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Where are all the nice men

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oscarthegrouch · 19/11/2012 23:24

My friends all seem to have hit on lucky with their partners it's making me feel lonely!

Are there any nice men left? I never seem to meet any

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equinox · 20/11/2012 13:16

Well that is a deafening silence hope that answers your question lol.

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oscarthegrouch · 20/11/2012 13:30

Pmsl haha I know!!! I may join a nunnery

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GetAllTheThings · 20/11/2012 13:40

Of course there are nice men left, but we they're a retiring breed unlikely to be found out on the open planes of singledom.

I'd hope I'm a nice man. But I work hard, see my dd as much as I can and pretty much sleep the rest of the time.

GreenBurrito · 20/11/2012 14:23

I'd also like to think that I'm a nice man, but I'm not currently looking don't have the time for a relationship!

I'm just trying to support my xp and our baby, as soon as they decide to arrive, as our due date was yesterday!

I can imagine a few of them do get a little bit scared once they start reading these boards though

GetAllTheThings · 20/11/2012 14:52

I think mumsnet has put me off relationships :o

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oscarthegrouch · 20/11/2012 15:18

Was starting to wonder if it was me, the last one I let into my family unit totally broke my heart and I felt utter guilt that my ds was put in that situation. So the next one will have to be perfect

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GreenBurrito · 20/11/2012 16:38

Haha GetAllTheThings I can understand, I almost got put off myself... almost

I can understand, oscarthegrouch, I think I'm going to be very weary of introducing new partners to DC myself, probably vet them for a good few months before hand!

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oscarthegrouch · 20/11/2012 17:17

I've just posted about my exp recently introducing ds to his current squeeze - the 6th in a year. He met her after 2 days if their "relationship". Arse!!!

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GetAllTheThings · 20/11/2012 17:22

Jesus. I agreed with my XP I'd be six months before any partner was introduced to dd.

I'd really struggle with seeing someone else's dc more than my own( as an NRP ) . I'm sure it could work I'm just rather hesitant. But realistically, given I rarely go out these days except to the woods for a walk, I doubt there's any romance that's going to randomly knock on my door.....

..... hold on there's someone at the door.

GreenBurrito · 20/11/2012 19:43

That is just disrespectful oscar, I couldn't do it myself.

My xp and I had also agreed on the six month wait, but seeing as she now already has a new partner and has been dating him for about 2 months, she thinks that she can introduce him to our DC once they've reached 4 months old.
I am totally against since as I had assumed neither of us were interested in another relationship at the time and I think that she should wait until DC is at least 6 months old.
Also it does make me worry as I also am a NRP.

Haha GetAllTheThings, any luck at the door?

InSPsFanjoNoOneHearsYouScream · 20/11/2012 19:46

All the nice men are at home with their boyfriend's obviously. The best looking ones are any way!

avenueone · 20/11/2012 19:53

Lets start a dating thread on this lone parents section, we seem to have what is required: men and women both single and both understand what it is like being a single parent... who knows what will happen
just going for walks in the woods who was at the door
I am liking a happy thread on the board.. must be in an optimistic mood or am I flirting for the first time in years...

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oscarthegrouch · 20/11/2012 20:51

haha the last few posts have made me chuckle!! you're right avenueone its always depressing on these threads!

on a depressing note (ha) i didnt clearly state that ds had met ALL 6 of these gfs, not just the recent one! it is disrespectful and its bloody lovely to hear about other dad's views on this, I hope my exp is in the minority

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GreenBurrito · 21/11/2012 11:09

It's certainly an idea and would be a nice bit of light heartedness

In the meantime though I am constantly staring at my phone waiting for the call to say xp has gone to the hospital, I think I'm beginning to go a little insane and it's definately getting hard to concentrate!
I dread to feel how this is affecting xp if I'm like this!

GetAllTheThings · 21/11/2012 11:18

Ok, was just the postman at the door delivering my 'Pipe Smokers and Slippers Weekly'

I am actually Daniel Craig. I've given old Rachael the heave-ho and am available for daring missions. I do have a slight kink about painting women gold from head to toe whilst making sexist quips though.

Peterpan101 · 21/11/2012 18:43

Thought you were on about James Bond until you implied he says sexist things!

Graciescotland · 21/11/2012 18:55

I do know a couple of lovely blokes who've sworn not to date women with kids again. Both had long term relationships where they were called Dad and loved the children like they were their own. However when the relationships ended they were told not to contact the DC again; essentially they lost their family and I can imagine the possibility of that happening scares a lot of "nice guys" off.

AmIthatScary · 22/11/2012 00:16

Oh well, I am sure there must be some nice men out there. I have to believe that, or else I would go mad.

I haven't had any male interest for 8 years. You'd think Ii would be over it by now, but I'm really not.

I would so, so, so love someone for the occasional hug/date/anything else.

I never imagined that I would be single at my age, and it's not for the wont of trying.

Seems all the men are otherwise engaged

QuiteQuiet · 22/11/2012 20:15

I have heard of the things 'nice men' but have yet to meet one.

I am sticking to my children and animals and will have a look in a few years time.

ThatsNice · 22/11/2012 20:23

Another one here wondering if I should just head off to find a commune instead... :/

FerrisBueller1972 · 22/11/2012 20:26

When you do find them please tell me where they are

QuiteQuiet · 22/11/2012 20:28

Erm.. sorry no way if I find one I am locking him in and stealing his shoes.

beujolais · 22/11/2012 21:09

The last man i dated (almost 5 years ago, ahem) was very nice, he just wasn't quite over his ex, shame as i really could see us going somewhere. Haven't really attempted anything since, it was too painful.

ThatsNice · 22/11/2012 21:14

Must admit, I've just not long broken up with a really lovely guy. It just wasn't 'right' though and I could feel myself starting to 'settle' and we both deserved better than that

QuiteQuiet · 22/11/2012 21:16

Okay so I met one but I told him to delete me from his life as I was scared I would hurt him. My life is a bit messy and he was... too nice.

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