The sofa Vs The bookshelf

[NOmeansNO]

the thread for those in a relation. or not really wanting one as they enjoy the single life too much.

dt-just commented on your bump on fb :) its looking good! I only put on about 1.5 stone with dd2 rather than the 3 stone with dd1 think I was more consious tho of having to loose the weight after plus I was bust running round after dd1! Glad you have managed to have some nice chats with dp. I didnt realise you found out about being pg on xmas day! That'll be a story to remember

As for browsing the shelf...well have been chatting to someone nice all day so we'll see no fishing weirdos yet, well apart from the usual 'hey sexy' messages yuk lol

flf-are you feeling any better, sod the housework when you are ill. Im the same as nmn, it gets ignored on normal days so even more when ill!

Nmn-have u been galavanting this weekend

Hi to everyone else, is quiet here so I assume you all have far more interesting things to do lol.....

dear god yes, cringe worthy they are.

I'm hoping to only put on 1.5 max really I think with DS I think I went up to about 13 stone (which at 5'2) isn't a good look, currently at 11.5 so either way will have 2 to loose, but it seems to be all bump this time not extra everywhere else, you're prob right thou running about after DS is helping, as is not eating tonnes of food (with only DS & I we tend to snack of a night as he has dinners in school & I have a big sandwich then). Well, that was a white lie, we found out 2 days before, DP was worried as he'd been sent a text to say 'I think we need to talk' (pure shock from my side) he rang and said well I know you're not about to dump me as I have your son, so you've either crashed my car or your PG which is it. :o he did get a little baby grow from the bump thou to open on xmas day (sad sad emotion lol) was just greatful that day I wasn't puking everywhere/feeling sick as we didn't want to tell anyone. :)

Hi DTM, lol @ dp

Waves at Betty

NMN have you got your nose in books?

Well, last night Celtic decided he wasn't coming over today as he was exhausted, it wasn't firm about today, but I threw a hissy fit! I nearly buggered the whole thing. I couldn't stop myself. My god I've got baggage I didn't realise, bloody got to sort it out though.

Anyway he's coming over tomorrow and we're going to watch the Celtic match together in the pub so...... was scary stuff, it made me realise too how much I really like him.

aww bless ya monty, what sort of baggage?

DTM - spoiled brat baggage, or not being a spoiled brat baggage maybe, I can't handle not being special omg sounds crap. I wasn't getting what I wanted and couldn't handle it . I really nearly fucked it all up. My god did i feel sick this morning.

Lou talked me through it all on fb bless her and things have worked out fine.

Thanks for asking :)

How are you? :)

Aww monty, i wouldnt imagine you would have got like that, but obv shows how much you like him :) glad lou was there with some wish words!

Betty, I couldn't believe it myself

It did show me how much I thought of him and I even apologised this morning cos Lou told me to

Anyway, he's coming over tomorrow and prepared to forego a Celtic match, but I've offered to watch it in the pub with him lol. :)

God, can't believe myself here...

lol im sure it'll be fine monty :) you can make it up to him tommorow

My god I really shouldnt venture over to the AIBU board, all the people do is moan about really trivial things..... only read a few threads moaning about million pound drop and cupcakes fgs, thought I had a boring life!

Betty, get on fb lol xx

Haha god fb is just as bad, although i find fb is more personal, well my moaning is anyway lol

morning all,

monty - oh dea, cant imagine you having a strop. from celtic neck of woods he would probably have told you to suck it up and get over yourself.

as long as you have apologised. just forget about it. dont bring it up again.but just make sure your very nice to him today. lol

davidtenant- i seen you bump. your looking good for being halfway and a bit more through you pg. good news about dp hopefully being home soon too.

betty - did you go on your date or did you cancel.

i am supposed to be on a date today. but a birthday party last night got a bit wild. i'm not going to be able to drive anywhere today as well and truly over the limit as we only stopped at 7am. oooops

i'm talking to this other guy from pof who isn't a patch on someone like depp in the looks department. but he's ok. his messages have me in stitches though. i think i need to go meet out of curiosty. he is into cycling too. would quite like a new bike buddy if nowt else.

at my party last night ex was being a real weirdo. he was blanking me, which was making things odd for our joint friends. then the more drunk he got he was standing/sitting right behind me and staring aparently. i could not see him, but my friends say it was creeping them right out him standing behind just staring.

at XP, NMN, what a weirdo!

Monty I can't imagine you being like that. Hope you've had a good day today...

