Number 2 Thread When You Are Fed Up With The Solitary Burden Of Single Parentdom

[Solo]

Happy New Year and Happy New Thread to all the single parents looking for a place to rant, rave, moan, share the highs and the lows and chat with people that know! It is the second thread and probably a slow one if the first is anything to go by, but it's here when we need it.

LINK TO THE FIRST THREAD

Staying home is the best option for me home is where the heart is. Hope we all get through the festive season in one piece it really is too much of a carry on.

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I put 4 new tyres on my car on Saturday ~ good ones. Last night with 66 miles on them someone stabbed 2 of them multiple times.

Sounds diabolical Solo sorry to hear.

Sorry I haven't been here for ages. Oh Solo - that is all so crappy for you, if you lived closer I'd tell you to come round to mine and stuff the lot of them.
Right now my anxiety is sky high again and I'm struggling to maintain but I'm reminding myself just to stay calm and it'll be ok and if I don't get thinks done it's ok, and it's ok to 'chunk' the day through to bedtime and then cry once dd's gone to bed. Tried to explain to my sister yesterday and she just had a go at me so that didn't help.
Hope you're all staying sane amongst the chaos

Foslady I think starting any new job is going to be stressful for up to six months so do go easy on yourself and take good care of yourself over the winter months. Winter turns to spring so all in good time.

Not sure if that helps but that is my view!

Meanwhile tired of men as usual. The one in the local supermarket it turns out he has a drinking problem and can't pull women (so why should I want him!). Also I just don't fancy him.

Also my other long term on/off friend I sent him a Xmas card as he sent one to me. I think he is best just keeping on as an occasional friend to meet up with. It never seems to work out with me and him no matter what.

All in all in terms of men best to wait until 3 more years when ds is 15 as got enough crap to see to with ds at the best of times. I know I will be in one piece more by then. Every year I feel more together.

Hope everybody is ok as good as they can be. :)

Fos (((hugs))) It'll get better for us all I'm sure but some people ~ those that really should try to understand just don't or don't want to :(

Flowers better that you know the details now than maybe get involved and then find out he drinks. It would be a deal breaker for me too. I would not be very tolerant of bad habits or vices these days so no way would I want someone that relied on the bottle.

I hope you are all sorted for the weekend. I have still some last minute deliveries to receive. Dd turns 10 on Boxing Day and I'vew ordered her a new electric toothbrush which I got a look about from my best friend (toothbrush for a birthday gift ~ apparently not the right thing to give!).

Right, I need to get the rest of the presents wrapped.

Hi girlies I am feeling quite chipper today. Am looking for ten days well earned rest while the childminder is feasting with her bloke and rellies.

To be honest I don't take the Christmas season that seriously beyond buying ds his requisite gifts. I just see it as a nice bit of enforced rest. Half the day resting and the other half of the day either socialising or working my way through my boring list of outstanding tasks (cupboard tidying etc it never gets done in a working week or a typical weekend).

I am going to start zumba classes Thurs evenings in the new year. It will be good to branch out and mix. I also intend to go out two evenings a month from January as now that ds is nearly 12 there really isn't any issue. I will be home by 10 pm and it is only three hours outside. I will go to one more Buddhist meeting and one psychic type evening a month.

If any narrow minded friends ask who is taking care of ds I can always tell a white lie and pretend my local friend is doing the babysitting. At his age he is more than capable of standing on his own feet until 10 pm as long as he has been fed and watered first and his gadgets are on. I think he would enjoy the freedom away from his boring ole mum.

Hope we all enjoy a happy festive. Don't take it so seriously is my advice. 1 in 10 people in the UK spends it on their own anyway it is often on the news at this time of year - we have for years and I have always quite enjoyed it on our own. Nice grub and tv on hand and a glass of wine will do nicely. :)

As for men I have gone off the boil again. I have no time patience or interest in them. They always seem so needy. Too many substances etc. Apologies to any men reading this who are on top of their life and don't hit the bottle. Most single men are players and like the booze in my exp. Not meant to offend and I might be wrong. I know we have at least one single parent male who reads this thread so I am sure you are the modicum of self control ha ha.

Enjoy all of you. :)

Blimey sorry for such a long diatribe.

I'm with you flowers :)

I've not wrapped any presents yet

We're watching home alone so I should probably get the relatives gifts and wrap as we watch.

solo my dc's love electric tooth brushes. 10yr old DS got a proper one last year and really appreciates it. I figure that even if I screw up everything else at least they'll have decent teeth . He even flosses voluntarily!

How much are these electric toothbrushes? We both rather fancy one at some point next year. What make is best ladies any idea?

Well years ago I was lucky enough to get a trial Philips Sonicare for kids from MN for Ds. He used it then it went to Dd but I lost my short temper and threw it down earlier this year (last year? Can't remember) as she was messing around (as usual) and would not brush (as usual) and it stopped working. So she has been using a manual for some time now but does not clean her teeth properly so I got another one from eBay for £35 ~ same type so the brushes I have already will fit. Can't stand to see dirty teeth!
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Merry Christmas my friends!

Merry Christmas everyone .

DS is putting on the hair gel that santa bought him and DD is playing with a balloon hovercraft toy.

Merry Festive one and all hope you all have a lovely day you deserve it! :)

Merry Christmas everyone and give yourselves a great hug from me! May there be more smiles than tears today - and not just from the children

Did you all have a good day? I truly hope so. We did and I'm very surprised tbh, but it was nice!

I am pleased you enjoyed your day Solo good for you. I had to shout at ds several times so wasn't best pleased. He is so ungrateful sometimes he moans a lot about absolutely anything. I think it is because he is bored as he has no siblings but luckily he found a friend from school on the playstation 4 to play online with which helped somewhat.

Ds is also going to childcare Wed Thurs Fri as miraculously the childminder is available which means I get a bit of sanity and can also do a bit of work as I have additional car expenses to add to the joys.. I don't think I could cope with the moans moodswings and strops nonstop until next Tues when school goes back. I think at ds's age of 11 he really can't be self-sufficient for any length of time.....

Children eh!

Flowers I can understand the only child thing. Ds was 8 when Dd came along and now he's 18 and not here, Dd is on her own too. They never played together either as I think the big age gap and gender difference meant there was nothing in common. Dd is 10 today. She wants to go to the pictures. If we wait until tomorrow I get the 2 for 1 Meerkat thing...but it's her birthday today...

Bless your dd Solo I hope she has a lovely birthday. I always think it is rough for those whose birthday falls close to Xmas as they rarely get two sets of presents as such I imagine!!

Thank you flowers :) She is playing on her Kindle. We have done nothing yet. I think we will not go out today but just stay home and celebrate more tomorrow. I had a really late night and she woke me early. I always ensure she gets different gifts wrapped in non Christmas paper and nobody has ever given her a joint gift for Christmas/birthday yet .

Glad to hear Christmas went well Solo, and hope that her birthday was also good.
Ours went well - dd happy with everything she got (phew!) - thank Goodness she's not materialistic....!

Happy New Year Everyone!

Happy new year .

In my onesie here. Living the dream!