Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 31)

[Hatesponge]

hurray

ooh sponge sounds promising - I like the idea of meeting men on journey to and from work - I did have boatman but def went off him after a while.

My week is going from bad to worse and has been rather surreal - on tuesday we were going to have a fire drill at work but it was cx as a real rather serious fire broke out in building opposite - it took firefighters several hours to put out and whole parts of central london cordoned off. Thankfully noone hurt but weird to be working while burning building blazing nearby.

Then mobile phone got cut off and then reinstated after grovelling to phone provideer. I am soo seriously skint - boys keep looking in fridge for non existant snacks - someone told me about 17p tomato soup from Lidl and it is actaully delicious.

Then more seriously my df has lump on neck and has hospital appointmetn on Thurs next week for it. However it turned out they weren't planning to tell me anything about it - my df sort of told me in anger over the phone. This happened once beofre when my gf was seriously ill - my m decided to take it upon herself not to tell me. And at my gm funeral she thanked me for coming !! Im beginning to think I should be on the Stately Homes thread for toxic parents. This is not normal behaviour right?

Must go - Boris is coming to our place of work tonight - it's getting curiouser and curiouser!!!

maybe they didn't want to worry you because they may think that you already have a lot to cope with? sometimes with grief people do things that they feel helps them to cope but may seem strange to other people (((hugs)))

that may well be but I actually think there is more to it than that. Without getting too amateur psychologist about it my mum's sister moved away from our home area and I think she projects her negative feelings and resentment about that onto me (I moved away too).

When my dad came down recently(for a rare visit) he snarled at me about not living where they do. So I think it's a sort of punishment for not sticking around at home.

And my m has decided that she will not come down here any more because of my bed wtf

Sorry I really should start a separate thread.

scl please dont apologise, situation with your dm sounds awful. The only advice I can offer - and this is really just based on friends who have had issues with their families, is to try and 'detach' so far as possible, and not to let their actions have much if any impact on your life. Easier said than done of course particularly as you're prob understandably worried about your df.

I've been at ascot today. nice time until about 3 hours ago, following which it turned distinctly unpleasant. won't go into it all but the abridged version is that I was physically ejected from a pub (I'd actually say it bordered on assault) and when I tried to speak to a nearby policeman elicited the response of 'move along lovey or we'll nick you'.

Possibly needless to say, I won't be returning next year.

omg that was some ascot hate! you ok?
glad I found the toast story at last! lol at nutella and peanut butter. Sounds quite a night
scl it's all happening for your atm, isn't it? your parents sound a bit like mine were tbh. I don't think we ever established a relationship as equal adults. Hope df is OK.

ninah have calmed down about it all now and am ok, although still a bit cross. in hindsight am just glad none of my male friends were there because that would have inflamed the situation even more. The racecourse is lovely and it's a great day out BUT the town, post race, is not a nice place to be. The bouncers are just thugs, and the police seem happy to turn a blind eye if it gives them less work.

Oh well, have never been made to leave anywhere before, guess it had to happen sometime!

and at least my dress fitted, and everyone said I looked lovely, so that was all good :)

allegedly the brawlers the other day came from tne neighbouring postcode to me.

Thanks for support from you about my situation - its appreciated. ;0)

scl, yes turns out they are friends of friends of mine .....

I'm a towcester girl me, horses not hats, bookies not booze
I did ladies day for a corporate thingy once and never again, I've never seen such a long queue for the loos.

well just phoned home to wish df happy father's day and wish I hadn't. Got into convo with mum about how I haven't got much petrol in my car til payday (was meant to go to a kid's bday party this afternoon plus pick up boys and not sure if I have enough petrol).

She said she couldn't understand how I could not have enough money to put petrol in car!! (Ive done about 400 miles over past month mainly running around for cricket). I said well you've led a protected life (she has mainly been supported by my df).

I also told her most of my colleagues and friends are struggling and that they can't all be profligate (is that the right word?)

