Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 30)

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Yay! I did it again!

norty flame

carrot roadtrip today.

Yeah. So over him.

:( am feeling abit crap. i am absolutley skint and its the easter hols.
I feel like ive let DD down, and yes, ive got a bit of time off work, but we wont be able to do anything exciting with it.
Ive got £20 for fun activites for this week...
Today my sister has DD and shes taking her to the cinema and to the park near her.
tomorrow we are at home doing gardening stuff and having a little bbq :)
Monday we are off to aldeburgh and thorpness.. my dad is driving and hopefully he will buy the ice creams. so ill maybe spend £10.
Tuesday we are going to sort out DDs wardrobes and drawers... fun, fun, fun! and have a tea party for her 'pets'. she is actually excited about this.
Wed and thur shes at the childminder.
Friday , sat, sun, dont know. Ive paid for cineworld tickets with some tescos vouchers.. so we should be able to go once. and ive got a year pass to a local farm thing.
and we can go to the beach and eat ice creams, fly the kite, walk the dog.

But i just feel a bit crap that its her first end of term, and i am actually off and im going to have to make £20 last for one week and quite possibly £10 last for the second week.

gggrrrrr. Its my own fault really. We are going camping at the end of may, so ive just brought a lot of camping stuff in the sale... so, saving money. and then she had no clothes.. so ive spent about £100 this month on clothes.
and then ive done a ton in the garden.
so i cant have everything. there is food in the cupboards, petrol in the car, bills paid. but i just feel a bit of a failure.
:(

I know it wont matter one bit to her. she will be happy. but i just feel crap.

shame about kindle, flame. Although now I can avoid buying one with a clear conscience!
OK, tookool. Children don;t need money to spend on them to have fun. You know that really, right? walk on the beach, crabbing at aldeburgh, just down time from school and one to one with you - honestly that is far more precious. I see lots of quite privileged children at work, ferried from activity to expensive activity, and it doesn't make them any happier. If not the reverse.
It sounds like you are doing loads, anyway. All we do in the hols is go for walks, have picnics, meet friends. Nothing that costs money. I think I've taken them to the cinema once in their lives! The pets tea party sounds lovely! you sound like a fab mum and you should believe in yourself, I bet your dd has the best easter

thats ninah. i know that. i just feel bad.
Shes very excited about the pets tea party. we are going to write them all invatations. and then decorate the dining room/outside with balloons and banners.
and then she is going to make the tea party and we shall bake cakes for it.
and she can set up the table and we can all eat it and then play games. we might even take pics.

I just feel bad as its my own fault that ive got a grand total of £24 in my purse until next week. and actually i wold have more. but i lost my work keys so had to get more cut and it cost me £30!!!!!!

if it hadnt been for that i would have had £50 for this week and then not felt so bad at all.

tookool, I second ninah's comments! I know it's horrible knowing you only have a v limited amount of money but honestly you don't need to do loads of expensive things all the time, am sure your dd will be more than happy with all the stuff you've got planned (and I agree, the pets tea party sounds fab, sort of thing DS2 would have absolutely loved at that age!)

All this stuff about taking DC out and doing stuff with them is a recent thing - my mum as a child of the 1940s/50s never went anywhere with her family, and spent all the hols playing in the street with her friends. Even when I was a kid in the 70s/80s at best we had a holiday with parents once a year, 2-3 day trips out over the whole year and that was it. Now I have friends who are CONSTANTLY updating their FB with where they're taking their children - softplay, childrens farms, other days out, minimum of once a week and thats during term time! That creates a situation where we all feel under pressure to spend money and do expensive stuff - no-one ever seems to take their DC just to the park, or for a bike ride, or to the beach any more - which IME most children are more than happy with.

So honestly don't worry about it, and just enjoy spending time with her :)

wot they said. you have way more planned than me....

Took-I agree with others dont feel bad, I think the things you have planned sound fab (and really put me to shame).....toddles off to think of things to do with dd's in easter hols.

My 2 havent broken up for easter yet, got another week yet

As for men, I've been chatting to someone from pof, I will call him zookeeper lol and he's asked me for a drink. I've said maybe next weekend if I can get a sitter, but am still a bit meh about it all. He seems nice and interesting but is very tall 6ft3 and I'm only 5ft4/5 lol exbf was 6ft1 I think so might not be too bad will just have to make sure I wear heels He also lives a good 45mins-1 hour away which is a bit further than I normally go to.

