Just wondering - How many LP's with 3 or more kids have found a new man ??

[CrackerOfNuts]

Just curious.

I know 1 person with 3 kids who found a new bloke pretty much without even trying, but thats it, don't know anymore.

Do you think number of children makes a difference then?

Yes I do.

Blokes don't seem put off by someone with one or two kids, but three seems to be just too much.

I know loads of people who had one child and met someone else, and a few who had two and met someone, but only one with 3.

my mum was never short of blokes, i was the 3rd child, they called me her contraceptive as I was ALWAYS at her side and she always put me first

ROFL

(actually i think if i was any of them i would have shoved me in front of a bus) But there is hope
As you know I have been single a year and ive had the Oh I am not a good father to my own kids, I couldnt possibly take yours on...
WTF? I didnt fucking ASK you to.
That must be in the Book Of Wankerish comments.

Actually i did find it really easy to find new men when i only had one child and was single.

Now i am single again but with 2 kids and i am finding it does put people off! but i would never have wanted to be with a man who had kids anyway!!

Good luck Nutty, im sure it really doesnt all depend on number of children! i tend to think that any more than one child kind of is the same thing!!

My stepmother had 3 children when she met my dad he had 2, they then had one 10 years later (20 years after me) so thats a grand total of 6 children!

So yes it does happen so how come I NEVER meet anyone good and I only have 1?! Think it depends more on the man than the number of children

Oh yes CC, I have already had one bloke basically say that if I didn't have kids then he would have been interested. Think he'd have said the same even if i'd only had one though.

I have to spend all day with him at a wedding in August, and pretend he is a nice bloke

I think the thing is, is that there are loads of single people my age who don't have kids, so then any bloke looking to meet someone is gonna go for them first isn't he really ?

Maybe not someone your age that has kids himself too?

Yes, i think someone older with kids themselves might work, I just can't find any LOL.

We should put an add up in the post office.

Man wanted.

Has to be useful, child friendly, with own teeth and hair. Under 85, tho will consider others.

LMAO

Or you know those man and a van adverts...well you could ring up and say how much do you charge for the man on its own i dont need the van

Don't think number of children makes that much difference.
I have two children, and met my lovely boyfriend (who is 37 with no children) soon after my marriage separation. I told him within minutes of first talking to him that I was recently separated with two boys, and it didn't put him off at all. He has always said my children are not an issue for him.

I am the first person he has dated that has children. He was married for 10 years to a career driven woman, so they never had children themselves, and he dated one girl between his separation & meeting me, who was 35 & childless. That relationship only lasted 2 months as she wasn't his type at all, so the childless women don't always do better.

I have 6 DC's and I found a new man last year, when I was 43. I have never tried to make him move in with me, mind you. He spends time with us, but I've made it quite clear I wanted a BF, not a dad for my children. So perhaps it depends on what you want from the relationship.

They might well go for the singletons first, Nutty, but I happen to think I'm a lot more nice/interesting/ funny than self-obsessed singletons. Ok, they are probably all better looking than me but we have our plus points too, and don't, I mean DO NOT EVER, sell yourself short.

You know what your plus points are, so work them.

Any man that can't abide DC's is a child himself and not worth two seconds of your time if you have DC's. It is clearly non-negotiable, so drop him and move on. Be ruthless. You have as much right to ruthlessly search for what you want as they do. Instead of thinking you have no choice, you should be of the opnion that you have most need to choose well, so do it.

I hope you are now sincerely fired up in your belief that they don't choose you - you get to choose - and you will choose the best. Now go get 'em .....!!

I've been wondering about this myself, Nutty, as I am a similar age to yourself (and to the luscious Charliecat)

I hate that moment at which you have to introduce the fact that you have children. It's hard. It's difficult to do it in a way that doesn't sound like "I have children, you will never be important, I have no time for a boyfriend, and I'll always need to be at home surrounded by drudgery housework and screaming."

Because at least 45% of the time, it's all true!

I try to look at it like this - if he's put off by children, he can't be right for you because you need someone who isn't. It's better to find out sooner than later if you can make it happen, better sooner than in 6 months when you're head over heels.

Well I have two and I'm on my own now. I have a lot of men who want to date me but I seem to attract people who aren't suitable (younger - early 20s and at a different place in their life). And I'm quite choosy myself if it was for a LT relationship At the moment I feel I need to be by myself because I don't want to end up with someone wrong. But I also have found that there are a few men who think the way to to is to calmly and eloquently put forward all the reasons why I should date them LOL.

Well have never had to broach the subject of me having children tbh as haven't met anyone in over 2 years.

The bloke that turned me down because of my kids actually already knew me and knew I had kids, but decided to string me along for a bit before telling me he couldn't deal with it.

Littlewoman, it had never occured to me before, that I could choose. I did see it more as me being chosen.

I don't see how you can choose if no one wants you though ......confused emoticon needed.

Oh no Cracker - you choose, I agree. It has to be that way or you could end up with someone you don't really like. Do you go out? Have you tried that dating website PlentyOfFish? A lot of people I know use that.

The guy who did that sounds awful btw [sad

I have a profile on POF but it is hidden at the mo, because I was fed up of getting contacted by men in their 60's or idiots.

I don't really go out no, although I have got very slightly better with that. Went to the pictures with a friend last week and out for lunch too.

Am never ever ever approached by any blokes though, and I'd not approach them in a million years LOL.

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I have 4 children and am 41 and am not terribly optimistic about ever getting married again.