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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 29)

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lilacisinlove · 29/01/2011 20:54

Too good an opportunity to miss!

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Remotew · 04/02/2011 10:29

TP I am at work so won't click on your link Confused. I think we all know about being alone in the bedroom, it is so much more fun without a snoring, farting partner.

Mily, thanks for your kind offer. It's approx £82 for a return fare to London for me so not a journey I can afford to take atm. Am planning a couple of trips away around my big birthday so finances have to be kept in check. Will make it to one of your meetups one fine day.

No spark in evidence with supermarket man but I didn't rule it out and would meet again for a night out, maybe next weekend. I get the feeling he is looking for a relationship whereas I am only interested in the occassional night out and hot sex of course, preferably with the same person. (Why does that rarely happen?)

Zanywany · 04/02/2011 10:35

Hi everyone. I'm not a regular poster but just wanted to say HI. So many of your comments ring true with me. I am finally divorced as of 3/4 weeks ago but still waiting for the financial steelement back from the court, only then can I re-morgage, pay my HX his share of the house and then the house will be in my name, yipeeee. I have been on POF but getting bloody -annoyed-- slightly peeved and one guy, I'll call him fairycake guy blowing hot and cold. Just started talking to someone else though so I'll see where that goes.

Remotew · 04/02/2011 11:39

It's Friday so looking forward to Wine tonight. Couldn't resist trying this out.

Mzdemeanourunderthemistletoe · 04/02/2011 12:04

@ Mily - sorry - haven't really posted very much lately - but have been giving it a go with Theatreman - and enjoying it muchly! In fact am probably slightly too smitten if anything though seems to be mutual.

Think it just goes to show that sometimes things are worth persisting with despite my initial reservations (eg he's still married though been separated for over a year and xw has moved on, lives a fair way away .. and is quite a bit younger - and that I had the misfortune to meet him at same time as mrbetterbeworthit who looking back was probably mrworthashagbutnotmuchmore!) ...

but things are going well - I'd say my only reservation/worry is that I'm slightly worried that he may feel he's in a bit of a repeating circle as he got together with is x when her youngest two were about the same age as mine now ... but if he's okay with it, then who am to complain ...

Remotew · 04/02/2011 13:19

Mz, glad it's going well. Can I ask if you felt the spark straight away. I've been asked out and he has all the attributes I should look for in a guy but not sure I fancy him. Now with the D2D salesman from last weekend there was no doubt I did.

What to do?

tookoolforskool · 04/02/2011 13:42

flame - sorry you are having money problems. its a shit when something goes wrong and you need a whole lot of money. Ive had to swallow my pride and ask my dad to help me out in the past.. and i do still owe him money.

went in town this moning with new friend ( more about that in a min) saw stardust, fucker just looked the other way. What a cock!!!!!!!!!!!!!! little bit pissed off about that, could have least of said hi, or done the head nod thing.

secondly. its a new friend, who is a lesbian. Of course im fine with that. First time i went in her house she showed me her room. second time she told me had pretty eyes. Now we have been in town and she was all ' lets go in ann summers' and rather a large part of the conversation was about sex. Am starting to wonder if she likes me??? She knows im straight, but the whole ann summers thing??? lol

Flame · 04/02/2011 15:11

Will try and catch up in a bit.

It will all work out. Talking to someone about students atm. Going for a week of only positivity.

Mzdemeanourunderthemistletoe · 04/02/2011 15:24

@ eve - have to say the first time wasn't really sure about the elusive 'spark' but not sure that wasn't to do with the fact that our first date was to a Shakespeare play .... and was too occupied trying to get my head round that (been a long time since I 'did' the Bard ..) - we went for a drink afterwards which went on so long that I missed the last Tube ...

The second date - definitely - I remember sitting next to him at the comedy show we went to see and wishing he would hold my hand ... made up for it later though when we went for a walk by the Thames ...

But - it's a different sort of spark from that which I felt for Mrbetterbeworthit - that was very immediate - and I'm sure based on the fact that he is a very attractive man.

Maybe it's the whole lust/attraction thing and working out what you actually want - one-off sex or a relationship? Not sure that helps really but if I were you I'd at least go for a meet as sometimes you feel very differently when you meet in the flesh so to speak. Good luck anyway - and to anyone else with dates this weekend.

Remotew · 04/02/2011 16:01

I've met this one twice and not sure. Will give it another go.

Tookool, but do you fancy her? Grin

aurorastargazer · 04/02/2011 17:34

place marking again Blush

tookoolforskool · 04/02/2011 17:37

lol. no i dont.

BeauticianNotMagician · 04/02/2011 18:44

Hi all

Completely off topic but i recieved my copy of the shred today in the post.Im going to try it tonight.Hopefully i will live to tell the tale.Just hope i'm ahem flexible enough tomorrow as DG is coming over Grin

Hatesponge · 04/02/2011 19:56

hello all....

kdk - I also didnt realise that theatreman was now bf! am v pleased for you though, even though it does reduce the number of us on the singleton sofa :)

mily - hope DD had a lovely bday weekend, and will await updates as to whether TLM produces any jewellery this weekend Grin am sure though is only a matter of time! will have my hat on standby....

eve - agree, maybe give supermarket man another try to see if the spark grows? I'm another one who expects the spark from day 1 - it was there with the X, and pretty much everyone I've ever been out with. And WM. Not that any of them turned out that well!

I had a bit of a dramatic day today. Obviously am ok now but walking DS2 to school this morning I suddenly got very severe pain in my mid back, and the centre of my chest. Couldn't breathe, got very hot and dizzy, sat down on a bench to rest, but then thought I was going to pass out so lay down on the floor :( luckily a couple of school mums were going past, and came to my assistance, called an ambulance and stayed with me til it came.

