Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 30)

[lilacisinlove]

Yay! I did it again!

Lovely evening with PM - he kept 'accidentally' touching my tits. OKC not going well for him he chats to one girl on IM, but doesn't fancy her. There was beer, champagne and red wine, so my head is a state this morning. DS1 invited him to stay over when doctor who premieres. DS1 is now absolutely favourite child. Couldn't be arsed with TM today, as all glowy happy at lovely evening with stupid-face.

Aww, btdt Blardy men. I like the sound of Dr Who sleepover. I may suggest such a thing myself.

9.16am YEOVIL van man?!?!?!!? YEOVIL?!!?

snape - do you not want to just bang his head repeatedly aganist a wall until he sees sense... how can he 'accidentally ' touch your tits?

flame - eh? yeovil?

Lilac - hope you dont feel awful this morning. I just kind of want to add that my parents got divorced when i was 18 and it was the most awful divorce going. they both behaved terribly. TBH they still do towards each other. But they both had their own stories that how it wasnt them, it was the others fault.. and how they had only tried their hardest... and the other one blocked it, or ruined it, or caused the trouble. The truth was they were both fucking selfish, too concerned with themselves rather than their own children. Though of course that was all they would say they cared about.. though their actions screamed other wise.

If you listened to my mother you would think my father was the devil. and if you listen to my father you would feel such pity for him.. for a man who was trying but whos evil ex wife ruined it all for him. The truth was somewhere in between... but that is irrelevant. neither of them put any of their children first.... and i think this is a sadly very very common occurance.

Knowing the impact that has had and still continues to have on my life at the age of 32 ( how the hell can i be 32!) i have tried very very hard to make sure it didnt happen with DD.

Carrot never accidentally touches tits, will give him that. He does however draw on me, and we end up with slapping fights like 12 yr olds....

Kindle being delivered - the tracking thing says yeovil.

My parents had a fairly settled divorce, but because there was an affair it was never going to be good for us as we would always feel betrayed. I am glad that there is no obvious OW in our set up. The kids have obv picked up on that mummy used to be friends with whore and now isn't, but not in too severe a way. Thankfully splitting has made the good bits of our friendship come out the majority of the time, and the bad bits not matter as we're not together, so they see us happy, laughing, still spending time together etc. That is probably confusing too though - why are mummy and daddy not together if they like each other...

poor bloody kids. I swore I would never have this happen to me. :(

flame - im sure they will be fine.
my DD is fine. though maybe its a bit different. her dad was never around much anyway... being forces. If we would have stayed married then we wouldnt be near family, bemoving all the time, constant change of friends, school. house. area....

now we have a home. yes its rented, but hopefully we wont have to move for a while... and she sees family regulary. it will be same school. same friends. same area. its very much more settled for her.

And her dad is still away.. but then he was always going to be anyway. he was rarely going to be part of day to day life....

We get on now, like you say we dont have to deal with the bad bits anymore. and i know it upsets her ( and has in the past) if its been clear we 'arent friends'
so we make an effort.. and shes happy.I think thats the key thing really.. thats whats important to them.

why on earth my parents couldnt and wouldnt do that is beyhond me.. they still cant even pass each other in the street without shooting evil looks..

took, he waves his arms around a lot when he talks. There were three seperate occasions. texted him this morning that I 'was still laughing' at him 'constantly bumping into my tits'. He replied that he's basically Frank Spencer. :) of course i want to bang his head against the wall, but i'm too busy banging my own head against the wall to do so.

Lilac, I don't really have anything to add to everyone elses comments above. of course you're inclined to be sympathetic to TLOMLs version of events, thats only natural. The entire situation must be very draining for you - hope you're feeling a bit better about things.

Flame, kindle yet? :) btdt?

No. I am at the stage of just going out as I am going stir crazy. I hate being at home. Actually, I hate being at home when I am low. Damn. How did I get low without noticing?

Btdt - been there, done that

Selfish part of me likes reading your PM stuff as I feel less crazy and alone

would be interested to hear opinions on kindle
I have friends who are quite anti, and pro books, but I can see that in a few months/years that will be like someone who insists on playing vinyl.
monty you are not wrong. Ye Olde Fit and Interesting Crowne was worn chiefly by betty and nmn (even now I want to say rj. See, reactionary!)

did the kindle come?

I refuse to get one. I like books. i like the smell. i like to see them sitting on my shelf. getting more and more tatty. My all time favourite is the social aspect of swapping books with friends and family too. mines are always gone all weird from getting wet while i read them in the bath. i could not read a kindle in bath incase it got wet. and i like books on holiday as i can leave them in hotels and not have so much to bring home.i replace the weight of books with booze

ninah - yes.. the old friends pop up

ex got a call in house, which was very clearly another chick and went outside to take call. i asked in moking tone something of lines of "ooh who was that you were very friendly with" and he lied and pretended it was some bloke from work. you dont answer some bloke at work with a super flirty tone of voice and saying "hello darling, how are you, how was your day" The FUCKING lie are driving me nuts(see even making me swear). so I fell off the deep end and told him to be more respectful, after sat we wont be living together. he can wait till then to receive booty calls instead of being so blatent. I actually wasn't giving a fuck. but the lying just makes me see red. so i had a go . And if he tried to take one more than that i had from my old house and claim it as him i am going to attack him with his prized guitar around the earlobes.