Then my db and his gf turned up and her attention was totally diverted to them (whilst still on phone to me). What a cow - she hasn't got a clue about RL - I really don't know why I bother. It seems to be coming to a head again.

oh dear sin (((un-mn hugs))))))

bloody hell she sounds like hard work! :( You could say it's a generation gap thing though tbh I've got (married) friends who have no idea about finances because their DHs keep them well off, and can't understand why, with my 'good' job, I don't have the same standard of living as them....

Nothing exciting to report on the man front. No-one worthy of me at Ascot :) and as have been off/going home at different times, no further sightings of train fittie.

Hence am a bit bored Tis always the way - few days of excitement and male attention, then all goes quiet.....

people are blinkered aren't they sponge? I would like to think I have empathy with people in other situations than my own but it doesn't seem to cut both ways.

was talking to a friend about this the other day and musing on how, despite the internet, multimedia, everyone being able to be much better informed nowadays (iyswim), I sometimes feel people have less empathy than ever....

in other, less philosophical news, I fear it may be all over between me and train fittie. Saw him today, and he stood next to me waiting for the train. All so far. However when we got to our station his phone rang, and I heard him speak for the first time.

Think Sarf London meets fake Jamaican

Not good.

Not good at all.

Elocution lessons? Perhaps he can be Eliza Doolittle to my Henry Higgins?!

oh dear me no you could always ask him to keep his mouth shut

life is looking up here
i have interview for a place on teaching assistant course and dd has been to rainbows so hopefully she can start making new friends in our village

aurora Im never happiest than when dcs are with friends or we have friends round.

And teaching assistant sounds good - I would love to work with children

aurora good luck for interview :) and hope DD enjoys rainbows!

scl you're a better person than me. Working with children would be my nightmare. Probably followed only by animals or the elderly . My new job is still in the pipeline but probably won't happen now til end of this year/start of next. In the meantime I'm just treading water which isn't good. On the +ive side I am grateful to have a job in the current climate, it isn't difficult, and my boss expects very little of me. But it is boring as hell. I actually used my brain today on a case for the first time in getting on for a year. Boo :(

Close - or possibly brief? - encounter with my train fittie today. Stood next to each other on platform, then he walked behind me most of the way home. But I can't quite look at him the same way now I've heard his voice....!

Hey, thought this thread had died a death.

Zilch on the manfront. Seeing FWB tomorrow night, just a mate that I've known for years. Damn, might need to dye my roots but won't bother with any other grooming as we are only friends. I've given up 'dating' 2 people who I have had dates with this past 6 months have announced on facebook that they are now 'in a relationship' !!!!

Going on hols next weekend so that better be good.

Aurora, good luck with the job.

Sponge, and SCL you are both looking and sounding good on facebook.

I was thinking of deleting my facebook profile. Probably won't but don't use it much nowadays.

Adams, good to hear from you! was wondering how things were with you :)

Re the thread, I think lots of us took a break, but a few of us are back. Not that there's much dating going on yet, but give it time

Where are you off to on hols? Am trying to book something cheap for me and the DSs for start of the school hols...Spain looking likely (I'd like Cyprus, but Spain is cheaper, and I am mean frugal).

hi adams
it's a course that could lead to a job most people left i think

nothing wrong with being frugal sponge

well I have now booked our hols. managed to get us a week in Spain (probably in some total fleapit, the reviews on trip advisor were not exactly positive) but it's cheap and the boys are v pleased, tho they haven't seen it yet....

in other news I may have been attempting to stalk a certain person at the pub on saturday sadly with no success, although another random bloke did come and speak to me and offered to buy me a drink!

and then on the way home tonight, train fittie spoke to me! he wasn't speaking in the fake jamaican accent and actually sounded quite normal. We were only talking about train delays etc but he was quite smiley with me (and vice versa) plus he had a really nice shirt on - normally in work clothes - and looked rather lovely. Thankfully my face was already quite pink due to the heat so he won't have noticed me blushing!

Hi everybody

Sponge - rofl @ Saturday, hope you got home ok

Update quickly everything great with Celtic, he was a gem on my work trip and stayed here for the rest of the week last week and it went really well.

It's soooooooooo hot here! So muggy.