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Facing pregnancy alone?

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thedogsrolex · 12/07/2012 18:30

There seem to be quite a few threads lately posted by women facing pregnancy alone for whatever reason. I was thinking maybe it would be a good idea to have one ongoing thread for support and advice...what do you think? I know it would have helped me way back when I had dd? (apologies if there is already one, I haven't come across it).

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xmasevebundle · 26/09/2012 23:09

Id rather be pissed off at him than upset/crying.

Made me think of the choices ive made in the last year some good and bad. Maybe its getting real as i have 12 weeks left.

I am still in denial i am pregnant, sounds so stupid as he kicks and i speak to him daily.

Also think a lot about what IF i didnt dump my babys father?

We did arrange to move in at 7 months together, be a family, but i cant live with IF.

The best thing i have EVER done is walk away from that 'man'. Took me a from 13w until about 22w it was much better.

I always think of everything, 17th nov our one year anniversay. I bought my winter clothes out and all the snuggly stuff i use to wear and he use to hold me.

Can even remember what outfit i wore when we had our first kiss. All just memories, its getting worse as its kind of re-living it.

Sad as hes my first news year kiss ever, i do miss the times we use to go out driving at crazy am with the cold air breezing in my face,smoking away, but i think of his face not him as a person.

It is true, i dont miss him i miss the person he USE to be.

I had to get that off my chestGrin

Sweetiesmum · 27/09/2012 13:45

Hey guys,
Sorry to hear/read of yr sadness and pissed offness!

It's bloody hard being a single mum.

Just wanted to remind you
"Single Mums rock!!!!"xxxxxxxxxxx

Flumpy2012 · 27/09/2012 14:20

I hope I feel as positive as you when I'm sleep deprived and covered in sick Grin xx

skyebluesapphire · 27/09/2012 20:05

Hope everybody is doing ok,

skyebluesapphire · 29/09/2012 14:17

Hi everyone, hope you are all ok, it's very quiet here, no news is good news hopefully ? xx

xmasevebundle · 29/09/2012 18:04

Hello skye Im doing good, packed my suitcase last night.

Started a mums group where you get a level 1 baby thing out of it, takes me out the house once a week, i enjoy it. Im the oldest as its a 'young' mums one.

Trying to opt for a c-section too, i hope your doing well x

Flumpy2012 · 30/09/2012 12:18

Hello all

We're ok, muddling along. Sorting things out, taking each day as it comes. Generally ok and fairly positive. 28 weeks now. I think time is going quicker but them some days drag so who knows x

skyebluesapphire · 30/09/2012 13:17

Glad you are both doing ok, I do worry about you all lol

Flumpy2012 · 30/09/2012 13:22

It's good to be cared about, thank you!

How are you doing Skye?

EP is displaying some seriously odd behaviour now so watching and waiting to see what he does.

I think DD will be here in 10 weeks or less - scary prospect but amazing to think ill meet her!! xx

skyebluesapphire · 30/09/2012 13:34

I'm doing ok, hoping to be divorced by the end of the month.

10 weeks to go! That's getting close!

Just make sure you put yourself first with your XP and don't be pushed around.

Flumpy2012 · 30/09/2012 16:05

Wow that's a big thing, how do you feel?

It's really not long at all, but I think I have major things ready for her. Went to NCT sale yesterday, was fab!

I couldn't go back now but being friendly with him and laughing together is good and healthy for DD to be around when she arrives so I hope it continues. Not pinning any hopes on a wonderful friendship and trying not to push myself or him either. X

skyebluesapphire · 30/09/2012 16:29

It would be good if you could be friends. I can't do that with my STBXH as I still love him too much and hurt too much to be near him if I can't be with him. I feel pathetic now, having a low day again, it's nearly six months since he finally walked and it feels like years but also like no time at all.

Today I am missing him, or rather, missing who he was before he changed

Flumpy2012 · 30/09/2012 16:40

It's so hard.
I'm starting to feel really scared about wanting him when DD arrives but hopefully I'll be focused on her and too busy.

At the moment I still have barriers up which are protecting me. I love this nice person he is at the moment all caring and helpful but my head reminds me it wasn't that way just a few weeks ago and I must not get too comfy.

