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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 29)

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lilacisinlove · 29/01/2011 20:54

Too good an opportunity to miss!

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beingsetup · 02/02/2011 20:17

{hug} to everyone hope the weather gets better and the eye candy too!

I've met some really nice men online Im just deciding whether to go on dates or not again.

Praying they are taller than me this time I know that sounds shallow but Im a tall woman and it matters!

lou33 · 02/02/2011 21:54

Totally ot but i have to take ds1 for an x ray of his shoulder tomorrow as the gp now thinks it may not have gone back in place properly.

Also , to add to my list of broken appliances please add the vacuum cleaner

Grrrrr

Wysiwig · 02/02/2011 21:59

Hi being!

Glad you have a thing about being taller than a fella, I have the same problem..thought I was being shallow too, but I don't think it's something I can compromise. I know it will end up being an issue....unless of course it's rod stewart or bernie ecclestone;)

beingsetup · 02/02/2011 22:06

Hi wysiwig I have tried and met some really nice men but it just doesn't seem to happen Sad

How tall are you then?

and rod stewart Grin

Flame · 02/02/2011 22:50

cool. must turn phone off more often... switched it on to three texts from Matt ;)

Flame · 03/02/2011 00:08

will catch up in morning btw. had to go do a card reading for a mate whilst my brain felt right for it

tookoolforskool · 03/02/2011 07:45

morning.

i think mr brautiful is maybe married or has bad internet problems. he kept suddenly going offline and then returning 30 mins later. Which is a shame...a huge shame.

spoke to mr big for an hour or so, but he was incrediably distracted and tbh, i have no idea why he called me if he was going to be so distracted.

ive been chatting to someone on okcupid for the last few days. he is nameless atm as i know nothing about him at all really. but he asked for my number and said we should go out.
lou, applicance wise.. that is not good.

aurorastargazer · 03/02/2011 10:05

feckless fecker now owes £568 odd in maintenance arrears

Hatesponge · 03/02/2011 11:15

:( aurora. Has he explained why he's not paying? Is there anything that can be done thru CSA etc?

I haven't had a penny from my Ex, and as he's apparently still not working, not much chance of seeing anything from him for the foreseeable I expect! Hmm

aurorastargazer · 03/02/2011 12:01

no he won't. he has said in past that someone who he thought i was seeing (my neighbour gave me a lift to meeting point cos it was teeming down with rain) should pay. now he thinks, no doubt, that vimes should pay cos vimes has 'nice' car. he has also said that your bf has car, get him to take her (meaning dd) to it' (a party that he had previously agreed, in front of dd, to take dd to).
sorry for rant, nothign's going right this morning lol

sponge, is he signing on at all? i know it's not much but csa should be able to get the £5 a week from him. then when he does work surely they could do something from there?

elastamum · 03/02/2011 13:02

God, I hate it when exes think they dont have to support their kids!

Mine had always been pretty good before he remarried. Now in the past few months he has tried to stop paying half the school fees bill and is reducing his child support on the grounds his new wife has 3 kids. And they earn more than twice what I do Angry

Zanywany · 03/02/2011 13:25

I am lucky in that I get maintenance from my XH even if it is the minimum but he won't contribute to things like school trips and my DS's trip this year costs £270. He thinks I am living in a life of luxury but in reality I take packed lunch to work, shop in Primark and am grateful for hand me down's whereas he has a brand new car, new plasma TV, designer clothes etc etc. He is still very bitter though!

aurorastargazer · 03/02/2011 16:13

i am shocked but not surprised (sp?) to be honest Sad

Flame · 03/02/2011 17:36

Fabulous.

If I don't eat or put petrol in the car. Don't pay nursery the 2 months arrears. Don't pay my dad what I owe him.... I am still £208 short of covering all the essential bills to come out. When the savings account is finally sorted I will be getting back £230 but that still leaves the minor point of food, petrol and nursery. Oh, no electric either

How the hell do I raise some cash fast?! I haven't got anything much I could ebay. Going to have a look now at my tv package and see what I can reduce that to. Mobile bill is dropping as I have finally cancelled xh's old phone but again, that isn't til next month it will take effect.

