Think I may have put him off by making it sound like hard work

[wintercitylover]

Very basic internet dating issue.

Been chatting to guy online (he is single but 40ish) he asked to meet so fine I said ok when and where? He came back with a day.

I realise (due to my limited availability) that I prob should have suggested a day and time etc

Cos I then replied backsaying not easy to meet in the weekday evenings because would have to get babysitter, could do lunchtimes in the week, or every other sat. Blah Blah Bit like in those 80s films when people said I will find you a window!!

Finishing up with a jokey bit about well if that hasn't put you off

Thing is it prob has hasn't it? he's read the mail thought omg how complicated and run for the hills (as we on mumsnet like to say).

Shame cos it was instant attraction on my part. Suppose if he is really interested it wouldn't put him off.

Anyway he's not he only iron I have in the fire (lol) and I have similar probs with the other trying to meet up. It's not that easy.

oh hang on though, how do you feel about younger men?

nah let him make the legwork

wcl lets hope he gets back to you pronto then!

he suggested one eve next week so I have gone back with two possibles - just waiting to hear back.

Looks like it may happen.

woohoo!

I will be added to his virtual harem lol!!!

just make sure you are the number one concubine

brill!some positive news!

brill!some positive news!

we chatted on MSN last night. He is a bit prone to one word answers which is hard work but need to meet him to see whether he is like that in RL ( ie hard work)

potentially have three difft. dates lined up for next week - not deliberate move just how it's panned out.

You know what'll happen next - exbf will get in touch. Last year I deleted his no (had a sort of ceremony) - next night who txt me!!!

in fact the whole theme here seems to be hard work lol

well i guess its just a case of waiting to see what he's like in RL
the exb situation is tricky
knowing your luck he probably will re-emerge from that woodwork where alot of them seem to be lurking
but still it's some sort of progress
but don't you find that it takes up so much of your mental energy
tbh i feel that i can't frankly be arsed with it anymore!!

good luck wcl!
My chap came round last night and I couldn't help feeling distant, dunno why. The hard work aspect of it I suppose, so much going on without worrying about someone else ... didn't let it show, but is this kind of persistent ambivalence normal? or just me? I really can't remember how it works.

Hi ninah!
no all normal
i felt like that so knew it was over
didn't have heart to do it unless in person
he guessed it was coming so is avoiding me
i can't be bothered to take things further
but am relieved to have the worry taken off
he is a grown man FFS
i have other priorities/responsibilities
but hey don't let me put you off lol!

Ah, sorry to hear that. It was the first time I've felt like that so far, I suppose the novelty of the situation is wearing off, he sits down and starts talking about the closures on the motorway etc blah blah and then wants a shag and I'm like oh go away I've just started a good book. And all I kind think of is lou's expression horny dullards. Wish you hadn't said that lou! I'm hoping it was an off night.

yes know alot of those horny dullards!!
as i say ninah
don't let me put you off
hoping it was just an off night for you

maybe! thanks

oops sorry ninah!

Lets hope
and yes WCL did tell you about changing the name of this thread
as it is hard work
too bloody hard!!

I know some horny dullards and a horny smurf

Hoping I get some energy soon from somewhere - think I'm still recovering from Xmas and New Yr flu.

my mind is boggling at the concept of a horny smurf

it's actually a line I stole from a tv show (SATC) but describes a very horny smallish man. I'm guessing about 5' 4" ish. Height did not affect his sexual prowess!!

prowess and horniness are often a world apart tho

there you go being all cynical again on us ninah
but a horny smurf?
this isnt that rhino man in disguise is it lol!

SBM. Lou

• need your input!

one of the potential dates (not the same names ones) seems to be getting a bit carried away(not physically but emotionally) - bit too attentive and trying to make out we are very similar etc bit too texty

I have only agreed to going out on a date with him - owe him nothing. Suppose the thing is if I thought he was really right then it wouldn't matter but I am not sure - he just seems a v nice guy.

I always attract xtremes either bad boy or smothering