Thanks. I said the same to my mum, when I.was.little.it was just odd days.out or playing in the garden, occwssionally having friends over.
I know she will be quite happy. We are.going to.mums for her fav tea Wednesday as well. I'm having.my hair done wed which is costing 50... which I've budgeted for but feel bad.
Plus I'm hosting Easter bbq and egg hunt. And then we are having a princess.party with the wedding.... and she's got 3 childrens partys to go to.
Actually, that's quite alot isn't it?

We usually.just do cheap things anyway and we have a couple of year pass things for several things that we make the most.of..one of which i was given for free too :)
And went my cineworld tickets come we can do that for free :)
And I might let her stay up late one night, under the duvet, with biscuits and hot.chocolate. yeah, she would love that.

Thanks, don't feel as bad now :)

took, i am sure she will have a lovely time with you i can understand how you feel though but really all she will remember when she is grown up will be the lovely times that she had with her mum not how much was spent on her

Cannot believe this gorgeous weather, been laying out in the garden all day half naked. Just came in to watch the race.

I've been walking round the forest with Carrot. I just want to thump the man til he loves me. It is so easy.

Meh. date cancelled.

that's it took I am coming to yours for Easter! lol
actually I am child free for a week and I have planned nowt for me, let alone dc. Was thinking of going away but I don't feel I can justify the cost at present. Really looking forward to it! the holidays are a bit random this year, break up midweek, they go to dad's then have them back for a few days, then school for two days, then a long weekend. Might rise to an Easter egg hunt in the garden but that's it!
(wonders why betty chose the name zookeeper)
did the access thing today and made ex pick up dd from a party so that she is not taunted (as ds has been) for 'not having a telly and not having a dad'. He burnt his nose skiing so looked a bit sinister. Maybe 'no dad' was better than scary, elephant man dad. Ah well.

adamschic - weather has been lovely here too. didn't watch race though.

flame - for carrot it's foam so you don't brain him as well

ninah - theydo sound a bit random! dd's dad hasn't even bothered again [sigh] his work rota is obviously more important than dd seeing her dad regularly as he asked for in his court order. i must remember to apologise for thinking that dd shoudl come first for once

betty- i agree with ninah -why did you choose the name zookeeper? it hink it may have been a bit before my time on the fia thread

Think braining him may be needed. Gonna try and have space for the week. He prob isn't doing tomorrow night. Am back to aching with it all which leads to random sex which I am meant to be stopping doing.

Strawb woke and I couldn't sleep.

lol @ boatman being annoying - what's he doing?

your mothers day sounds great both took and mily

Carrot apologised. He was actually coming. Even worked out karaoke song. Said he was just going to turn up with his mate rather than saying he was on his way as he wanted the surprise element, but they stopped for kfc on the way which tipped the mate over the edge. We're doing a day trip next Saturday.

Been asked for a drink by guy on pof (can still contact me through old message). Seems nice enough but I've already cancelled him once months back because his pic just does nothing for me. not hideous, just meh. Feel like I should with embracing moving on, but also can't be arsed.

Strawb woke and I couldn't sleep.

lol @ boatman being annoying - what's he doing?

your mothers day sounds great both took and mily

Carrot apologised. He was actually coming. Even worked out karaoke song. Said he was just going to turn up with his mate rather than saying he was on his way as he wanted the surprise element, but they stopped for kfc on the way which tipped the mate over the edge. We're doing a day trip next Saturday.

Been asked for a drink by guy on pof (can still contact me through old message). Seems nice enough but I've already cancelled him once months back because his pic just does nothing for me. not hideous, just meh. Feel like I should with embracing moving on, but also can't be arsed.

random old post!

I want arms to snuggle into. I miss arms so much.

Morning all,

For those who asked zookeeper got his name cos he works in a zoo, but isnt actually a zookeeper lol. But I thought it was funny.

Am feeling a bit bad today tho, he text yesterday and asked if he could ring and I really wasnt in the mood so I ignored his text and went to bed prob wont talk to me now oops!

Your phone could have been dead or anything. It'll be fine.

Shame Sunset stopped sending messages. All of his Fb posts show he is a total geek and I love it!

betty - that makes sense lol

hello all.

hope your weekends have been better than mine....so bad I even started a thread about it.

:(

oh no sponge - read your thread and also fb postings - that's total shit!!

Agree worth mentioning to the police.

Sponge - I'd get the police involved, even your local PCSO office, they are great at neighbourhood stuff.

I spent Friday afternoon with Celtic and then he came to mine yesterday by train and we spent the afternoon in the garden. It was lovely. DD was working and ds out all day. :)
Things are going great.