that it isn't holding you back
is it something which you perhaps need to resolve once and for all?

yes I am going to meet him because he seems a nice guy and if nothing else may be a friend. But I just wasn't prepared for that - and it just made me realise how much I miss him.

I don't know how to resolve exbf situation really. I think it will be more of a gradual process - in time. Though there will still always be a part of me that hopes he will want me.

But I have moved on in that I know if he contacts me and asks to see me I will tell him I can't unless he wants a proper relationship. Whereas previously I kept seeing him.

I have only ever been in this situation twice and the last time it was him as well!!

more of a weaning process?
he has played a major part in your life so it will be hard
very different to how you felt when your marriage ended
he does need to be told what the score is thou
i have no progress to report
lots of dull,unattractive men
lots of hits from oldies
fingers worn out from pressing the block button!

same name 2 will only ever become a fb I think (if we ever meet), but that's fine with me. Think it would be sizzling.

An 18 year old wanted to chat today - I usually just ignore such requests but sent him a brief mail back saying that i would not feel at all comfortable with it.

My cut off is abt 33.

am wondering what Lou would say to that
i would feel very uncomfortable too and im late 30s
i cant even look at a man unless i can relate to him in some way and an 18 yr old?
perhaps he sees you as some kind of Mrs Robinson lol!
tbh i dread opening my mail as i know my heart will just sink..

anyone who has teen in their age is invisible to me

late 20's and up is more suitable for me

ok have started that thread
feel free...!!
and WCL expect you to chip in too!