We still find it difficult to talk about plans and he hates being asked questions and still doesn't like talking about me seeing his DS but I guess we'll see what happens. The less pressure on the situation the better we are getting along.

Is your STBXH with anyone else?

Hugs that you're having a low day xxx

skyebluesapphire · 30/09/2012 17:06

Thanks. As far as I know ex is on his own but when he walked out he was texting his mates wife over hundred times a day. So he has got this emotional thing going on with her.... Not sure how far it's gone or how far it will go.

Flumpy2012 · 30/09/2012 17:31

Sounds bizzare and quite immoral with friends wife!!

Has there ever been talk of working things out?

My psychiatric nurse saw Sam and I this week and he seems to think that we could be really good together but that what's happened is like a detonation in our lives and it's caused us all to panic and it's no good trying to go anywhere or do anything until the dust has settled. He thinks that in order to maintain ourselves we have to go little by little very slowly. Which is what is seeming to happen naturally but tbh I think I am getting used to it and I still don't see a time when I will trust him or he will respect me. It was an interesting insight though.

We don't hug anymore, we did after we first broke up but it was too emotional, we don't cry anymore, only me sometimes if I'm in pain. We laugh quite a lot and talk lots about DD and sometimes his DS.

I had some steroid injections last night and when we left hospital it was about 10 and we went to 24 hour mc Donald's and got apple pies and drinks. That's what I've missed. The company!

Some of me thinks that in time if we spend happy times together with DD and his DS then things may progress one day but at the moment I think it's more probable that we'll be friends and he'll either get serious with his XW or meet someone else.

He stayed over the other night to make sure we were ok after some bleeding and as much as I wanted to go and curl up with him just for comfort, I resisted and I felt better for it too, more power to me!!! but I was v glad he stayed xx

skyebluesapphire · 30/09/2012 18:44

I am glad that he is supporting you, that is really good for you and who knows what the future could bring. Just don't expect anything and then you can't get hurt.

Ex left in feb came back after we talked then left again six weeks later. He was texting her a month before he left and right through us trying to work things out. I don't know why he came back. He dudn't love me and that was that.

Flumpy2012 · 30/09/2012 23:17

Men can be arse holes.

I don't think I'll ever fully trust him is the issue but we shall see what happens. I don't understand why men have have such a problem deciding what they want and telling the bloody truth!! They just all seem to yoyo us women and we're expected to watch an wait! xxx

Flumpy2012 · 02/10/2012 10:34

How's everyone doing?? x

Sweetiesmum · 02/10/2012 12:18

Dear Skyebluesapphire, stuff the b... you can do so much better.. Dear Flumpy, and Xmas, there WILL be someone gorgeous for all of you, and not an arsehole that treats you so insensitively. Never doubt your infinite worth as a person, though your trust and faith in love may sometimes fade
I'm sending you all biggest hugs from Aus
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Sweetiesmum · 02/10/2012 12:43

Flumpy, hope things work out for you with Sam, sounds like he is really wanting to try for a happier future with you. xx

xmasevebundle · 02/10/2012 13:07

Im waiting for my man! He needs to over 5ft 6 and not have brown eyes, dark hair and nice. Looks dont bother me, as long its not 3 eyes! Lol.

Had my MW today and she tried twice to get my bloods and failed. Think thats why i hate it each time they cant find it. I now have to go up the hopstial where would have the baby, to get a few prods and pokes!

Also spoke to her about the c-section she said he would refer me to the consultant which was very nice of her. She is the best midwife the team have yet ive only had her a few times Sad

preggofabulous · 02/10/2012 18:34

Im not settling for anything less than Johnny depp lol x

Have finally moved house yay! So no more bad memories in every room Smile

Just need to leave work and I'm free of the bastard, ready to get on with life with baby x

Hope everyone is peachy!

skyebluesapphire · 03/10/2012 23:04

sounds like everybody is doing ok at the moment.

I hope Pickles is going on ok too, I realise she is busy at the moment Grin

Flumpy2012 · 04/10/2012 17:11

I'm weak and hormonal and I miss him! Sad

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