Where are all the nice men

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My friends all seem to have hit on lucky with their partners it's making me feel lonely!

Are there any nice men left? I never seem to meet any

It's in 'relationships' . A beacon of hope in a sea of misery.

Have you read it GetAllThings lots of ladies being hurt... I cannot date, it hurts the 'feelings' So I just do not do it, that way no feelings getting hurt here...

@GetAllTheThings which one? can you please put a link here, as i can't seem to find it. thanks!

@NotWankinginaWinterWonderland you can't swim if you don't get wet :)

I know, I got wet last year thought and my feelings got a little bit hurt

I may tip my toes in again, next year! See how things are, if I am honest I am scared to bring a man back into my life, I'm not sure how my children would react! I don't want t hurt them, no idea if this is rational thinking or not!

Good lord it's gone ! That's been going for a good 6 months, I can only guess it's been moved elsewhere.

I always thought it was a bit incongrous in relationship forum.

No there is another one, I seen it yesterday.. I cannot remember the name I will keep an eye out though.

Ah here it is

Not that I am interested though

236 posts since yesterday

Busy/brave ladies....

Seems I have opened up a big can o worms!! I have gone the other way and sort of used and abused to protect myself from getting hurt, pretending its not a relationship I want when deep down I feel more ready for it for me and ds, now more than ever. I have a fantastic social life with ds being at his dads every other weekend so it's not an issue of having the chance to meet people. I think the issue is me, I scare them off subconsciously!

I did a little bit of that also....

I was proving myself attractive though, done it, now I am over it!

Only slept with one, he got lucky/unlucky, I think he thiknk lucky as he won't leave me ALONE!!!! 7 months later, he has no idea I got bored after the one incident (was with him for 3 months he was big fan of sexting) I used to sext him extracts out of Sylvia Days 'Bared by You' then read my crappy magazine...worked everytime - maybe that is why he will not go away

oh thanks, but how do I navigate that thread?

can't read hundreds of messages daily. work full time/single mum/no family.

I have a lovely lovely FWB who I see about 4 times a year.

I'd be quite happy with a few more ( that's not a solicitation ). Have a nice respectful time with good sex, nice walks, nice diners and none of the humdrum or arguments about cleaning the loo.

Some friends would be nice let alone friends with benefits!!!

FWB never works long term :)

ankh the oppourtunity to find out would be nice! although I don't think I could do emotionless sex?

FWB is not necessarily emotionless. it happens between friends :)

Ah sponge31, I too would have loved to have the opportunity to find out. When I said I couldn't attract a man, I meant it literally.

FWB would be great, but it's not happening for my and I have no idea why. I only know that it is depressing

Yes ankh your right but friendship is different, once you cross the line to sex things change, speaking from my perspective anyhow, I have considered FWB in the past but think it would be too much headfuck.
Actually my last relationship started out as a trial FWB but developed into something more, it depends on if you can get a level of detachment I think

amIthatscary perhaps you need to stop thinking about it and concentrate on your own well being and happiness within, then perhaps when your least expecting it...bamm....you'll meet your Mr right, that's what I keep getting told..(I do have a few friends)

well I only had that once, things did change... but none of us fell in love. it lasted about 6 months. we are still friends after 10 years, in fact he is one of my best friends in the whole world. he just got married, i'm happy for him.

I don't like the FWB thing, I had that with the guy who won't leave me alone, it was fine until my feelings started getting involved, no doubt it is okay if feelings don't start getting involved though. It was me who suggested it... Then 2 weeks later I decided I didn't want it. I felt like I was being used, even though I was using him too....

My feeling got all involved though, hence me never meeting him again! I just wish he would understand that and leave me alone now tbh!

I have told him twice now but apparently he forgets.

I cannot look at this guy as a friend, I usually just want to have sex, if I am honest it kills my weekly budget with petrol also...ours was a every 2nd week-end thing.

I think my FWB works because ( a) she really is a friend so there's a lot of mutual respect there (b) she lives a long way away so there's no chance it'll develop into something else ( c) neither of us really want an exclusive relationship.

I know it's not an ideal situation, but it kind of works for us.