Number 2 Thread When You Are Fed Up With The Solitary Burden Of Single Parentdom

[Solo]

Happy New Year and Happy New Thread to all the single parents looking for a place to rant, rave, moan, share the highs and the lows and chat with people that know! It is the second thread and probably a slow one if the first is anything to go by, but it's here when we need it.

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Can this island have safe swimming water so don't get into a flap with the dc's >.

We were away at the weekend and I was quite pleased it was too calm for body boarding. I find it easier to supervise dd when she's swimming than trying to float out to deeper waters.

fos has your dd perked up now?

They missed the ferry in Belgium and ended up traveling on to Calais, sailing on there and traveling home throughout the night so in effect she pulled a 24 hour er as she couldn't sleep in the car. Managed about 4 hours at his house before coming home. We've managed to do some stuff today though thankfully. I'll be glad when we get manned up properly at work, the new boss has already agreed we all need to sit down and divvy up the holidays properly this next year

Yes! Our island will be the perfect place to live for everyone!

fos your work sounds a bit like mine at the moment. We've lost half our team, my manager is fretting I'll be next. Slightly peeved I've got to train a temp next week, I'm not confident they'll pick it up that fast and we'll end up even more behind.

Yep - team of 5 and a half now down to 2 and a half but don't get me started on one of them that's left . Hopefully should get better from next week......

Sigh. DD and holiday club. Doesn't like it and won't do as she's told. They've had to call me most days to say she won't eat, won't do a choice of activity and what should they do no bloody idea she's refused to do as she's told for the last 7years.

Yesterday she said that if she cries will my manager let me pick her I and I said I couldn't . Today they called me and let her speak to me, crying. So obviously I was in tears at work and counting down the time until I can get her. She only wants me and yo be at home in the holidays.

This afternoon I'll email my boss and confirm I'd like the Oct, xmas and Feb hols as leave, bar the odd half day to pop in to run some database reports .

I got a bit upset at work on Tuesday, don't think they realise how little I was seeing of dd until then and how much it was affecting me.

I now have half term off and I'm going to book a few days away to try to make amends for our crappy summer

Nearly at the end Meg - keep going for the last few days......

(((hugs))) to you both. I saw Dd yesterday which was the first time since Saturday. I know she is perfectly fine at my Mum's but she can get bored. She has made friends with Mum's neighbours Dc's and she has mastered riding a bike!! All by herself too. She learnt a year ago, but hasn't ridden since then until now. She can't brake though!

When do your Dc's return to school? Dd is on Wednesday.

solo mine are back on Tues. I don't work Mondays and I've got Tuesday off so we're on the home run now .

Well done to your dd getting some cycle practice in. Mine were a bit funny with brakes for a while too.

fos have you got any destinations in mind? I keep thinking I should take mine to Yorkshire or Scotland. We're creatures of habit and always go to Devon (family) or Cornwall.

She's home and instantly I feel more relaxed!

She wants to do York.......again!!!!!! Meg. Both love York but struggling to think of places there that we haven't done!!!

Hopefully I'm not jinxing it but for the first time ever the dc's went back to school without tears, ds in year 5 and dd in year 3. They happily trundled in with their mates. long may it continue.

Hope everyone else is having a positive start to the new term.

Meg that's wonderful! :) I hope it lasts for you too!

Dd back today (year 5 also) without any hassle ~ though I didn't expect any tbh. I'm hoping that she has a better year this year and with no bullying from other kids. Grrr! She likes her teacher, so that's a great start and yes! Long may it continue :)

Ds made me laugh. He started at secondary school Tuesday and he claims it is ten times better than primary school as they can play on their iphones in lunchtimes and breaks. Plus there are no dinnerladies AND they are allowed to swear in the playground!

I am not so impressed by the last bit lol.

That's funny though! That they are allowed to swear anywhere at all!!

Well Solo how would they police it without dinner ladies? Since they don't have them at secondary school I suppose children can get away with it.

It is one of the top ten secondary schools in the county so perhaps it is usual these days who knows!

Oh I know! I was just imagining first day with the rules being set out...

"Swearing is only allowed in the outside playground area's please boys!"

Yet again 1st date 'postponed' ..........gut feeling says cancelled........

So fed up of being alone

Fos he is not worthy of you ~ clearly! But the right and worthy man will enter your life; aaaall of our lives :) . I know it feels like rejection, but he's probably got something not right about him that would make you relieved for not being with him iyswim? Be kind to yourself (((hugs))) from me :)

Sorry - been a hell of a week at work (after a hellish summer at work) with next week looking like being hell too. We'd gelled really well (or so I thought) and now the excuses and the distancing. I was so looking forward to having a rare night out and being treated like an adult. I'm sick to death of being told I'm a lovely person and deserve someone nice and what a great mum I am (all the usual crap everyone says when I say about being fed up of being alone). I just want someone who wants to be there for me.
Well no one wants to. I can't be that great can I?

You know the John Godber play 'Bouncers' where the footballers play snog a dog? That's the way how I'm feeling right now. Everyone including the ex is playing happy bloody families, a FB friend put on about how excited she is about plannjng her wedding - and YES I AM happy for her, who wants to be permanently lonely? - but everything together makes me feel down. I know about behind closed doors and better to be in my situation now than he one I was in, but it feels as if someone up there is just taking the piss with my life again, having a laugh and the joke is on me. I'm finding it hard being on my own right now. It's ok friends saying get out more, but how? My life is bed, work and dd. I have 24 hrs a week without her and I'm not the type of person who feels comfy walking into a pub alone.
Sorry, I'm ranting. Trying to get it all out of my system before dd comes home, don't want her seeing me like this

You are brave to try to date Foslady. I have long since given up. I don't think I could face all that again for years. Especially after my poisonous ex hitting ds which is why I don't allow access any longer. Nevertheless I am on speaking terms with the ex and he pays maintenance and he sees ds supervised when we visit London. We have managed to keep in contact and maintain a dialogue.

I hate walking into a pub alone it is amazing how some friends have the wherewithal to face that isn't it!

Hope there is a nice man left out there for you Foslady. :)

I hear you too Fos . Even at my age, I still wouldn't go to a pub by myself; I mean and do what exactly?! I would go in if I was meeting up with someone, but that's not something that actually happens.

Dd is ill with tonsillitis. Not eating, hardly drinking..,

Oh heck - sorry to hear that Solo - has she tried gargling with soluble aspirin?
Well it gets worse on the dating front. All chatty chatty - he'd been working late.....chatting today via whatsapp, laughing having fun.....travel home and get a notification on my phone to say he's uploaded new pic to his profile during the time we'd been whatsapping this morning. So much for 'I'm trustworthy and don't do mind games - if you're that kind of woman you're not for me'. So I messaged him to compliment him on the pic. Message wasn't received for quite a while......saw it over an hour ago and no response. Bye bye Arsehole number God knows how many.........

And today I came home from work early feeling rough......noooooo