@never and yet the evidence is that 50/50 only has a chance of working if there is a high degree of cooperation between parents. I wish courts would look at evidence more!
My step kids were 50/50, not as bad as others but we had them every weekend for a long weekend. It was damaging in my experience, way more negatives than positives. They arrived without any change of clothes most of the time. Constant back and forth with ex. Kids always forgetting things and turning up at any time, usually without keys, phoning us to get in. Often locked out of one house. Homework never checked, hygiene never kept on top of, as all were assumed to be the others responsibility or the kids would say , I’ve done my homework / had a shower at mums.
It was quite chaotic, and parenting was overall less on both sides than when there was a clear resident parent and home.
I was called on quite a few occasions to collect a crying upset child from school as collecting days were mixed up.
I had to deal with a very upsetting incident where one child had been lying and fooling both parents as to where she was,
One child was very mature and kept on top of everything herself. She does okay now.
Two children had minor issues that became major, because they fell through the cracks of 50/50, e.g. one child managed to do no homework for months before the school alerted us. They are both really struggling now as young adults.
All children opted to have one resident home as soon as they were able.