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Ex dies without paying maintenance arrears

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Bee2022 · 26/07/2022 11:20

Can anything be done if my childs father dies while still owing child maintenance arrears but has no money or assets too sell, he's been living on the streets for years and won't accept help or benefits

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CatsAreCrackers · 26/07/2022 13:03

I think you have posted about your ex being on the streets before haven't you? I don't think you came across too well then either.

If he isn't paying maintenance now, lives on the streets and has no assets, where do you think the money will come from after he dies? Do you think he actually does have assets or something? There must be more to the story than you are telling us, many men just don't pay maintenance one way or another, I can't imagine he made the choice of giving everything away and going to live on the streets just to avoid paying you a few pounds.

Lovemusic33 · 26/07/2022 13:03

I don’t see how claiming benefits will help him pay off the debt? Technically if he his homeless and not working he doesn’t have to pay anything, if he claims benefits and still isn’t working or is on a low income he still won’t have to pay anything. He’s obviously in a very bad place and I’m sure he’s not doing it just to get out of paying for his kid/s?

If he dies the debt will be written off as there’s no money to pay it.

Unforgettablefire · 26/07/2022 13:07

This has to be a wind up.

newyearsresolurion · 26/07/2022 13:08

It's not your fault he's on the streets. Relationships end and he chose that . But forget about child maintenance when he dies.

upthem5 · 26/07/2022 13:10

This is one of the weirdest things I’ve ever read.

OP - I doubt your exDH is on the streets JUST to spite you.

Believe it or not, but I don’t think his world revolves around you THIS much. And you really need to stop thinking it does. It’s a very self centred and arrogant view to take.

I can’t believe people are this bitter and twisted. This is a man’s life.

Don’t you have an ounce of compassion? Those poor kids 😭

Maddogsandtoplessenglishmen · 26/07/2022 13:13

Bee2022 · 26/07/2022 11:37

Sorry my fault I wrote this in a hurry and forgot start with if it happens, he's still alive at the moment but is doing everything he can to avoid paying arrears including not claiming benefits and living on the streets and giving everything he owned away long ago

In the nicest possible way he isn't homeless to avoid paying CM. There has to be other mental health/substance abuse issues to get to the point of making yourself homeless. Being homeless and living on the streets is horrific.

This isn't like being self employed to hide your money to not pay CM. This man has serious issues which unfortunately impact you but are not likely to be this petty about you.

NoMichaelNo · 26/07/2022 13:14

This can't be real.

Discovereads · 26/07/2022 13:16

Normally any debts would be paid from the estate/assets of the deceased. If there are no assets, all debts die with the deceased and cannot be passed on to other family members.

I really don’t think anyone chooses to live on the streets as a homeless person to avoid paying child maintenance. He sounds mentally unstable and in need of help tbh.

dottiedodah · 26/07/2022 13:18

If hes on the streets and has no assets then how can he pay anything? Does he have addiction problems .Sounds a dreadful situation Did he work when you were together at all.Do the DC know what has happened

riserved · 26/07/2022 13:18

I think OP is wondering if the government might pay what he owes her if he isn't alive anymore.

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Viviennemary · 26/07/2022 13:20

If he has no assets I cannot see how the arrears could be paid. Who would pay them.

Viviennemary · 26/07/2022 13:22

He is still alive. Bit of a drip feed there.

Bigmouthshouthotair · 26/07/2022 13:22

Bee2022 · 26/07/2022 11:47

Just the way he is, I'm ashamed to say this but the situation is partially my fault I fell out of love with him but I started seeing someone else before he left me and he see me as betraying him and that I chose to take the child away from him and replace him as the father

Well aren't you delightful.

So you shit on him from a great height and now you are pondering his death whilst he lives on the streets.

AlexandriasWindmill · 26/07/2022 13:23

Yy that's how I read it. As though OP was wondering if the government would settle his debts if he died. They won't.

Bigmouthshouthotair · 26/07/2022 13:23

NoMichaelNo · 26/07/2022 13:14

This can't be real.

I agree. No one can be this heartless

Ohthatsexciting · 26/07/2022 13:24

No absolutely nothing

all you can do is put this out of your mind

i am sorry

Ohthatsexciting · 26/07/2022 13:25

Wtf

he isn’t dead!

you are bona fide very very weird

lickenchugget · 26/07/2022 13:25

riserved · 26/07/2022 13:18

I think OP is wondering if the government might pay what he owes her if he isn't alive anymore.

Yes

BlueKaftan · 26/07/2022 13:25

No one’s giving you any money, not your ex or the government.

AlviarinAesSedai · 26/07/2022 13:26

You can’t get blood out a stone. If he did have anything wouldn’t it go to his child as living relative.

Bigmouthshouthotair · 26/07/2022 13:26

Ohthatsexciting · 26/07/2022 13:24

No absolutely nothing

all you can do is put this out of your mind

i am sorry

Not sure why you are sorry. OP admits she had an affair, replaced him as the father and now is debating his death.

Ihatethenewlook · 26/07/2022 13:26

dworky · 26/07/2022 13:01

A shit, neglectful father if he hasn't paid for the upkeep of his children.

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Who ended up on the streets after the op cheated on him and got with the other man. I’m wondering if this other man is living in the house and sleeping in the bed he had to leave. No one chooses to be homeless and sleeping rough for years on end and there’s no way that he’s wanted his life to be like this. His mental health is probably in tatters

Johnnysgirl · 26/07/2022 13:28

Bee2022 · 26/07/2022 11:37

Sorry my fault I wrote this in a hurry and forgot start with if it happens, he's still alive at the moment but is doing everything he can to avoid paying arrears including not claiming benefits and living on the streets and giving everything he owned away long ago

Who do you think will step in and provide your children with an inheritance when he dies?
It's mind boggling that you imagine there's a way of claiming from the state.

Kakibob1924 · 26/07/2022 13:28

riserved · 26/07/2022 13:18

I think OP is wondering if the government might pay what he owes her if he isn't alive anymore.

This