Ex dies without paying maintenance arrears

[Bee2022]

Can anything be done if my childs father dies while still owing child maintenance arrears but has no money or assets too sell, he's been living on the streets for years and won't accept help or benefits

This is pretty jaw dropping.

Sounds like you drove this man to a total mental breakdown and made him homeless and your only concern is how to get a few extra pounds a week when presumably you're on full benefits and comfortable in the house you threw him out of and moved another man into.

How much of all this do your children know? You said he's been living on the street for years so your children can't be babies. What do they think happened to their father?

ftr, if you want to know why i'm so disgusted with you.. my ex was abusive, he was AWFUL to me, and had i gone via CMS to get maintenance out of him he would have ended up bankrupt and/or homeless because he wouldn't have been able to afford to keep the house, or live anywhere else.

Surprise.. i'm not an evil bitch and instead i told him to pay what he could/when he could, and now he's in a better financial position and is finally contributing 5 years on

Why does it have to be anyone's fault? The vast majority of people who become street homeless have mental health and/or addiction problems, which obviously would place a strain on any relationship but aren't anyone's fault.

So much B&W thinking on this thread.

Your not getting anything now and he's alive, you've got even less chance if he's dead. X

No. I'm not the op but there are people that twisted.

People are strange, there are definitely people who would hurt themselves to hurt other people because they are just made wrong.

What about people who kill their own children to hurt their ex spouses, are you saying they don't exist

My brother (not d) refused to get a job, because he didn't want to pay maintenance. I heard that from his own mouth - he didn't want to give her money

Last I heard he was living in a dios house, single room in a HMO. That's not normal.

We don't talk

**doss house

There are also many other reasons why people become homeless, like being chucked out of their home.

Unless you know him you have no idea as to his mental health etc. What we do know is that OP is talking about someone as if they are dead after cheating on them, replacing them and throwing them out of their home.

So many excuses being made for the OP that wouldn't be if it was reversed.

Hi OP, sorry you are in this situation where it sounds like you really need the money. If someone dies and they owe money then usually their assets are used to pay those debts (e.g. money in bank account, any valuables they have which could be sold). However if they really don't have any money or other assets to pay debts then nothing further can be done. So you should plan for never receiving the money he owes.

Op are you going to come back?? Explain more.

You don't develop mental health problems so severe that you end up street homeless just because your wife leaves you for another man.

If someone took my child away it would absolutely lead me to have a mental breakdown.

I wonder if it was him that cheated, kicked OP out, brought a new women in and stopped OP from seeing her kids - would some of the replies call her a deadbeat or that she deserved it.
I very much doubt it.

I presume the OP is hoping for a suicide. He is homeless, MH problems, doesn't see kids because of it. He has nothing to live for. Hope the kids vote with their feet as soon as they can.

wow, I thought this thread would have disappeared by now! First time post from OP and everything….

Did you ever come back or are you busy looking through the pockets of local vagrants??

You don't develop mental health problems so severe that you end up street homeless just because your wife leaves you for another man. OP is not responsible for his situation; far more likely, in fact, that problems he already had contributed to the marital breakdown.

Actually they do. I have a friend whose family member had a breakdown when his wife walked out and took his child. He ended up in a mental health facility. So yes, it can happen.

😂

OP is not responsible for his situation; far more likely, in fact, that problems he already had contributed to the marital breakdown.

Absolutely! Must be the man's fault

We are all individually responsible for our own mental health. I do not agree with women who let their husband's infidelity embitter the rest of their and their children's lives either.

I think with a lot of people you can never know why they do what they do.

There's no rhyme or reason to why people react the way they do. Sometimes a simple act will be ignored and other times it's like a tsunami