DR who sounds fun :)

nmn he's probably hoping you'll be jealous
and the other reason for books is - what would your house look like without them?

oh god. I'm going on holiday with PM. apparently.

His (other) best friend and her girlfriend are going away for two weeks for her birthday. Theres apparently a crowd of folk going. I've been invited. I think I can tolerate a week tops.

I said i'd teach him to swim.

This is an awful idea, isn't it.... I'll need to talk to train man or i'll be trapped in the sun like a wistful, frustrated, bitter old witch, rubbing suntan oil into SFPM (now acronym for stupid-face-platonic-man)

NmN - he wants a reaction though and doesn't know you're cross about the lie, he'll think you're cross about him smooching up to a different woman on the phone. I was the same with ex - couldn't care less what he gets up to in his personal life - I try to stay well out of it and only mention iof asked, but lying really rubs me up the wrong way. Don't let the fucker know he's upset you - it's interpreted by an egoist as 'she loves me!'

lmao @ SFPM

Kindle is here. It will never replace books for me - again, I love the smell, the swapping, the reading in the bath.... But it fits easily in bags, I can read it in bed with the light off so I don't disturb kids or have to walk to turn it off, I can go away and not have to pack and extra suitcase with books, plus I have a mate with a lot of books I can put on it. It is as well as books rather than instead of.

Geiger is starting to win me over. He doesn't say much, but I dunno, quiet persistence is in his favour. Sent me a half dressed picture which made me snigger as I really wasn't expecting it (he had been sending tat photos so I expected one of those) - he's got a better body than I expected. Music, tv etc seems much more my normal tastes than the ones I have had lately.

he's doing a "woe betide me" act as he has to lug his stuff in several trips in his car to his friends house, where its up 3 flights of stairs and in the attic.

my response

"enjoy you hike" while smiling sweetly.

arse

i should pack more. house is an absolute tip. but it will be easier tomorrow as all i will need to leave out is a change of clothes. and the rest that lying about is at the stage of finding itself launched in a massive box.

its hard though with all his shit hanging about it looks like i have barely even started.

snape - so.. your going on holiday with him, as a platonic friend?

yes, well. stuff happens on holiday....and there may be single men for me to use flirt with.

systematic approach flame. room by room. I agree about kindle. I love my books. i was quite a lonely child and to be honest, my childhood wasn't great, but i had books, so i had parallel universes. I have four giant bookcases and would marry a repugnant dwarf-like man if he could promise me my own library. :) kindle books are overpriced and i can't sometimes get the stuff I want - and it's no substitute - I can't share books i love and the books that I can get aren't necessarily books I want to read - It's quite generic, but it's convienient for travellng - i do quite a lot and can't lug four books for a week. But it doesn't smell and i can't riffle the pages, or leave it on a park bench with a note scrawled on the frontispiece. I spose trad books and Kindle both have their merits. thats good. :)

I was doing quite well a few weeks back when I was doing 15 mins per room so I wasn't overwhelmed. I should do that tomorrow afternoon. Meant to be going for lunch with a friend, but will be grown up and sensible.

Men to use flirt with is always good.

My friend has acquired many thousand kindle books, and seeing as I will read anything, it is a good thing.

exh used to do all that crap about trying to get a reaction from me, he hated the fact it never worked.

he said stuff like how he had a 3 some, went to an orgy, shagged a friend of mine, none of it gave him what he was looking for from me, it just made him look even more pathetic, and reinforced that i had done the right thing

Giger has asked me out again. i dunno. Part of me thinks, yeah, why not? The other part thinks why bother if my heart isn't in it.

what do I doooooooooooooo?

Going for a drink on Sat but i've left myself an out if needs be.

i know i shouldn't have bit the bait.

flame - go on the date. dont make excuses! its only a drink!

(forgot to lmao @ holiday man's boxes)

Will most likely go on the date, don't worry.

A bit restless. I want a bloody good kiss.

kindle sucks. not enough contrast for my eyes to cope with if i am tired.

Going to return it.

Giger didn't have a zombie plan but seemed to think having one was sensible and has now created one. This goes in his favour. The ones who don't see the point in them are the problematic dates.

?zombie plan??

grr i have now beentold to book a solictiors appointment as x is so that we can all sit round the table and 'sort things out' (basically because he can't control me so tried to control what our dd does) fkintw*t he refused meditaion 3 years ago because he would ahev to pay. he reported me to socail for god knws what, so i tod him to pass on my number get them to call me strangely enough never heard from them or more from him about them

off to catch up more
still can't find this thread through searching

Grrr aurora.

zombie plan... plan for what to do when zombies happen.

Told him i am a born again Christian and don't believe in sex outside of marriage. twas amusing. you could almost hear the panic in his really!?!??! text