Number 2 Thread When You Are Fed Up With The Solitary Burden Of Single Parentdom

[Solo]

Happy New Year and Happy New Thread to all the single parents looking for a place to rant, rave, moan, share the highs and the lows and chat with people that know! It is the second thread and probably a slow one if the first is anything to go by, but it's here when we need it.

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Oh Fos . What a rotten week, hang in there. (hugs)

Solo - glad to hear your ds is heading home.

Only got one week off this school hols. And on my days off (I work 3 days a week) I've booked the dc's in to endless free / cheap activities. Breaks up the mess and fighting.

Fos how are you doing? And everyone else?

Hi Solo and everyone. Well I had 24 hrs of getting upset about it all then told myself 'enough'. With hindsight I'm not surprised I gave a crap interview. My workload has bloody awful (in effect 3 people's work so doing 10 hour days) with 5 very time sensitive reports to do that must be spot on, missing my dd (home now for the weekend), the health scare and the dumping. It's made me see that it's time to take care of me again, so I'm trying to take it as a positive thing - plus I think it's helped my relationship with my boss. I also got a thank you card from the boss which means I've been entered into a monthly prize draw - though seriously don't care if I win or not, I'm just grateful of the recognition especially after the difficult times I've had at work in the last few months. We just have to pick ourselves up again, don't we?

Anyway, enough of me, how's everyone else doing? Is your son back yet Solo?

Fos it's a positive that you recognise that you need to take care of you :)

Son is back now :)

Ah, Fos, that was nice to be appreciated by your boss.

Solo - is he ok? Helping out or lying low?

9yo DS has just got himself into my bad books, possibly forever. He broke a window in the shed (throwing stones at it ffs) then when I was trying to make it safe he threw a ball at me . So he's in his room and about to be told to Dyson the whole house. Now I've got to get someone in to fix the shed window properly, my ikea bag and duct tape repair will only last so long .

My friends have sent messages of support for today's hospital appointment.

My sister has put a picture and Video of a bird that hung about whilst they pitched their tent for a weekend away.......

Well after being mammogrames twice, proggled, untrascanned and biopsied they think it's a fibroid. Telephone appointment next week but been told not to worry.

Thank you everyone for being there xx

Good to hear you're ok Fos . The NHS does step up when we need it. Hope you're having a chilled evening .

My dc's are playing out so I'm having a cooking and prepping spree so we're organised for the week. Have a glut of home grown cucumber and tomatoes we picked at a farm so it's lots of Greek salad this week.

Ds back to treating home like a hotel :( , but he does have a job! Yay!!

I'm fuming! My brother told my Ds that my exh2 caught me in bed with Ds's father! Totally untrue! And I need to put my brother straight as clearly, my ex told him that to justify beating the crap out of me! That was over 20 years ago! So all this time, my brother has thought that about me! I'm angry and embarrassed and hurt :(

Bloody hell Solo I'd be going ballistic if I were you - as if (a) it's for him to say anything to your son and (b) any of his damn business. Speechless on your behalf.

Good to hear Ds has a job - that's one less worry for you.....,,just to attempt to retrain re home/hotel.- good luck!!

Hi Fos I know! Actually I told brother off tonight on the phone...he says that he didn't believe it anyway, so I asked him why then he would even repeat it to anyone, let alone my son! Very angry with him over it, but I've said my piece and told him exactly what did happen the night he beat me. I'll now carry on as always.

And...Breathe!

Glad he got told Solo - but fgs, to then say he'd not believed it???

Certainly an 'And breathe......' moment!

Ended up asking my sister to have a word with my mum - can't say too much on here but let's just say she doesn't always think before opening her mouth and yesterday really overstepped the mark on a situation I've been dumped in despite me asking her not to talk about it like she does. (Sod it - told me it's dd's half siblings 1st birthday I know we've bought him a gift from dd and yes it stings and how she was telling the chiropodist because 'she likes to tell him what's happening in the family.......and brushed it off when I said 'but he's not out family, he's dd's).

Family, eh Solo??????!!!!!!

I know Fos, I know!! And I had meant to say that I'm so glad they think your lump is just a fibroid. I went through the lump in breast a year ago; it's a worrying time.

I'm feeling very sick right now as I've come home to a letter from Social Services saying they've received notification from the Police which raised concerns for my daughter. I don't know why. Unless it's connected to a family member recently being convicted of offences against his step daughter ~ which by the way I do not believe for a minute! I strongly believe this has been concocted by his ex wife and her (eldest) daughter. There is no way it's true and trust me, I have worked with sex offenders and I just know! It's an instinct. He has been set up and sadly will spend a long time in prison for something he is innocent of. Anyway, I will ring them tomorrow and find out! I guess it could be that someone has reported me for telling Dd off! I do that you know! I try to keep her learning to be a good person.

And Fos it's a horrible thing for you to have to listen to that rubbish about family that isn't yours , but you are the better person, a good person that puts other people before yourself.

Oh no Solo - hopefully it'll just be some follow up work that they want to check on, I can't see it being something they're too concerned about if thay've popped it in the post.
And thank you for your kind words - feel hugged

Just out from hospital - got the all clear!!!!

Fos that's great news! Congratulations!

My saga...turned out my Mum had forgotten to tell me that the Police turned up at my Uncles house when she was there with my Dd and my cousin is on bail, so they were 'safeguarding' Dd when they discovered Dd was there at the same time IYSWIM? Anyway, it''s all ok I think. What a thing to forget to tell me!!

Oh yes, the reason they wrote to me was because they hadn't been able to get hold of me.

Oh good grief Solo! Thank God it's nothing to worry about - as if you haven't enough on your plate!!!
Picking up Dd from Guide Camp today - so she'll stink, be knackered and probably want to eat for England with s massive pile of washing.

Can't wait

Jeez solo you must have aged ten years when you read that letter. Glad it was just a formality in the end.

Well, I did answer last night, but that clearly has disappeared!

I aged 20 years I think! But I'm ok now.

Massive row with Ds last night! He has got dirt/engine oil/black crap on his very white sheet after 'forgetting' to wash his legs in the shower . He has absolutely no respect for me and I actually almost told him that this isn't working for me and he has to go. He's raising his voice to me and yes, mine was elevating too. And my electric shower is no more!!

Solo - pleased to hear the issue of the police was ok. Sorry to hear about the shower though. That is pants.

Fos - congrats about the medical good news. Such a relief for you.

Oh dear Solo - does he realise that as well as his lodge he has to buy a new sheet? I certainly wouldn't replace it. Sorry to hear about your shower as well

Can someone send a paper bag for me to breathe into.(back story) My mother is on the deeds to my house (generous and it's the only way I could get a mortgage, which I pay) but even though she lives 100 miles away she thinks she can let herself in without warning. I didn't know she was in town today but she just walked through my door .No heads up text to say she was popping round or anything. She's done it before and I can't stand it. I know technically it's her house too but I feel quite shocked when I see a 'stranger' pushing my front door open and walking in. Takes a few moments to realise what's going on and who it is.

I've got to make tea now. I'm going to hide away and bite my lip.

OMG Meg!!!! I'd have charged at her wielding a heavy object thinking it was an attacker!!!![hands over paper bag and large slug of brandy emocon].

Well I have a lovely puzzle - someone anonymously sent me a treat box today to work. I can't put about it on the main site as it contains stuff that people on there write off but for me it was perfect - such a boost, not only for the gift but also that someone has taken the time out to send me. Feel very humble.