Fingers crossed for DP being on the right boat, DTM

I am feeling better, still getting tired really easily, but my voice is back and the actual illness bit is gone- Hooray!

XP has been brilliant this weekend and took over everything that he could so that I could rest up. He took us to Livingston today, to get my DS sorted for the wedding we're going to next week. Ended up getting him a suit for £26 in Asda, which is perfect because he'll probably grown out of it before he needs to wear it again!

flf - glad you're on the mend.

monty - don't worry about it, glad you have calmed down a little & realised how much he means to you thou, how long have you been seeing him? ps' we all ahve moments i'm sure when we want to stamp our feet and shout but it's not fair god damn it I deserve to come first, but obviously we can't say it in those words lol.

nmn - honestly lucky escape there comes to mind, what a nobber. how are the pof blokes going?

well we went to a christening today queue DS to now think he's missing out on a trick & wants to get done as it were - best bit thou was him turning around to me after going up to the big well thingy (sorry i'm not technical) where they dunk the baby/childs head in, anyhow he went running up to it climbed over to see inside lent half way in & came running back to proudly state 'mummy, that's really REAL water in there' my response naturally was of course it is mate what did you expect?1 - his reply - well fake water like ice. :o classic. lol.

flf-glad you are feeling better :)

dtm-lol @ ds! fake water=ice love it!

nmn-you dirty stop out lol but eww to exh, does sound v weird as for date, didnt cancel but then I never heard from him since sun, so glad I didnt arrange a babysitter, and he's been back on pof so obv isnt that bothered....and niether am i lol

Have been chatting to someone nice all weekend, i'll call him BigScot cos he's big and scottish lol well born in scotland, has lived north west for a good few years now. No mention of meeting tho so we'll see!

NMN - he didn't exactly tell me to suck it up, but you're on the right tracks lol.

I waited for 3 hours for a reply to my 'sorry' text. That was hard, a lot of domestico drudgery was done in the time I can tell you, with many many pauses to check phone

He did forego a Celtic match to come over on Sunday and we had a great day so everything's ok now. And no, I don't think I'll be throwing any more hissy fits, and you're all right, it's not me at all, I just wanted to see him

That is weirdy behaviour from ex

FLf congrats on bargain suit! And you're ex sounds like a decent guy.

Betty

Dtm - at your ds and I must have a look for bump on fb. Hope you're feeling ok.

hey monty don't worry, we all act out of vulnerability at times but being mature and honest enough to spot it and sort it is the key
No one's perfect ...
hi to everyone else
to cheer you up betty my raod tax was over 200 this time, i nearly passed out, it's nearly the value of the car pmsl

Glad it's all sorted Monty!

Ooh at your big scotsman, Betty

Yes, ex is a lovely bloke, a really good friend, but a really shit boyfriend (should have listened to the warnings of several of his ex's and some of our friends too, but I liked to think I knew better!)

:o we all do flf.

monty - glad things are sorted for you/dp.

betty - plenty more fishies in the sea. and any more news with bigscot?

well today's probably going to be a day to get a chewing out in work - but I think this time i'll leave it for my boss to sort out as i'm getting a touch fed up with stating the case getting over ruled then getting questioned higher up the chain a few months later & having it bite me on my bum.

Thanks everybody :)

Ninah - yes, it was my own vulnerability. at road tax.

Flf - I think we've all been there. At least he's civil though unlike some.

DTM - I've known him for 4 years and have been dating him for two months. God I don't like the sound of that agg at work, typical though

Betty - what's the news? How's bday celeb plans?

As an aside, and not that it really matters, well maybe it does a bit, but Al has realised he has lost me (7 months down the line) and apparently is broken hearted and talks about nothing else (I can imagine him doing that) ffs! He knows I have been in the pub with Celtic, I dont' know how much he knows etc but............ God you couldn't make them up could you? The bit that bothers me is, and I'd be interested what others have to say, is, well what did he think was going to happen, I'd grow old on my own. I'm a bit flabbergasted by the things I've been hearing . Anyway, he has indeed lost me so.......

