Fed up with not having anyone to share the burdens with.

[Solo]

Bit of a self pitying thread really, but it's taken me a very long time and I can now say with conviction that after being on my own for so long...

I am fed up with the burden of being alone.
I am fed up with struggling on my own.
I am sometimes lonely.
I have no single parent friends or single friends at all and my 'social life' ha! what a joke is visiting my widowed Mum or visiting my Brother.
I miss my Dad terribly.
I can't get a job.
Not one 'friend' has spoken to me so far this summer holiday (except one that lives on cloud fluffyland in her mansion and that really cheers me up because shopping is her passtime!).

I could write a very long list of problems and yes, I know we all have problems, but I just don't want to do it on my own any longer, I don't want to face the problems on my own :( I could cry right now and need a real 'man hug' and I don't care who knows it!

Solo - forgot to reply to your last post, there!

Yes it sounds good. I don't want to mislead anyone, I'm not a lone parent but I can still stay on your thread, can't I? Please!

I was a lone parent from when my DC1 was about 2 weeks old till she was about 6 years old.

I ended up on here because I replied to Solo when she first posted. This thread is 8 pages long now - I didn't realise!

Anyway, I like you lot, so I'm sticking around!

Hello, my lovelies

I'm a LP. Ds is 15 and has no contact with his father (Ds's choice). His father went off with someone else when I was just under 8 months pregnant (in hospital in premature labour!), but I always thought it was ds's choice so I supported contact, and put up with his father turning up drunk at 3am because he wanted somewhere to sleep etc, just so that ds could get to know him. His father left the UK when ds was 3 and saw/contacted him very little. Ds is 15 now and I've done all of it myself. It's exhausting at times and I can't really remember his first year too well as I was a zombie, but I've seen what a lovely boy he is and what a wonderful man he'll turn into, and I know it's because he's had the love, support and care that he's needed (go me! ). I've had to drag his father through the courts for maintenance and I've had to deal with his shit, but that's life. I also have MS, so I have to live with not knowing whether I'll wake up sick. Ds is old enough to look after himself and cook, but he's dyspraxic so gets into a fluster so still needs me. I find the relentless bills tough. The minute I've managed to save anything, something needs replacing or paying and I don't know when this will stop.

I went back to Uni when ds was 3 and managed to get a law degree. It's really not been easy but I think it was a good thing to do, as I have a stable job and I'm able to cover ds's school fees. My father died too, 6 years ago. I wish I'd have gone home more to spend some time with him but I can't change that. I think I'm doing OK, all I do is work though and I'd like to make some more friends. We moved to a new city a couple of years ago to be closer to school and I don't know anybody but I've been trying to arrange MN meet ups.

All I can say is don't sit on the sidelines and let life pass you by. If you're not happy with your qualifications, do something about it. If you need some friends, get out there and do something about it. Only you can change things. We were dealt a shitty hand, you can change things though.

< to you all, and much love to all of you who are just starting your journey. Thinking of you, grobags. I hope there's people around you to hold your hand.

Wow Sybil that's one inspirational post! Thanks! I think you've just given me the kick up the bum that I needed

I haven't been dealt a shitty hand, but I'm certainly guilty of sitting on the sidelines. I have much to cherish and appreciate, which I do, but I think I should seize the day more, I'm not living my life to the full, iyswim.

A close friend of mine has MS, and she, too, is one of the most uplifting people I know.

Sorry Sybil - just read back and it sounds like I am claiming to know you. Didn't mean it like that, I just didn't word it especially well!

Oh, don't worry. I've been on here for a while so you probably do know me

You can do it. Life's there for the taking, but you have to take it. Good luck!

Hello, I think a regular support thread where we could drop in to say 'hello' and support each other would be a great idea.

I'm going through a shitty divorce at the moment which seems to be taking up a lot of time (and money) and most of my emotional energy. I keep meaning to look into a gingerbread group locally, and once the divorce is over I will (she says!) but in the meantime something on here would be lovely.

to everyone. I particulary don't like bank holidays!

Oh, good luck with the divorce. There's a lot of people on legal who are happy to give the odd bit of generic advice, so you could post there if there's something bugging you.

Bank holidays are a bit dull. I find Christmas Day a little 'not fun'. There's images of huge families everywhere and it doesn't take into account the elderly/single people/lone parent families.

Can I join you? Single mum to 8mo DS.

I am in central London with in case anyone else is, and has no plans for the rest of the weekend?

Grobags, I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

I'm in the East Midlands or I'd love to meet you for a coffee

Everyone on here seems to be in London/south

What are you all doing for the bank holiday ? So boring, dd and I are watching Mary Poppins. How very exciting not

I would love a regular support thread. Always seems a bit quiet on here.

I just took DS to the Lego movie. It was awesome :) And really catchy tune too.

"Everything is awesome..."

Everythink is awesome.....

Gets stuck in your head doesnt it !

We are going chester zoo tomorrow there's an offer on where kids go free, its only about an hour from where I live.

I'm working over the bank holiday.

Suitably inspirational tune for the thread :)

Tune's going to drive me nuts!

Sorry But as you are part of This Team, you get to share the love, and DS is too young to appreciate it properly please don't kick me out

Ah, but ds is 15, so I've had 15 years of the Tweenies/Thomas the Tank engine et all. My time for repetitive annoying songs is done

You won't get kicked out. It's solo's thread and I'm sure there's worse things.

Well I'm trying to sort out my house, which is even less fun than watching Mary Poppins (I really love quite like that film!)

Tired Have you told us where you are? I can't remember who has, who hasn't and where those who have live!

I'll pm you. There's a slim chance you might be near-ish me!

Yes a regular support thread sounds just great.

I have just been playing with my new GhD hair stylers which I bought at the beginning of the summer holiday. So that cheered me up a little. I couldn't really afford it but it was my treat for me as we couldn't afford a holiday away yet again owing to childcare costing a fortune and having to run my car I can never earn enough to go away.

We are off to Cadbury World tomorrow though - it will be good to drag myself out of the house.... I hope my son has fun there he deserves it.

Well, I'm going out tonight - the first time in ages!

A friend phoned me up out of the blue, literally as I was thinking "I'v got to make more of an effort to meet up with friends!"

I feel a bit anxious about trying to find something to wear that I can actually fit into to. Told my friend that I don't have anything to wear, but she genuinely didn't care, and didn't see it as a valid excuse not to go .

Ah, of course she doesn't. Just wear whatever your comfortable in

Have fun!

Hello, am also East Mids. J25 of M1.

Misfit have a lovely evening.

Hiya, Tricky

I don't think you're very far from me.

We should have a meet up