Number 2 Thread When You Are Fed Up With The Solitary Burden Of Single Parentdom

[Solo]

Happy New Year and Happy New Thread to all the single parents looking for a place to rant, rave, moan, share the highs and the lows and chat with people that know! It is the second thread and probably a slow one if the first is anything to go by, but it's here when we need it.

LINK TO THE FIRST THREAD

The male interviewer asked if I could multitask......the female interviewer looked at him and replied 'She's a single mum like me, what do you think???' I so wanted to high five her over the table!!!!!

I handed my notice in today - great feeling - but I'm now worrying about references after having 7 weeks off with anxiety in January 2015 and my probabtion being extended for the first time ever after raising an issue with bullying upheld and dealt with without going down the grievence route (mutual agreement). I re wrote the training manual and re trained myself and passed then with flying colours. Since then they have realised that I AM a good worker to the point of being given an honourarium for the level of work I did over the summer.
This is the worst bit of new jobs. I'm so worried that all this will mess up for me, the new job is perfect, and I'm really excited about it and I'll not only be heartbroken if it messes up for me but I don't know what I'll do

Love the sound of your female interviewer fos .

Fos the interview sounds as though it was fab! And I am high fiving her (and you) in my head too! . And don't sell yourself short; they would have to be seriously stupid if they can't see past a short illness almost 2 years ago; everyone is ill from time to time. You were ill, recovered and then excelled! End of.

You know those weeks when you're so tired and you feel like your wading through treacle. That. 😴 . I actually thought that if I fell over in the street I could have a nap on the concrete. That's bad isn't it .

Thank goodness I don't have to drive to work, fly planes or do brain surgery or anything. I'm only going to mess up a spreadsheet or forget the milk.

Nearly half term for most people isn't it? I'm only working on Monday then I've got a week off.

Thank everyone! Oh Meg - it's crap when you feel that bad......just remember, breath in, breath out, the rest will follow!!!!

Yes I understand those feelings Meg but us single parents are strong folk and we can push through no matter what. We know we flippin' have to and nobody will come along and do it for us.

It does get slowly easier and easier though as they get older. As I imagine nobody would ever produce children if this wasn't the case!

Just to say I am the regenerated Flowerpower41! Managed to work out how to change my name after all. :)

Hey! I may still call you Flower...unless you don't want to be called that anymore of course... :)

Yes call me Flower by all means Solo lol. Having a relaxing Saturday here hope everyone is fine.

As long as you keep a flowery name I'll remember it's you Polly.

What does one do when kids won't do anything, even for pocket money? We've hit a brick wall of bad behaviour and I can't find a way around it because they gang up against me . We could have such a better quality of life if they just did what the were told.

:) Tell me about it Meglet my kids will do anything for anyone else, but nothing for me.

This evening I took Dd to the cinema; we saw Miss Peregrines Home For Peculiar Children which we both really enjoyed and then we went to Ed's Diner for food...expensive evening out, but it's all I've paid for this half term.

Went to see that film with some freebie tickets - brilliant!
And so the OLD saga continues.....after spending a stupid amount of money just so I can end up feeling ugly with zero personality I joined a much cheaper site. In less than 24 hours I've gone from 'hello' to 'you have a nice rack' and 'oh getting ready for bed - naked or pj's lol', complete with naked torso shots .
Think I'll be getting another 11 cats.....:

Ds swings from being briefly considerate and helpful to swearing and raising his voice and ordering me around lol. Where is the 8 year old boy gone who used to say 'I love weekends with you' ....! Pre teen years are tricky now he is 11. Just went to the new M & Spencers food hall local to us which was quite uplifting. Apart from that catching up on r and r and chores....

Can I join this thread? It's a relief to hear that other people have similar struggles.

I'm just so sick of my Ex banging on about how our daughter is his world, and showering her with love and holidays. She's 15, we split when she was a baby. She adores him. EX has only complaints to me, doesn't support me in any way whatsoever.

And yet I am the one who is single handedly bringing her up. Parenting isn't a fun holiday and letting your kid do what she likes all the time. It's the hard slog of getting them to brush their teeth, to do her homework, to have manners, confidence, self esteem. A lot of work!

Foslady I sympathise! It's a jungle out there and not one that favours a single Mum unfortunately!

Welcome aboard Pina - and yes donI know that feeling well. Luckily (sadly) dd's got the measure of her father, but yes, the 'aren't I Mr Wonderful' act grates like hell! I stupidly get angry thinking about if she ever married it'all be him that walks her down the aisle when I think 'wtf positive have you done to raise her????'........and I have to keep my mouth shut......

Hi pina. Those everyday things are the killers IMO. I'm so over teeth brushing supervision and homework!

solo my friend said Miss Peregrines was good too. We saw Queen of Katwe. It inspired the dc's to play chess when they got home. They even turned off the Wii, I did a double take when I realised.

my neighbour has taken the dc's out trick and treating. It's very quiet, and tidy. I never have a quiet evening! The news is on and I can hear it.

I want to 'like' your post meg

Can I join? I am having a very up and down time. Does anyone occasionally feel that they just want to run away? I am ashamed to admit that I have fantasies that my kids go to live with ex DH (they are forced by court order of course - not by choice ) and I end up being the weekend ma - who does all the fun stuff and doesn't worry about anything else. I down scale on the house to reduce the mortgage - go part time from my job that I am fed up with to the back teeth and just get on with some new voluntary projects. I feel that my life is draining away . I constantly just worry about them - homework, music, extra this and extra that - my son is in gcse year - I worry more than him and feel I pour so much in and am not sure that anything will come out of it - in the mean time my own ambitions, desires - everything goes down the pan.. I really do suddenly understand the concept of boarding school.. all the work is done for you. Sorry feeling very sorry for self. I have 2 teens and a seven year old and it's hard work.

Hi Probably :) Welcome in! This is a place for whatever you need at the time and today is for you to feel sorry for yourself.

I actually would love to run away! I think of it often and once my youngest is grown up (she's almost 10), I may very well just do it! We have a tough time of it as single parents, but we have each other

I am over 50 - by the time my youngest is through uni I will nearly 65. I don't think I can stand parenting for that long... . Three kids, full time job , elderly needy parents.. its a juggling act and there is little time left for me .. I know that I I am pretty bloody lucky though - I have a decent income and flexible hours - so I can work around the children. I have been reading a few threads tonight and I know I am in a good position, I'm just tired. I need the odd hug.

Hug probably

Probably you sound amazing pulling off all of that well done. You are a superwoman!

Hi probably. I understand the boarding school thing. In my more desperate moments I've been googling state boarding schools and even Christ's Hospital wondering if it might do us all good. I'm finding the pressure worse now ds is two years away from secondary school.

Anyway, better get to work. See what mayhem awaits me.