It is DS's birthday in a couple of weeks too.

persephonesnape · 03/02/2011 20:06

barely seen a penny in the last seven years. no holidays, no extra curricular activities, but the bills are paid and food is on the table. and i just bought a lovely bottle of gin (but then i've prioritised that over me getting my hair cut once a year and cutting the DS's hair myself...)

flame - prob not helping when you have nowt - we do the sainsburys five family meals for £20, supplemented by a lot of lentils and oven chips...even if there isn't a sainsbos nearby, the menu plan is quite good.

also, as a single parent you can get child benefit paid weekly - that's normally my weekly shopping bill, at least i know we can eat, even if we generally walk everywhere

persephonesnape · 03/02/2011 20:20

flame, sell dvds,CDs, books, any computer games that kind of thing - there may well be a cash converters or similar nearby. umm... talk to other nursery/school mums, take on some cleaning or ironing.

i know this is shit - I clearly don't know your individual circumstances, other than what is posted here, so all/some of this may not be helpful at all. :(

BeauticianNotMagician · 03/02/2011 20:38

I used to get csa from ex but now that he is out of work the ds's dont get a penny from him.It has made a big difference and i have had to cut back on some bits.Mine though not theirs.

Flame i don't really know what to suggest.I'm in a similar position myself and am just applying for jobs constantly i apply for between 5-15 daily.

Hatesponge · 03/02/2011 21:01

Flame :( I can only second snape's suggestion of cleaning/ironing (shame you're so far away otherwise I would offer you some work, my ironing skills leave much to be desired!); you have probably thought of all this already, but could friends offer you any paid babysitting? Are you any good at art and stuff (was thinking murals for children's bedrooms, that kind of thing, obv only good if you have an artistic streak). Could exH help you out if need be and you're really stuck? (totally understand you may not wish to ask him tho).

Beaut, good luck with the job-hunting, it's hard work but I hope something turns up for you soon. How is DG now with his bad wrist?

BeauticianNotMagician · 03/02/2011 21:04

Sponge He is fine thank you he has just got on with it this week.We almost had another arguement yesterday though.But before it started we both stopped it and agreed it's the frustration of not being together.

Had to cancel this weekend in london now due to the edl march.

Hatesponge · 03/02/2011 21:14

Oh Beaut, I'm sure it is just the frustration of not being together. That is so hard when you're used to seeing each other every day or so. Just both keep telling yourselves it won't be forever. That's such a shame about cancelling your weekend as well - i'm guessing theres no chance they will call the march off? :(

BeauticianNotMagician · 03/02/2011 21:22

No i don't think they will call it off.Im dreading it as i live right by the town centre.Last time there was loads of trouble.Lots of businesses in the area aren't opening on saturday.Trains aren't running and the roads are closed.

Remotew · 03/02/2011 22:27

What does edl stand for as in the march?

I met supermarket man tonight in the supermarket, found out a bit more about him. He has my phone no. and left the ball in his court to get in touch.

I get a token maintenance from DD's bio dad. It goes in her account and we agree to draw out when I cannot afford things for her. Only got 16 months till it ends now so we got by with a tiny amount all these years so I'm quite proud of this but must be terrible in different circs if the dad's won't pay their way.

The weather here is wild tonight, driving rain and wind! Fingers crossed for no damage.

SmileyMily · 04/02/2011 09:54

English Defence League

hi all, sorry have been rather quiet this week, have lurked a few times but not had opportunity to to post properly and the thread has moved so fast!

Sponge, big yay on the weight loss Grin

Aurora, love the pic of Vimes

Lou Sad re home appliances

BNM, tough one being apart from DP, really hard. TLM is away in the week at the moment, since 4th Jan until end Feb and I really, really miss him

Elasta, Sad re car. Have the DCs gone on the ski trip yet? At least the opportunity for a bit of time to yourself? Hope things are going well with the various possible dates etc

MZ, I must have missed something in the last thread as I didn't realise you were in the bf/gf stage - who with?

SmileyMily · 04/02/2011 09:54

Eve, was there a spark with supermarket man?

SmileyMily · 04/02/2011 09:56

someone mentioned a meet up in the spring, I would be very up for this and if it's down south/London and anyone wants to stay with me (Eve? Elasta?) you would be very welcome

what about 18th or 19th March?

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