I thought I was having a heart attack, and frankly it scared the shit out of me. Remember lying on the floor thinking, surely this can't be it?

Hospital ran all tests, blood pressure, eeg etc fine, clean bill of health. Dr said I am absolutely fine, and thinks it may have been a muscle spasm, and then a panic attack. Feel a bit of a fraud tbh Blush But my friend who came to hosp said, at least you know now you're fine. Which is good :)

What was sad tho was when they asked for next of kin, and I realised I didn't have one :(

BeauticianNotMagician · 04/02/2011 20:05

Sponge Glad that you are ok.Gosh that must have been really scary.You do lead a very busy life with your long commute and everything.Perfect time to chill now and have a nice relaxing weekend.

Mzdemeanourunderthemistletoe · 04/02/2011 20:12

God Sponge - that must have been worrying - glad you've got the all-clear and your friend is right.

Re Theatreman - yes, I'm a bit surprised as well in some ways but he's proved to be a real grower! He's met my mum (well, tbh that was unexpectedly on our third date ...), met the kids and some of my friends ... and still around.

Me being a worrier, I'm concerned that a) he thinks I'm wonderful and I'm so not and b) that he will come to his senses and think what the hell is he doing getting involved with a woman with kids again but trying to just stop worrying and enjoy it and take it day by day ...

We had a day out together on Wednesday as he is having to use up holiday .. went to Oxford and had a walk by the river - we planned to go to his mum's for a cup of tea but got sidetracked and ended up at his ... and being a nice guy he's bought my mum chocolates to say thank you for doing the school run.

Hatesponge · 04/02/2011 20:13

Beaut, I am lying on the sofa snuggled under a quilt, MNing/watching TV (relocation down under, australia looks so lovely, could be tempted but for the massive spiders!) - and have awarded myself a medicinal packet of crisps (low fat lol) after today's dramas! Will be having a v chilled weekend.

and don't you be overdoing it on the Shred!

Hatesponge · 04/02/2011 20:18

kdk - you are wonderful so he certainly should think so too! Honestly, I wish I had half your wit :)

And yes, take it day by day, and enjoy it, honestly with my drama today I was lying there thinking that life's too short to overanalyse (coming from me, the queen of overanalysis, that's quite a big deal!)

sincitylover · 04/02/2011 20:22

omg sponge you poor thing - do you think you moved awkwardly and pulled a muscle then panicked. I suppose its reassuring to know that you have a clean bill of health but not a very nice way to find out.

MILY - sounds promising re the jewellry

Mz - yay - very pleased for you

Lou - sorry to hear about further appliance malfunction

Flame - Im always teetering on the brink with money - it's shit isn't it? I don't think I have anything left to sell tbh. Before Xmas I even sold my wedding ring for peanuts.

TK - sounds like she fancies you.

BNM - sorry about the EDL march spoiling your plans - what alot of nobbers they are

Eve - some are slow burners

nothing much to report here really - have got a cold and seem very tired atm.

Just waiting for warm weather :)

Mzdemeanourunderthemistletoe · 04/02/2011 20:32

I so know what you mean - though luckily am not the only one as he's a bit of an analyser as well ...

But on the plus side, he's a lovely funny generous man and I'm having more fun than I have in a long long time ... although finding the switch between being mum and being gf a bit difficult/jarring at times but suppose that's something that goes with the territory ...

Very odd as a few months ago, was thinking of packing the whole dating thing in as was so fed up with weirdoes/munters/players/idiots etc so feel very lucky and that firstly you have to give things a chance eg go on dates to make sure and that you never know what's round the corner ...

lou33 · 04/02/2011 21:25

good evening

sponge i was reading your post and immediately thought it sounded like a muscle spasm, i get that kind of thing a lot from having to lift ds2 and his wheelchair about daily ( one at a time obviously)

if you dont have any muscle relaxant type relief, such as diazepam, keep dosed up on ibuprofen and try keeping heat on the area

it must have been v scary for you, not having experienced it before

the good news chez lou is i bought a new vacuum cleaner which is bloody fantastic, i didnt realise how crap my old one was until i used this one

it has made hoovering an easy job rather than one which leaves me sweating and needing my inhaler from all the dust the old one threw back into the air, and it has no trouble picking up the dog hairs ( i used to get on my hands and knees to clean the rug in my living room with the old one)

and it was a bargain at 35 quid, down from 50

ds1 is slowly feeling less sore from his recently dislocated shoulder, an xray showed it all seemed to be back in place properly, so on tues when i take him back to the gp, she will refer him for physio to strengthen the ligaments, to try and minimise it happening again (though ime, as i have the same thing with my joints, once its gone its never the same again, but still good to try and reduce the chances of a repeat)

i emailed his head of year about it, the one who i have crossed swords with in the past, and who summoned me to a meeting when he was off with the norovirus), and her reply was surprisingly nice and understanding

she has informed his teachers about his joint problem and will be putting him in a medical register, and also said they will be putting him on the sen register for his medical needs, so if it happens again in future they will be aware and able to support him and recognise his needs

this week has not dragged as much as the last 2 either

adamschic · 04/02/2011 23:55

Testing!

aurorastargazer · 04/02/2011 23:56

yay!!! lol

aurorastargazer · 05/02/2011 00:00

gawd sponge hope you're feeling better ?

aurorastargazer · 05/02/2011 00:01

barrrrrrrr anyone

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