Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 30)

[lilacisinlove]

Yay! I did it again!

haha think u still have that crown somewhere.....or maybe flame has got it??

Nmn, look forward to hearing how you get on in the competition, you always did have lots of energy. Wonder if you end up going out with the same ones, that would make it doubly interesting.

Lilac, I did read your other thread earlier, all I can say is that I would try and keep out of it if possible,it's difficult because you want everything to run smoothly but it is between them. I know how frustrating it can be. My ex moved 180 miles away from his DD to be with me and travelled back every other weekend, it was heartbreaking and a massive strain on everyone. I know he felt guilty and worried about losing her. Sometimes I wanted her to live with us but knew that would never happen. We split up over various reasons but that was part of it. I knew it was better for him to live back there but I put my DD first and wouldn't uproot her. Hope he can work out a solution.

Monty, very pleased for you. I haven't seen EV since he got back and am not planning to.

betty - you certainly did. not sure if it counts that I have it again. my current contacts are all previous entries.

one wont meet me unless in public
one is in afghan
one ... .. we get into far too much trouble when on the lash, we agreed we would do though once I move. not sure if i'm brave enough

I am being good and not having any relations with any of them.

I need some new ones

is one of them irish by any chance lol?

em.. yes, haha. we agreed to go for a drink when I've moved last week i think it was. I knocked him back a few month ago as was seeing exp. i noticed about a month ago he changed his status to "no longer single".. but not "in relationship" iykwim. So i am guessing he is seeing someone on a regular basis.

he's trying to behave, gave up smoking, and not drinking some wkd . But I know it will take very little to pull him off the wagon and he will really struggle to get back on. which isn't fair of me. It would be fun though

Lack of relations is just dull

Not sure if I had the crown. I was more sluttish than dating lots

Obv my sluttiness is a thing of the past. Unless Mattarse calls. Oh, or Download seeing as he is back chatting and is remarkably good at what he does despite there being v little physical attraction...

I go on lots of dates. rarely go further than a platonic date tbh.

haha thought it must have been him given the description lol....i think you do need to find some new ones but only so we can hear all about them lol

I was making up for lost time tbh. XH was my one and only, so I have been embracing the single youth I never had.

Prob not over it, but am slowing down on the embracing.

betty - defo need some new ones. They are great fun. i have suggested to beachbum we do go karting instead of coffee he suggested which has been approved

yy my thoughts are the same as scl's & nmn's tbh
don't know your and your new boyfriend's circs
is he separated or divorced from his exgf/w?
or you from your exb/h?
but you need to stand back from this
and tbh tho i'm not in your situ,there's no way i'd let my toddler go all that way to spend a few days with someone i didn't know,end of.

11 men since August. (Been doing maths).

Not slept with all of them obviously - they are a date or more. (ONS and Mattarse included as I have spent an extended period talking to them regardless of clothing).

Considering it was just Carrot until late Nov (oh and Desperately Dull), I have obv seen more than I realised!!!

omfg beach bum is back!!!!!
@ NMN!!!

That averages out about one a fortnight How?!!? It doesn't seem that many!

asbm - , me too, send dc of that age on a plane, with someone else, no matter if dad is difficult. and I speak from experience. as do you iirc,

I couldn't send them with their dad if i didn't think he had enough hands on experience to deal with the situation.

out of curiosity.

lilac - does you dp expect his ex to provide a selection of clothes and all requirements for the visits? Or does dp have his own supplies.

My ex has his own supplies. always has. clothes, toys, bibs, milk, bottles when they were still on infanct milk and formula.

I pack clothes for mine, but the rest is down to him, and currently bedding as his flat is so bloody small. He moves in May though, so I fully expect him to get them their own bedding. Clothes doesn't really bother me tbh - DD1 needs as much consistency as possible, so it actually keeps her more settled not having 2 sets of things. When he has her duvet sorted I actually have a spare of the cover that she has on most of the time, so he can have that and it won't be a new thing.

The joys of broken marriage and aspergers.

asbm - he has those eyes remember!AND... he now has his nerdy first job, and is now a fully qualified body combat instructor taking classes several times a week. he's such a weird combination that its fun!

flame - dealing with aspergers I wouldn't hold that against your ex . But i bet he has toys, and if she is younger he will have his own set of kiddie cutlery for example. toothbrush etc.

6th November I fell for Carrot properly. (sorry that isn't relevant to anything - the number of men research etc made me wonder so I hunted out the right name etc )

Lol @ holding AS against him. I would if it weren't so clearly my side of the family as well as his :o He is far more aspie than he realises, but DD1 is a miniature version of my DSis ( and me). But yes, he has toys etc for them all. It took him a little while to gather it, but he's gradually got the gist. He spent his life being looked after by someone, and it has taken him a while to find his feet. He may not parent the way I choose, but he does what he feels is right with the odd little nudge from us (my mum left a basket on his doorstep one day with scrap paper, colouring pencils etc ).

DD1 is getting much harder and more obviously "different" as she gets older. He used to think I was just reading too much into it, but he seems to have finally realised that there is "something" about her. Plus at the weekend he gave her space to collect herself and zone out rather than pushing her when she was mid-meltdown, which he never normally does.

(Went waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay off track there :o)

lol at beach bum and irish reapearing, they feel like old friends
just a quick hello
lilac what a muddle, tend to agree with the others tho. Sending you good vibes.
not to you monty, you already have plenty. Really happy for you!
is there a booby prize equivalent of the dating crown? cos I'm THE contender. No dates for a year! did see holiday man last weekend but purely in a platonic context, ever since I found out about the perspex boxes in his hallway (one for hats, one for gloves etc) the spark has gone.
feeling great just no inclination to date.

eyes,oh yy we like eyes

Waves at everybody before laptop dies.

And yes, my memory isn't so bad Betty you were high up in the league when the crown was being dished out weekly.

Xh was a real twat when it came to stuff for the ds's when they were littlies. Never saw stuff I sent them with, ever again, etc. It was a nightmare when I look back. It's not easy.

Ninah and Eve, lovely to see you :)

Mornin.

Waiting for my kindle. I am bored and impatient.