Number 2 Thread When You Are Fed Up With The Solitary Burden Of Single Parentdom

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Happy New Year and Happy New Thread to all the single parents looking for a place to rant, rave, moan, share the highs and the lows and chat with people that know! It is the second thread and probably a slow one if the first is anything to go by, but it's here when we need it.

LINK TO THE FIRST THREAD

Thing is, for many years I felt like we could run into a world wide crisis/war/alien invasion or some such and that was when I started having a few boxes filled with long life stuff...used it as it had been sitting there for a long time. Must restock them though.

Wet wipes... how did I survive before wet wipes came into my life?

Hi all
I am belatedly joining in too... Seperated from DD's dad last year, feel like I'm rapidly heading to lone parent country. He has had her one night in the past six weeks, and we are caught in a vicious cycle of her refusing contact, him dropping her off to me and then blaming her/me for it. He has recently expressed his sadness that she is 'choosing to divorce him' and that he feels she has to 'learn that there are consequences'. Sigh. She is young. Luckily I have an amazing boss who has enabled term time working, otherwise my life would have been a catalogue of catastrophe.

Hello, newbie here, H left just over a week ago. He was controlling and violent and had a criminal record for common assault against me. My ds is 3 and I'm still finding my feet.

I've managed to get some low dose antidepressants and started them
yesterday. I was also given some sleeping pills but I still wake all night. Just want to get passed this initial shit bit first and start to feel positive again.

Hello ida and just . We tootle along nicely here, lots of support and chat .

old you've made me buy some florentines now, always meant to try them. In my defence I had a crap day at work which peaked me with dropping my mug of tea all over my keyboard so I need cheering up. And I've got a hard gym class tomorrow so the nuts in them will give me a protein boost .

I've been a single mum since August last year, I have 4 boys and I'm a nurse so life can be full on. I'm truly lucky to have an awesome ex who is great but I'm so lonely (I feel stupid saying that) and the days I don't have kids i clean, walk the dog etc but friend wise I'm lacking and I've no idea how to go about making new ones (tried putting messages on here netmums etc I'll chat to anyone) work is 40 miles away so no real work friends either. Perhaps I'm wallowing :-)
Kids just went to their dads and I'm watching channel 5 movie with tea and chocolate biscuits could be worse I guess

Are you working this weekend kay?

I think it's easy to climb the walls as a lp. Even when the kids are around I talk to myself something rotten .

I'm off tonight but nights tomorrow night so trying my best to enjoy a quiet night in but I really want to be out doing something - I can cope when kids are here as with 4 it's non stop. Just trying to think of ways to make friends and get out more, perhaps I'm overthinking things

Hello Ida, Just and Kay :) welcome to our little sanctuary of support . Single parenting can be immensely lonely, but we have discovered that there can be upsides to it too, though they don't seem to help when you are sad and lonely or struggling to cope alone.
Some of us have discovered that we don't live too far from one another, so if you feel comfortable enough doing so, you could give a brief idea of your location and if there are 2 or more in the vicinity, you could maybe agree a meet up. Many of us are in the south east near to Maidstone and are hoping for a meet at the coast sometime soon.

Meglet I talk to myself too .

It's Osbournes spring budget on Weds folks. Wonder what he'll cut for lp's next .

The dc's are being beasts this weekend. DD broke the third tv in a year last week so they're constantly fighting and making a mess.

Yes meglet that'll fun :(

I dread the base rate rising again although I know it's inevitable sometime soon...I'll have to look for a low-ish fixed rate

Oh and Dd was really unwell yesterday; she didn't eat a thing and had a raised temperature. Much better today though. I've been unwell for nearly a week, but hey ho.

I'm just contemplating whether I should ask the poster that is considering asking her Dh if he will take tomorrow off to look after their 7 month old because she has a bad cold, if I can borrow him today as I don't feel very well. IABU?

Have just spent the entire weekend moving house, and my old flat was on the third floor...Two massive mugs of tea and I'm just starting to feel human again! Luckily my Ex has had DD for her first overnight in a month, and she stayed there, which is approaching miraculous! Although informed him on drop-off this afternoon that she is 'so excited about her new home that she doesn't want to see him anymore' so goodness knows when I'll get any free time again!

Solo not in the slightest! Eminently reasonable, I think. for you, hope you feel better soon xx

Solo... I feel your pain. Being ill is the worst thing when you're a lone parent... It takes ages to get better too as you just have to keep going. Get well soon. Xx

Thanks ittoo I'm fine ~ have to be! Dd is off to my Mum's in a while as she's still unwell; she's complaining that it hurts to move her eyes around, that lights hurt and one of her eyes is a bit bloodshot on one side...temperature is up and down too.

Hello everyone can i join! So nice to have a thread where someone gets it! So i have two amazing dcs and have been in this situation around 18 months. Currently in the middle of a nasty divorce. Ex was physically and emotionally abusive and has had kids with the ow while we were married. Anyway as mediation didn't go well and i am going to court he is getting nasty and threatening me that i am refusing mediation and will be liable to pay his costs as well as i am being so difficult. Thing is he has a huge income and many assets but is refusing to part with them and i need to secure something for the kids. Anyway don't want to hijack the thread but its so helpful to let it out somewhere where at least someone can identify with it.

I am still really anxious though that he will win and i will be worse off. Its so hard doing this alone i have no family support and just a few friends. Its so exhausting

Hi yummy welcome to our thread; you are welcome to talk about anything at all...it's good to bounce it around on here :)

For you yummy 💐That sounds really tough.

Feeling a bit meh this evening.
Was actually invited to a bit of a bash at a friends house tonight (all women... don't get too excited thinking I actually got asked out to socialise in the company of, gasp, men). Really wanted to go... could I get a babysitter? No. Sigh. Another Saturday night with Pointless and Ant & Dec. Yawn.

Thanks solo and thanks for the flowers ittoo. I have had that where you really want to go to something but no babysitter. Its horrible and just makes you feel more isolated and resentful. Other people just don't get it

Oh me too! I was supposed to go to a casual work social on Friday after work, but no baby sitter....bit of a theme here!

On a nicer note...It's my birthday on Monday and my Ds has actually bought me a gift and card!! He left it on my bed (not wrapped, but hey! Little steps), it's a...sort of, might be a...could be a...I think it's either a table cloth or a cotton throw with Indian elephants on :) His first ever proper gift to me totally without help!! he's nearly 18

I have had the opposite problem tonight... Organised a sleepover for DD by pulling in massive favours, only to have the guy I'm dating cancel So much organisation just to have a night at home alone on the couch. He was very apologetic and had a good but not good enough reason, but... Think I'll be binning him off. Sigh. This dating lark is next to impossible.