Ok, I lied, I am bothered about not having a bloke, infact it is driving me nuts

[CrackerOfNuts]

When ever anyone asks me if i'd like to meet someone, I say no. If they suggest dating sites, speed dating etc, I say that I am not interested, am happy as I am, and it is such a huge lie.

Not sure what ti says about me though, that I am so desperate for some male company.

I just so hate being single.

I know i stand no chance of meeting anyone either, not at the mo.

Hmm, I guess it depends what you want. If you want your leg over then I think plently of fish would be your way to go. Possibly, Maybe you could also meet someone from there for nioght in bottle of wine etc.
What about your brothers do they not have mates you could sniff around?

p.s my weekly male entertainment is a night out playing scrabble with my mates brother, what the HELL do i know

Oh Cracker

I never even deny it really!

I'm in love again and again it's not going to work...wish I could be happy alone but it is so lonely isn;t it.

Why do you not stand a chance? I feel like that too btw! (never go out, have baby sick on most clothes, am getting old...)

Leg over would be great, but I know I am no good at that type of thing as i get way too emotionally involved.

I'd prefer dating etc.

POF always ends up depressing me.

My older brother doesn't really have any mates, well not single ones anyway, and my younger brothers mates are too immature.

I have friends with single mates, but non of them seem willing to introduce me so god knows what that says.

I never go out Flight.

I only really want a job because it might increase the chances of me eventually meeting someone, which makes me sound really sad and desperate.

I am so lonely.

Have gone to bed at 9:30 for the past 3 nights, as I was fed up of my own company.

Ive just read on anothyer thread about your weekend away..there must be potential there?

Ive been in bed at 8pm the last three nights....

Unfortunatly not, as most of the others going are way prettier than me and have no kids, so it's easy to guess who will pull and who won't.

I don't do very well in big social situations anyway, i kind of shrink into the background.

I don't get why some people seem to meet blokes as easy as anything and then others like me never get a look in.

I never in a million years still thought i'd be on my own now.

Unshrink yourself then Make a point of being seen and heard, not too lairy mind!
You never know whats coming round the corner..and I KNOW you are sick of hearing that but you never know.

Where are they meeting them?
I know lots of terminally single folk. Me included.
I also know folk who do a lot of shagging around.
For some, thats fine, thats what they want.
But others are looking for more and they arent getting it that way.

I can't CC, I just can't, it's not me. I know I will end up sat/stood in the corner with my mates mum and another shy girl thats going, which I don't really mind tbh as I hate club environments.

Perhaps once I am a bit drunk I will be better.

The last party I went to, I really panicked everytime my friend left me to go outside for a fag, cos i was so worried someone might speak to me.

I don't know where they meet them tbh. Most of them meet them online I think.

I know one who met someone about 6mths after splitting with her ex and they are now happy as anything, engaged etc.

I don't expect to meet someone and fall head over heels and live happily ever after, but not even getting any interest, even online is sending my confidence even lower.

It does sound like a confidence thing really to me.....I dont know how you could increase your confidence in yourself...and you do get interest online, just not from anyone YOU are interested in. And I bet you dont contact those that you do like the look of...

Aw nutty i am sorry you feel like this but i can fully understand why.

Again not much to my surprise you sound like me your self esteme sounds low & your confidence, i am like that when i go out, would hate for my friend to leave me etc etc, the only way round it i found was to have a couple of drinks before going out so i was well on my way, then i just got drunk but tried to not get to drunk so i could actually stand up (well just about)

To be honest i never wanted to meet any of the men in pubs, i hate the whole slezy atmosphere where men are trying to pick up women & vice versa.

Is it a relationship you want eventually? or just some company & erm well a shag lol?

I met my dp on the internet was not really looking & was going out every weekened with mates having a ball, was young free & single & had just come out an awful relationship so loving time to myself!

