Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 31)

[Hatesponge]

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betty - when should i go to free activities? I didnt say we werent going out and about. we are. I dont have any friends locally, this is what happens when you spend years moving around. Ive been here two years and am as yet to have made any friends really. What with working and then ill health... i didnt see or even speak to any other mums until DD started school this jan.

My weekends break i would go see people, and that was very much needed. with that gone its very insular and isolating.

Tbh, i think its a bit crap of you 'old' posters, seeing as we are called the 'new' ones to come back after a time away, stomp your feet, have a strop and say its not the same as it was.

and again, if you havent been on many ( if any, dates recently) how can you even say anything.

Im done with this thread now, it seems to be populated with a lot of 'old' posters who seem shallow and think that ' going on as many dates as i cant fit into one day.. i dont care if i fancy them or not' is some kind of good/cool/great thing to aspire to. i just think its shallow and meaningless.

and just a little bit desperate.

took-Well sorry i'm sorry if you feel that way, you seem to think no one could possibly know how you feel and I'm trying to be sympathetic and was actaully being nice asking what things there were for you to do locally? I too have been in a similar situation, I moved 250 miles away from all my family and friends and started a new life 'up north' because exh wanted too, then we divorced and I have stayed here. Granted it has been a lot longer (8 years now) but it has taken me till the last few years to make 'real' friends.

And yes as you say I havent actually been dating that long recently but I only spilt with exbf in feb, and when I feel ready I will start dating and will hopefully be here to tell anyone who's interesting all the gory details! And i havent actually ever been on dates just for the sake of it and dont recall anyone else doing that either.So being called shallow and desperate i think that is a little harsh

well betty - if your not dating, why are you on this thread then?
( because that is whats being said, if your not dating or talking about light hearted dating you really shouldnt be here)

when im dating again, am back on pof and will join up to match when i get some weekends back.. then i would be posting dating stuff too.

Hmmm., im sure on the last thread there was some talk about a competation one poster had with her friend to go on as many dates as she could in one weekend.. didnt matter if she didnt fancy them as long as it was fun.
( which i happen to think is kind of desperate behaviour)
but seeing as you think im crap for moaning about being loney then its all about equal isnt it.

i havent said anything about being not understanding,thats exacally why i posted my rant on here in the first place.. because i thought people might understand.
and im being defensive because i feel some of you are being really harsh ans judgemental about 'newer' posters. which really isnt fair either.

you ( and i dont just mean you personally) cant just say ' this thread isnt to my liking, sort it out ladies' i mean, how egotistical is that?!?!?!?

Took-no one said people shouldn't be posting about other things, just find all this a bit pointless to be honest so will say no more on the matter.

took i don't have a problem
but maybe that's because i do try to view life in v much a glass half full way,imho i find that it's the way forward as is realising that no matter how hard your own probs are others have them far worse!
nmn what's landed in your inbox today then?

Oh please can we all play nicely?

I use this thread both for a quick rargh and for dating stuff. I know I have it a hell of a lot easier than others on here, but I see you lot as "friends" so it seems natural to come on here with it.

The old/new thing is getting silly - the thread has clearly evolved over time, it happens. I want a mix of both tbh.

I am v shallow NMN - Or I am honest. I don't know. Either way, if I don't like the pic, then there is no point, and I don't reply or message the "prefer not to say" ones as I want to know why they prefer not to say, what are they hiding. Smurf I messaged because one pic was zorro (love a man who will dress up), and one was in a wet suit and v pretty . Giger I only agreed to go out with in Jan because he came on IM and I didn't have the heart to say no - it is only through adding him on fb that I decided to override the face as his photos looked like he was similar interests etc.

My current list of men....

Carrot is obv the PM of my life, but always lurking.

Smurf - Met him in Feb after horrendous stalker issue. Light hearted. Oodles of charisma. Went a bit fcked up and now is talking to me again since bumping into him on date with Giger. JUST fb/texts atm. If he mentions actually seeing me then I will be asking for explanations for being a twat. He is a good laugh though, so as long as I can keep it in my head that he is sooooooooooooo Barney from how I met your mother, and not let my heart get involved then all is good.

