Bloody hell, dont know how pickles got on the computer so fast after giving birth but KUDOS!!
My daughter is now 5 days old and I feel barely human, everything I thought would happen to me during labour was thrown out the window. Induced, epidural (I screamed the hospital down once they put me on the drip) and in last few minutes emergancy forcepts in theatre. Was so drugged up I couldnt hold her for an hour. Had episiotomy and now just found out today I have an infection downstairs!! Am pretty much imobile due to that so imagine trying to feed and put to sleep a newborn on your own when not being able to move!! Oh and she has colic and hasnt pooed for 3 days and cries most of the night!!
On the plus side....she is beautiful. I mean she is the most gorgeous thing I have ever seen. I would have split a&#hole to earhole for her and not regretted it one minute. I can just watch her for hours! Love her to bits and actually she has been really good today, waiting for mother of all poos to ease the tummy pain which should make her settle.
OK so on the the 'father'. Sent him a text I was being induced and got nothing. Sent a text after she was born informing him of arrival, sex, length, weight.
I got a 'thats nice, glad everything went well', er no! everything did not go well. I did not answer his next three text which all said the same. Glad everything went well. No congrats or what is she called or anything like that.
Then 24 hours later I got a text saying 'what are you calling our precious one'. Total mindfuck here...why using the word 'our'. When I was pregnant I was solely responsible for this problem.
I told him I had not yet decided and would send photo and name when decided. He tried to angle to be part of making a choice of name but I didnt fall for that one!!
Sent me another text late sunday night saying ' where are the photos of the pretty one'.
Then it struck me, he has not called her daughter yet...hmmmm
Sent three photos with her details again and name choice, not emotional but saying I thought she was gorgous and that I saw both mine and his dad in her and that she was perfect etc.
This is what hurts the most, he has not answered this email, nothing..no nice name choice or yes she is really cute!! Which was nice...
I did however get one sms which said, relieved you didnt pick a white trash name...like hello, what has that got to do with things!!
Anyway, glad he is not here as he is such a controlling perfectinist he would not be able to handle my shredded vagina or that i am hobbling around with my breast hanging out, lol. In his world I should be down at the gym already.
Anyway, that is my story, will try to update regularly as I can. I love her to bits and would go through the heartache ten times over. His loss. How can you see youself in someone and not love it.
I think the fact he can not call her daughter nor has commented the photos shows he is still in some kind of denial but not my problem anymore.
xxxx