I used to go on the internet when i was bored & just chat to people, i met my dp after i had been in hospital with kidney infection & was signed off work for 6 weeks, we chatted alot & then it moved to on the phone, eventually i needed to know who this person was in real life because i was falling for him, we met & now nearly 7 years on we have 2 kids. Do you use the internet to chat?

meeting people online isn't always easy thou when it spills into RL as they can be totally different. Also I chat to a few online just as mates, and they've all said they don't get much interest and would like to have a woman email them - so how about dropping one you like the look of a line to say 'fancy a chat sometime'

also how were you getting on with talking to random people at the shops - or a smile & a hello. re a job have you thought of an agency you can get perm jobs from there.

I have contacted people I like on the internet, but they either don't reply or they do reply and then dissapear when I mentoin my kids because they hadn't read my profile properly first.

I met xp on the CB radio , so very siilar to internet really.

I am not currently on any dating sites, oh except for Parents Already, and I never get anyone contact me on there or reply to my messages.

I also have the Are you interested application on my profile on FB and lol no one is interested.

Scooby I am beginning to think we are long lost twins you know. I also wouldn't really like to meet a bloke in a pub/club for the exact same reasons you just sta\ted, plus I always think that they must like pubs/clubs then, and I don't.

I would love a relationship, but realise that this won;t happen without a few dates etc first.

Where else can I chat to people then ?

Sorry about awful typing, i'm half watching the kids play on the wii.

Wrt to chatting to people at bus stops etc, I still don't really, well not unless they speak to me first, and anyway it's always women.

I must get dressed, will be back to read replies of how i can meet prince charming in a bit

doesn't matter who it is - it's the confidence of being able to go up to someone and chat away.

not sure where else to meet people to talk. my space is meant to be good?

re the relationship thing - just talk as if they're mates, not as if they're potential relationship candidates etc.

and I know i've said it before & you're prob sick of it but if they go quiet after hearing you have children they're not worth it honestly.

I can fully see what your saying & i really would find it hard to meet anyone at a bus stop or in a shop i am just not that kind of person.

I also am passed my club/pub days i have done that to death & even when i did meet people out & about it was never serious enough for me to want to be with forever, no one was "the one"

I met dp just chatting in chat rooms, in fact i was on the AOL chat rooms, used to chat to alot & i met 2 others but they never worked out, both lovely but not for me.

I used to talk to some great people, i always used to chat in the main chatroom then if there was anyone i seemed to banter or get on with used to take it private.

I think it's all worth a try, just be honest, tell them you have kids, find out what there looking for, always good if they make you laugh, swap pics etc.

Ok sometimes it takes time but eventually you never know!

I met dp ok 3rd time lucky but here we are now.

(when you find a prince let me know! lol)

i've come to the conclusion that if I meet someone and they want to walk my way for a while on the journey of life they can, and if they don't like me doing my own thing etc then they can stop walking along side me. so far no takers here either thou!

I would find out how they feel about children, if you get any inkling there not interested in them, move on it's just a waste of time.

Dp had a child is well when i met him a little boy of 3

i go out quite a lot these days, ie most weekends really, and i still never meet anyone!!! lol!
though i am honestly just finding that i am rather happy on my own at the moment. Probably not forever though!

Nutty you really have to go out, or you never will stand a chance, cant you hook up with a couple of friends and try to make it a regular thing??
do your kids go away to their dad's at the weekend? mine do, and thats when i get my play time!
you have to start going out more - not with the sole intention of meeting someone, just to have some fun, goddammit!!

by the way, maybe a few casual flings is what you need? nothing serious, just a bit of fun???!!

I don't have any proper friends though. I have a friend who I knew from when i was little, infact we were best mates, but we rarely see each other now. I know for a fact that she goes out most weekends with her dp and a few mates but she has never once asked me along, infact the only time she does mention us meeting up is at her house for a meal and a drink. I get the feeling she doesn't really want me around her friends.

Only other friend is a very busy student with no time or money to go anywhere. I have suggested we go the the pictures or something several times, but it never happens.

Xp still isn't having the kids overnight, he keeps saying that this is still his intention, but it never happens. His attitude is that I could still go out and he could babysit, but he knows I don;'t want him in the house so thats not gonna happen.

Aww thats a shame , did you try the "meet a mum" section of netmums? there always seems to be a lot of mums on there looking for someone to meet up with..