i fancy someone, anyone else got thier sights on someone? indulge me in this bit of fantasy!

[piratecat]

I do like having a fancy, yet as nice as it is it really makes you realise you are on yuor own iyswim.

Like being single is my normal, and its ok, but you realise it would in fact be nice to have someone to cuddle. (and the rest)

[fawkeoff]

he seems witty, made me chuckle tonight, he has a 6 year old daughter......ive also made it very clear that i wont meet him until i get a better picture of the situation......i sippose my thoughts of him rose because i told him that i am not a slag and if he just wanted cheap thrills then fuck off....i wasnt dealing with pervs........and he was fine by it, have told him i may just want to be friends and enjoy his company.........he said he doesnt usually go for women under 30....emphasised trhat i was VERY young, i have never been inklined to such older men but i thought why not.....he actually sent me a lovely message....unlike some others

[zippitippitoes]

are you 23

i think that is young to see a 40 year old tbh if you were my daughter and i have 23 nd 24 year old daughters lol

but a 31 year old bf

[fawkeoff]

lol well i just dont know!!!!!!! maybe you are right ha ha

[zippitippitoes]

see him if after a phone chat etc he seems nice its only date..it is too big a gap for a long term relationship in my view

i know i will i get hurt in the end but we have gone in too deep now for me to pull out

[fawkeoff]

oh god!!!! i dont want anything serious from him........at all
I cant even explain why i replied....he wasnt the only guy who sent me mail....but i only replied to him.......i dont know what to do/think...but i wont be making a rash decision, just wanted an opinion x

and you cant know that it wil end in tears age gaps can work

[zippitippitoes]

well we like each other enough so far i am surprised tho i just which he was older

[piratecat]

morning.

zip glad to hear you are still with your man, how did that dinner/dance thing go. I know it was prob ages ago.

fawke, i guess that guy's email was out of the blue, and prob more mature sounding. not that men of 40 always get it right! I had a gorgeous email from a 22 yr old italian a few days ago, very polite, and he was lovely too. I wish i was 23 tho, why not have my age instead!

I have decided to go for it when i get chance. it's not as tho he got engaged at the weekend is it? I have a feelin that i will be relieved, and can move on form this hedonistic, crazy lovesick bubble i have created!!

I really havent got time for this!!

wish me luck.

[davidtennantsmistress]

pirate - hmm, not sure what to say - at least you know he's dating, see what happens there - i'd advise caution (althou i'm full of caution at the mo in some respects). but see how it gets on - never know this other person might be nothing of something iycwim. let him know you like him, or see if your mutual friends can arrange a night out where you'll both be there?

fawkes - how big is big yes? oldest person i've been on a date with is 44, (i'm 26) and he was lovely but to be brutally honest way too old for me (firstly he didn't want more kids and his eldest was 19 - but was a lovely man either way) have dated ones 38/39 - hmm, tbh I think that's the border for me - but the thing is until you try dating an older man you don't know how you're gonna feel - for me i'd not go for one over 40 again.

oh and listen to zippi - her n lou are my internet (dating) guru's!

glad things are still well with your chappy zippi.

I have a Q for you girls - how soon is too soon to have them over to yours? (I won't see the chap from last sat again until weekend after next, was going to try this weekend but i've got stuff on with mum - during the week it's hard to get a sitter (had a 10pm curfew - stupid really am a grown woman with my own house but mum's up early for work). I'd offer man to come over for some drinks or something but think it's a bit soon, we could go to the pub here but then he came down here last time and i'm a bit funny about him always coming here - as I feel it's only fair for me to go there, althou I know he would come down to here if it meant us seeing each other. Oh finally heard from the other one last night as well - he's looking for reassurance I can't provide - he want's to know we'll definatly work out - I know he's been hurt etc before but who can honestly offer that level of commitment/pressure so soon?

[zippitippitoes]

ball was lovely it was two weeks ago

lesslovely that my car engine blew up on the m40 and it has been in a garage in london ever since

it is costing me estimated £2200 to repair

but i am stioll alive

i am not internet dating guru i got full marks for emails and nil pointsd for dates i only met two guys because i am still seeing one

so not any dating experience

in fact it feels a bit like commuting i seem to be two or three days a week away from home

[piratecat]

god zippi, sounds dreadful. i am glad oyu are ok. what a nightmare having to fork out all that.

ok

took bull by horns and went and found hi and said hi and gave him a note of my phone number.

feel released now!!

it was quite liberating, and he seemed rather taken back and smiley. so hey ho!!

[davidtennantsmistress]

well done you! fingers crossed he gives you a call for a date!

that sound awful zip - is it cheaper to get a new car?

[zippitippitoes]

i already spent a thousand pounds on it...500 pounds on a service asn anew cam belt 100 miles before the pistons smashed through the engine

doesnt take much to realise who i blame the car has only done 47k miles

it will be worth about 3.5k wqhen the work is done i couldnt get the same car for the money but it is close

it is having a secind hand engine put in and they reckon 15 hours labour

piratecat that sounds brave anbd interesting

[davidtennantsmistress]

bloody hell, is it not under warrenty still?

[zippitippitoes]

no it is 6 years old and sadly just faslls outside the 6 years for blaming fiat themselves

i think the garage did something wrong

i probably should have recovered it back to warwickshire and not twickenham as it would have been cheaper probably but i was en route to bf lol

[piratecat]

yes zippi i had that thought in replyin gto you on your other thread.

[dragonstitcher]

I'm late coming to this thread. I've been a single mum for 5 weeks, I left because X is emotional abusive. I'm finding that I'm missing male company already. Strange because X was never great company.

About a month before I left, we went to a beach 100 miles from home and bumped into one of my DDs teachers. He came over and chatted with me and X. He was there with his 2 boys and his in-laws. No sign of a wife strangely. I bumped into him again a couple of weeks after I left and we both commented about how strange it was meeting so far away from home. Last week I went to DDs parents evening and saw him again. He brought up the meeting on the beach again, asking DD if she would rather be on the beach now.

I'm really embarrassed that I seem to have developed a bit of a crush on him. I've no idea if he is married. I didn't see a wife on the beach but he was there with his in-laws. He doesn't wear a wedding ring but not all men do. 16yo DD would be mortified if she knew cos she doesn't like him. DD#2 seems to like him though. I can't see me ever doing anything about it but fantasizing. lol

[piratecat]

he sent me a text

i have fainted.

mentions coffee/meeting/see how we get on type stuff.

[zippitippitoes]

oh wowee how excellent

[davidtennantsmistress]

oh wow I agree! YAY go you!

ds - welcome to the gang!

[piratecat]

still

[fawkeoff]

OMFG!!!!!!!!!!

i am so proud and chuffed that you did it

so when are you goin for a brew

[lou33]

oh that is fantastic pirate

[lou33]

i have thrown my lot in with my friend who proposed to me, i wont be seeing the french guy again

i guess you could say i am officially not single anymore

we are looking at houses on saturday, he is mad enough to want to take me and my kids all on and live in permanent noise and chaos

i am very happy

[LittleSarah]

Congrats to pirate and lou!

I was also single for ages... about 4 yrs. Anyway, getting married to gorgeous guy in two months so very happy. Also only recently started having crushes again, it was fecking great! And frustrating... and stressfull...

[dragonstitcher]

Wow, congrats Pirate, Lou and LSarah! I'm sworn off men apart from a little flirtation. lol