Hi all, yes still talking to bigscot, he asked me tonight if he is getting closer to me saying yes if he asks me out in a few days, which aparently he intends to do lol :) he's very sweet and conversation seem easy too, so I think that will be a yes. Only thing that i have reservations about it when we are likely to be able to meet, he has his son who is only 2, 3 weekends out of 4, and works 5am in the morning as a truck driver so might be a bit tricky but im sure we'll work something out!

monty-bday celeb is planned for weekend after next, blackpool with the girls, is very tacky but is usually good fun :) And as for Al!!! my god what do these men think, we will sit around pining for them for the rest of our lives!

dtm-hope you get work sorted, I didnt really understand what you were talking about but sounds tricky

Hi ninha- @ tax its bad isnt it, Im thinking of getting a lease hire car think it would be cheaper than actually paying for one on finance like I currently do!

flf-My ex is a bit like that really, he's not a bad bloke and dad but was a shit husband! He has got better as a dad too since we split, which i feel is down to the fact he has to do stuff with them when he sees them cos im not there as well.

Betty, I don't know about your ex, but mine is getting better as DD gets older, I don't think he knew what to do with her when she was younger. He also is not great with communication skills and isn't very intuitive , so now he can actually understand her, whereas when she was 1 or 2 he struggled to understand what she wanted.

Monty, I think a lot of blokes genuinely think that we will pine for them, I also think that it emphasises that he did not appreciate what an amazing woman he had... that's the male ego for you

DTM, I hope today wasn't too awful

I had a good day today, had one of the mums and her 3 boys over for a cup of tea and a play after nursery and she ended up offering to come back this evening to help me dye my hair, so I now have fairly subtle blue and purple streaks in it! (disclaimer: I think they're fairly subtle, I haven't seen them in daylight yet!) We had good fun and I feel like I've bonded with her a wee bit more -I can be a bit antisocial at the school gates, I like to be able to choose who knows my business and some of them are a wee bit gossipy!

monty @ al! it's taken him a long time to realise this has it not! has he said anything directly to you or attempted to contact you?

dtm - hope your keeping bump well.

flf - get a picy of hair on fb.

betty - bigscot - oooh so where you gonna go on your date?

ninah

how are we all. I have a paper due. which i am gonna crack on with tonight and get it out the way and i'll be back to update proper. but i need a quick opinion

gotta a date this wkd with.. em.. panelbeater shall be his name. but.... he has just had a rant post on his fb. which was just a little dig he made at someone. and the person came on and started a mahgoosive bitchfest online. For all to see

dunno the back story. but.. do we think thats a bit odd? have any of you ladies argued on fb for all to see?

my apologies if i forgot anyone

nmn-I have a couple of times but have never done a status directly about someone, Ive just made commented on other peoples status's when I've felt they have said something about someone else I didnt like but it wasnt just me!

As for the date with bigscot, no idea yet he hasnt directly asked me yet so I'm waiting for that first , he has got his little boy the next 3 weekends and I'm away for the next 2 as well so might have to be in the week somehow.

Flf-yeah my ex is like that too, he didnt cope well with tantrums etc when the dd's were toddlers and used to blame me for dd1's behaviour when dd2 arrived and she was only 20 months! [:(] he didnt have a dad whilst he was growing up, and his mum wasnt the best role model either so I know he does struggle with it all. He never used to do anything with them on his own either until we split, and thats one of the things I have made sure. He has asked me to go out with them a few times, but has stopped asking now as I think he's got the message that I wont do it lol He's still not so great at keeping in contact with dd's when he is away (forces) but it's getting better.

dtm-hows things today?

nah i don't argue on fb and it would put me off a bit but while i'm not a silver surfer you could call me a bronze one and i'm still a bit 'ooh what about privacy in this thing they call social networking' lol
no harm in meeting him, you're usually pretty astute once you eyeball them nmn

hey all, well i've washed my hands of it in work & am doing my own merry thing. :o have given my boss a book i've been working on for the last week to view (hand over notes for the new lady) but think he'll say i've wasted my time as she won't have time to read it - that's not the idea, the idea is it's a reference book for her to dip in/out of! bub's is growing well according to the m/w. am wanting to stamp my foot a little & have DP home for a few hours but ah well that's not gonna happen any time soon. :o (althou it dawned on me last night if he's home early we still get to go to bon jovi - YAY!!!) hope & pray hope & pray lol.

NMN - if he was replying as well I think i'd get a bit put off, I tend to try not to have fights on FB - a friend of mine does with his GF all the time, the GF is a right sarcastic cow as well it's better then jezza sometimes, but likewise not nice reading.

betty - XH is the same, he's not seeing DS for the whole of may, he dropped him back 3 weeks ago was it? he's spoken to him once. what's even more so thou is DP is further way with a lack of comms and has manged to ring him twice send a post card & also had a live MSN video call! you should say yes as well.

flf - agree you should post a pic of your new 'air do.

monty - he's ONLY just realised. honeslty?!

hi ninah.