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Partner left me while pregnant now his mum is viewing my social media

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Babygirlmum · 04/05/2022 18:16

My partner left me when i was 11 weeks pregnant after telling him as he didn't want to be a dad and apparently he couldn't be one, after a stressful and hard 9 months I give birth to my beautiful daughter I haven't been in contact with him to tell him as he made it clear he didn't want to know the baby but I have now had my beautiful baby girl she is 5 weeks old and I don't know if he knows she is born as there is a possibility but also a chance he doesn't know, his mum has viewed my Instagram story and seen my daughter I don't know why she is searching me up as I don't have her on any social media she has looked up up but I don't understand why as they don't want anything to do with the baby she is a foster carer and has supported her son on not having any contact with her son why is this woman viewing my social media?

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zafferana · 04/05/2022 18:18

Curiosity got the better of her? Your DD is her GDD, so it makes sense that she'd want to see what she looks like, however mean and horrible she's been to you.

Congratulations on your DD OP Flowers

BornIn78 · 04/05/2022 18:19

She’s probably curious.

Why isn’t your social media and images of your child locked down and private?

Sort out your social media so that random women aren’t able to view it.

ImInStealthMode · 04/05/2022 18:20

Congratulations on your baby OP.

Block her or make your accounts private.

DinoRock · 04/05/2022 18:20

Make your social media private. Your poor child is not a proper for your instant stories or whatever

Lazypuppy · 04/05/2022 18:20

Lock your social media down so she can't view your stories or posts

DinoRock · 04/05/2022 18:20

If she can see it then any random person can see it.

Amandasummers · 04/05/2022 18:20

To be fair, you've said your dds dad didn't want to know, that doesn't necessarily mean his parents didn't want to know? Its not hard to understand that as a reason surely? But either way, make your socials private if you're bothered?

PumpkinsandKittens · 04/05/2022 18:21

Why is it public?

SunshineAndFizz · 04/05/2022 18:23

She genuinely might be interested in her granddaughter, even if her son doesn't (he might have asked her not to contact you). She might not realise you can tell who's viewed stories.

I'd defo be keeping my Instagram private though, especially if you have baby pics on there.

LorenzoVonMatterhorn · 04/05/2022 18:23

Agree with the others.

lock down your accounts.
put in the claim to the child maintenance service.
get better contraception in place.

how old is the gobshite?

Decorhate · 04/05/2022 18:24

Do you know for a fact that this woman agrees with what her son did? A relative was in a very similar situation to you. She contacted the father’s parents after the baby was born & they were at that stage prepared to go against their son’s wishes & have built a very strong relationship with their grandchild & helped out his mother a lot. The father is still a waste of space however.

CuriousCatfish · 04/05/2022 18:24

She might want to be involved in her grandchilds life even if the dad doesn't want to know.

If you are not open to that then just block her.

PumpkinsandKittens · 04/05/2022 18:25

If she wants to see the baby then she can reach out to the op which sounds like she hasn’t? It’s not up to you to chase that op, if she wants a relationship let her contact you

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Babygirlmum · 04/05/2022 18:31

I may if missed a few things out this woman has been nasty towards me and does infact support her son I'm not being a dad to his own daughter and has made that clear and if I'm right she's probably part of his decision because it's the type of woman I can imagine her to be however I'm not sure why she is viewing my social media.

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Hatinafield · 04/05/2022 18:33

Message her and ask or lock your social media down.

ShirleyPhallus · 04/05/2022 18:34

Everyone who has children should have private social media, it isn’t fair on the child to have their images accessed by all random strangers

I bet she doesn’t know you can see that she’s viewed your story

DinoRock · 04/05/2022 18:36

Babygirlmum · 04/05/2022 18:31

I may if missed a few things out this woman has been nasty towards me and does infact support her son I'm not being a dad to his own daughter and has made that clear and if I'm right she's probably part of his decision because it's the type of woman I can imagine her to be however I'm not sure why she is viewing my social media.

Curiosity

Doesn't matter, stop sharing your baby pictures so widely and it won't matter.

Cloverforever · 04/05/2022 18:37

I expect she's just curious. Not exactly crime of the century!

DinoRock · 04/05/2022 18:40

Wondering if it looks like her/her son etc just being curious.

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Babygirlmum · 04/05/2022 18:41

Why is everybody so rude and bitter on this app I thought people come on it for support from other mums and parents and everyone just goes on their own rant!! Wow I don't understand if you have a bad comment dont comment at all!

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ittakes2 · 04/05/2022 18:43

You don't know what he has told her.

Everyoneishappier · 04/05/2022 18:43

How long were you with her son before conceiving. ?

Did you discuss parenthood ?

Ultimately it doesn't matter, you have a child. If he didn't want a child he should've taken care of his fertility.

This means that he needs to take care of the child financially but is not required to take care of the child emotionally.

toomuchlaundry · 04/05/2022 18:45

Don’t think anyone is being bitter. They are just advising you to make your SM private especially when posting photos of your child

SheldonesqueTheBstard · 04/05/2022 18:47

You haven’t had bad comments OP so no need for your wows and insults.

If these people are as awful as you say, then it would be prudent to lock down your social media.

She may just be curious - who knows? But if you take exception to her looking, it is an easy thing to fix.

PeekAtYou · 04/05/2022 18:48

Maybe she's one of those misogynists who was hoping that when she saw the baby it would be clear that her son wasn't the father ?

I'd imagine curiosity too. I'd be interested to see if my kids kids looked like them as babies.