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Number 2 Thread When You Are Fed Up With The Solitary Burden Of Single Parentdom

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Solo · 01/01/2016 15:12

Happy New Year and Happy New Thread to all the single parents looking for a place to rant, rave, moan, share the highs and the lows and chat with people that know! It is the second thread and probably a slow one if the first is anything to go by, but it's here when we need it.

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megletthesecond · 16/04/2016 21:18

Gah, I really hate weekends these days. All I do is moan and shout .

GraceandFlavour · 16/04/2016 21:44

:(. You get sick of the sound of your own voice don't you.

megletthesecond · 16/04/2016 22:13

Yes. By the end of the day I'm talking to myself.

Yesterday bedtime was so awful I seriously wondered whether I could get a bouncer from the town centre to come round and do bedtime. I'm sure there's a lucrative market there.

ittooshallpass · 16/04/2016 22:59

Meg... that made me laugh out loud. I hate bed time... such a battle. And then a battle getting everyone up in the morning. I swear all I ever seem to say is 'get up' or 'go to bed'. Sigh...

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Solo · 18/04/2016 13:46

Hi all. Dd managed to smash her face into the bathroom floor (ceramic tiles!!) yesterday after having a dizzy spell! A&E for an extremely split lip - borderline for stitches, but they decided against. Doctors today for the dizziness as it occurred again on the way home ~ she is well otherwise, we just need to extract urine from her to check that and she's being referred to ENT for her sleep apnoea, snoring and massive tonsils. Hmm, not sure how we got to that, but she stops breathing at night, so it can be worrying, but I must be a bad mummy for getting used to it Blush. I've had to take the day off work...off to the dentist in a while to check her teeth as the gum is bruised and it looks like her teeth may have moved back a bit

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ittooshallpass · 18/04/2016 21:36

Oh Solo... what a day you've had... hope your DD is ok and you've got over the shock of it all.

You're not a bad mummy... kids eh? Who'd have 'em 😆

Flowerpower41 · 19/04/2016 09:21

That sounds horrendous Solo hope she gets treated.

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Solo · 20/04/2016 23:10

Oh thanks both Thanks. Dd is recovering well, but she's covered in bruises! Arm, knee's, chin, lip...Dentist says it could take a year before we know if the bang has done any serious damage (grey/black teeth = dead :(). Fingers crossed that they are fine.

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megletthesecond · 27/04/2016 22:58

How is your dd getting on solo?

7yo dd has only just gone to bed so I'm here staring at a screen trying to finally get some downtime today. I functioned so much better when they were asleep by 7:30.

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Solo · 29/04/2016 00:32

Hi meglet :) thanks for asking. Dd's lip took a turn for the worse and I sent photo's to the maxillo facial people after speaking with them but after about 20 hours, the lip went from needing to be opened, realigned and stitched to 'we're going to leave it alone' and sure enough, it looks healed but scarred; it's really unbelievable actually! But I'm relieved.

I'm for sleep. I hope you are ok Thanks

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Solo · 02/05/2016 23:13

How has everyone's weekend been?

Mine has been uneventful - lazy even. Ds is having girlfriend troubles and I'm trying to stay out of it as otherwise, it'll be my fault. Dd is doing well, but a scar has developed under her lip and we are applying Bio Oil to it.

I want to win the lottery and retire.

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megletthesecond · 03/05/2016 09:30

I'd like to retire too solo. I'm not feeling the work love at all these days. Am too depressed and couldn't care less about it, just going through the motions.

I'd be such a good SAHM. Could tidy the house, cook, garden, run and meet friends. Instead of working in silence and looking at a screen. I might leave next year tbh, just need to sort my CV and do some detective work..

God that was moany Blush. Shall I come back later in a better mood!

megletthesecond · 03/05/2016 16:22

Update; I spent the last part of the day pencilling my annual leave dates until next Easter. Feel a bit better when I know I'll be free.

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Solo · 05/05/2016 11:28

Oh meglet I know! I really really know :( . I have to stare at a screen too and talk to clients on the phone talking about stuff I don't fully understand and I ought to now have a better grasp of it ~ it's been nearly 10 months! But my memory is so bad I feel like I'm constantly bluffing my way through it all...I loved being a SAHM when I took the career break, but I do now know how much time I wasted :( I could have and should have done so much more! Grrr!!

See! I can moan too! Grin

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megletthesecond · 08/05/2016 21:21

Memo to self; don't look at fb on a sunny weekend. We have not had a barbecue, we have not been at the beach, I have not been out with friends, in haven't had a conversation all weekend, all I've done is clean up after and nag the kids, my children haven't been bundles of joy.... etc. You get the picture. I think my brain has gone numb Hmm .

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Solo · 08/05/2016 23:17

I know what you mean meglet :( me neither. Thanks.

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LostQueen · 12/05/2016 08:45

Hi Everyone, am I too late to join in? I've been a single parent pretty much since day one, my DD is 4 now. Last year we left the UK as I got a job overseas but we'll return to the UK either next year or the year after. I like where we live but my job isn't quite what I thought it would be and will destroy the career I've worked so hard to build up if I stay for too much longer!

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Solo · 12/05/2016 10:29

Welcome LQ Thanks jump right in; it gets quiet on here, but usually someone answers...

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megletthesecond · 14/05/2016 09:59

Hello lost. Well done for taking such a big step moving away, even if it didn't work out at least you gave it a go. Are you returning from somewhere hot? I find the ex-pat threads fascinating.

LostQueen · 22/05/2016 05:14

Thanks Solo and Meglet :)

I'm currently roasting like a rotisserie chicken in Qatar but heading home for the Summer break in exactly 25 days time - can you tell I've been counting? Grin

EquinoxBloom · 22/05/2016 07:59

Can I join?

I'm usually pretty positive but am struggling this weekend.

I'm also an expat and the lack of support is grinding me down.

megletthesecond · 22/05/2016 22:05

Welcome equinox. Of course you can join.

lost if you don't mind please could you bring some sunshine and heat back with you. Thanks awfully Grin .

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Solo · 23/05/2016 10:57

Grin Good request meglet

Well, my news is that my son has 'left home'. He hasn't taken anything much (PS3, 4 pairs of boxers, 2 tee shirts and some socks), but he now lives with his friend and friends mum. I don't know them, or where they live apart from the general area and I'm not happy. He's 17 ~ 18 in August and he is happy to contribute to their pot, but not mine. He even said on the phone yesterday that he 'has to go and wash up' and yet he has never done any such thing in my household Hmm I feel let down by him just leaving. I'm very sad.

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EquinoxBloom · 23/05/2016 12:22

Sorry to hear that Solo Sad

Was it prompted by anything specific? Do you think he'll be back?

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Solo · 25/05/2016 00:43

He says we argue all the time, but we don't. He doesn't like that I want him to get a job or that he owes me money. Don't know if he'll be back, but once I've done the bedrooms and not split the biggest into two for him and my Dd, there won't be a place for him here. I can't wait and see if he returns and to be honest I doubt his pride will let him anyway.

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