i fancy someone, anyone else got thier sights on someone? indulge me in this bit of fantasy!

[piratecat]

I do like having a fancy, yet as nice as it is it really makes you realise you are on yuor own iyswim.

Like being single is my normal, and its ok, but you realise it would in fact be nice to have someone to cuddle. (and the rest)

Hey Lou - that was the thread i was referring too. I cant say i am not surprised - you seemed so dead against it but if its what you want and you are sure you really feel this way then BLOODY GOOD LUCK TO YA GIRL!! I have nothing but support and wish you every happiness mrs!!! Really good to hear some good news actually. just tried to start a cheery thread on the relationships section and oooohhh it landed like a stone! It would appear people in relationships dont like to talk about happy stuff -more share in one anothers misery!

my date has disappeared - ah well back to drooling over the personal trainer (and maybe a little peer at richard armitage in robin hood. yum!!!)

all gone - jsut read your posts about hoping your ex comes back. i am in the " nope not even allowing myself to think about that stage" and am battling a serious case of mentionitis at the moment. i know he is a git but there a times its really really hard and cause he was a sod i feel like if i admit that people are like "ohhh get over it". hope you find someone lovely soon!!!

i emailed my exbf in the end and told him not to play his games with me again as i wont have it anymore

like i said, i think i was dead against it because of my past, so i was putting huge defensive tactics in place, but actually, now we have talked a lot more, i dont want to do that anymore

i told mine to do the same only i used the words "go fxxk yourself cause i cant be bothered any more". good luck lou i am really glad you have found someone and from everything you have said he sounds like he really cares about you.

he is a good man

i sent that email (to exbf) 5 days ago and no reply as yet, but then i am not surprised by that

i am glad i sent it, it felt cathartic

good on ya girl - what is it with men playing games - I mean if they want to play games fuck off n find a play mate who's of that liking!

they cant help themselves. its how they test if you really care about them apparently. at least the ones with the emotional depth of 2 year old shellfish.

blokey no 1 (well the one which i'm not so into) was seeking reassurance we would work out. wtf??? go play your games else where mate cos I don't play games! if u can't be mates n take a risk, & have to come forward then pull back then blame me!!! piss off!

Blimey, I don't check on here for a couple of days & it all happens!

Good luck Lou, you've obviously thought it all through long & hard, and sound more definate about it with eahc post.

PC, slow & steady's probably the best way, (probably should listen to that myslef!), no need to dive in head first, just enjoy it & have fun, enjoy having someone to go for a drink/lunch/whatever with. Bloody good on ya for having the bottle and just going for it.

Well I have decided that mine is 'the one'...he stayed last night (not for the 1st time, but 1st time he's got up after me). I passed the bedroom after he'd got up and went in there to make the bed, but it was already made !!!. OMG! I didn't know men who made beds existed, and it was perfectly straight, all the pillows the right way round, everything smoothed out! I'm so impressed. I really can't recall a time when xp made the bed.

panda honestly how did you decide other than the bed thing he was/is the one?

dtm, I decided years ago he was 'the one'.

We clicked the second we met, we had our induction together and everyone else in the room was totally irrelevant.

I didn't see him for about 2 years after we'd both left that job, but never once stopped thinking about him (even though I was still with xp).

Then we had a night together about a year ago, that went no further & I cried solidly for 3 days.

I just thought I wasn't his 'one', but it seems maybe I am. He's said he's been hurt by how I've been lately (I've been a slut).

Once I'd met him, I just put up with xp really, thinking that I'd have to make do with what I had as I never thought I'd get him.

Everything with him feels so right, there's no awkwardness, we're totally relaxed, just feels normal with him.

Should add that I'm not a believer in 'the one' & love at 1st sight etc, but for him I can be convinced that both exist.

panda that is lovely news

i am tired today, because i persuaded new p to come over and stay last night, but he had t get a cab as he had been drinking, and i promised to run him home this morning

trouble is i had to run him home at 5.30 this morning! got back home at 7.30, made breakfast for the kids, sent them off to school and had a nap, but i think i need some more hours lol

the good thing is i saw him, and we went through all the property details together whittling them down to about a dozen, dd1 joined in too

awwww its nice that you are getting into things LOU x

the older guy MSNed me last night......really nice bloke but i dont know if i would be comfortable on dating a man 17 years older than me lol.....he is good looking......but its 17 years

fawke, where di yo meet him again?

what does he look like?

nosenose

I am still hoping for a text back i asked him to let me know about the coffee thing.

it's about 24hrs now. not that i care

fawkes - ages is irrelevant to a degree. go for coffee - nothing in it plain simple coffee.

thats good news lou.

panda - not sure i believe in 'the one either' - would be nice thou. did see this new chap and thought hmm.... nice, then kissed him n thought WOW!! so must be good! lol.

lol@ pirate!

oh no u dont care one bit

bet that bloody phone is superglued to your hand lol

i put myself on POF.com.....got loads of rude emails....absolutely shocking!!!!

but he seemed nice so we exchanged msn details.....he has not once been filthy towards me, very nice,funny intersting blah blah, has a good job........but i am just not sure?????????

i am afraid that he will treat me more of a daughter....and likewise......i dont bloody know

oh no DAVIDTENNANTSMISTRESS he wants to take me for dinner....in the evening lol......i just dont know

i doubt he will treat you like a daughter but you dont sound very keen so i wouldnt bother tbh

see I wouldn't be happy with an evening meal for a first date - but I guess he is. i'd go more for the coffee idea - cos if it is a non starter then you can scald your mouth drinking your brew as fast as you can for a sharp exit! lol. what does he feel about lunch or something?

althou i'm not keen on eating in front of people I don't know.

i know i dont think i would be able to eat.....and be so nervous that i drink copious amounts of vino and make a tit of myself anyway .....think we either need to evaluate the situation or just forget about it

we need to know his user name!! i am on pof, but could have a look, cos i am a nosey cow. i wuold hide the fact i was looking,

purrrrrrrrleeeeeeeeeeeeeeese!!

what about a walk on the beach or something?

dont' think he'd be looking at you as a daughter. tbh. what put me off with chaps over 40 was the fact they came across as wanting to boost their ego's by pulling a 20 something year old! but if he's not like that - go for it as I say what's the harm in a coffee - not like you're committing to marrying him or anything

im not on there but will look nosey me