Ooh sorry, I dangled that carrot and then didn't come back to reply!
Ok, so who is up for a master class in cosmic ordering? I warn you I am quite woo - you don't have to be!
Its all about the law of attraction - what you focus on is what you will attract into your life. So if you sit there thinking that there are no decent men out there, that is what you will see. If you think you will never find the time or never go anywhere to meet anyone, then that's what'll happen.
So find some time when you won't be disturbed, light a candle, put some gentle music on and maybe some incense. As you light the candle set the intention that you will leave all your worries and fears to one side while you write your list. You don't have to do the music and candle if that's too woo, intention is powerful on its own.
Get a large piece of paper and start writing down what it is you would like in your ideal relationship. What qualities you would like your partner to have. Keep it positive, no negative words. So for example if you'd like someone without debts don't say "without debts" say "financially affluent or financially abundant" or something like that. Be specific. Really go to town, you can ask for whatever it is you'd like. I had two sides of A5 and scribblings in the margin! You can add to the list as new things occur to you.
Next visualise yourself with this man, what you are going to do, how you are going to feel. Take your list and put it somewhere safe. You might want to go back to it and add something or change something.
Then wait for opportunities to come your way to meet someone. It might be a party invite, a new class, joining a dating website, or bumping into someone in the supermarket. Just tell yourself that you are open to him coming, then trust and believe that he is.