Giger - Was meant to meet in Jan, couldn't be arsed, stopped texting him. He contacted me just after my birthday out of the blue, we got to chatting again. Finally met up last Tuesday and the fireworks were absolutely incredible. Seeing him tonight. Hopefully a lot of him. I see him as being a burst of passion but nothing long term.

Sunset - V young. He is a geek which I love. Seems v shy and insecure reading his fb. Met him on a night out, he didn't speak to me then but then tracked me down on POF. Will probably ask him for a drink when Giger fizzles out - can see him being slightly more of a longer thing.

Mattarse - fckbuddy pretty much. Sooooooooooooooooooo hot but entirely unsuitable. Compared him to a puppy today that someone else owns - amazing fun, never want to put him down, but I can leave him to chew on someone else's furniture.

Howzat?

Will give full update on Giger tomorrow. Meeting my mates first, and then him in club later.

Flame-I love the run down of the men in your life lol especially the description of mattarse lol I think I want one of those!

Ive been asked on a date by someone on pof but don't really know anything about him to be honest so won't be meeting him until I do, was meant to be arranging a date with zookeeper but think he's too far away, and am chatting to a mechanic for the fire service (Shame I dont think he gets the uniform tho)

blonde - i usually do as well.
its not often, and NEVER in RL that i ever admit im feeling down AT ALL. EVER.

and yes i know that there are plenty of people that have it worse than me. but there are no awards for having it the worse are there. and its doenst mean that its not ok every now and then to have a ' rah' momment.

ooh a fireman!!
spill lady
how faraway is zookeeper?
he sounded quite promising....

When my marriage fell apart, it was the end of my world. I ached. I knew it wasn't as huge as people whose husbands had just died, but for MY world, it was the most important thing in it. I can never judge anyone for problems that seem "lesser" than mine, as they aren't lesser to them.

Mattarse is amazing. The smell, the shoulders, the arse....

I learnt from ManA that people are so different via email than in person, I am now making dates much earlier on than when I first started out.

I vary with admitting how down I am in rl btw

I agree... how far away is far away?

I can vouch for Mattarse being drool worthy.
Where do you find these guys flame? When I was on OkCupid they were all mingers, the 2 guys who were making you larf on fb yesterday are both fit as well...

Zookeeper is about an hour away, it's a bit too far for me I think....

The two on FB (which were Smurf and ManA - Smurf won that contest by going for obscure references) were POF. Mattarse is a friend of a friend (and a tart which helps). Giger is POF as well. Sunset I technically met on my birthday night out - friend of a friend, but he didn't speak to me then, and somehow found me on POF - not a clue how. I really should ask him.

Ah yes, an hour is too much to me too

yy can understand that betty esp with your circs
saying that when i was doing the online thing i never met any locals but i guess it depends on the site you use

well the one I know nothing about, and the fireman are both local but still not sure I want to meet either of them. There is a very cute looking man on 'r u interested' on fb and we have both cilcked yes on each other (if anyone wonders what im on about you have to click yes or no wether you are interested in them) he sends me gifts every day (only thing u can do if you dont pay) but we cant message each other without paying lol! Its a bit of a game now arghh!

Off out tonight, first date, wish me luck!

Oooh good luck - who with?

ooh eve (or adam) good luck with your date!

ooh exciting!!
hope he floats yer boat more than the last one did

are you meeting for a drink?

Hi all!

Flame, thanks for the run down

good luck adam!

TKFS, we all use this thread for support from time to time - i did when my mum died -so keep posting

Betty, I used to think that long distance was a deal breaker and wouldnt have bothered. But GW is over an hour away and it doesnt seem to be a problem to him or me ATM. He has been up here several times or we have met up near his. I am in the southeast a lot for work, so he is becoming a regular visitor on my nights away. Cuddling up in hotels is fun, but I do realise it isnt much like real life.

Not dating anyone else right now, and am as happy as larry with GW. He is kind, intelligent, funny and IMO very sexy too. And he says he is really happy when we are together.

Its very early days but have all my fingers crossed that after 2 years of internet dating I might have met a man I really like who feels the same about me